Sexuality is effing weird, okay? There are a lot of labels, a lot of feelings that don’t exactly fit in with those labels, and a lot of labels that don’t always strictly adhere to your feelings. Sexuality is fickle, and even though you don’t have to adhere to a label there’s nothing wrong with identifying with one either.
But that’s a lot easier said than done when you think you might be bisexual, or you’re bisexual and struggling to figure out your ideal relationship status. Here are 7 reader comments and questions about bisexuality that we’ve answered to the best of our ability.
...What would you need help with? Okay, so he's bi. You need to embrace it because there's nothing you can really do about that. Otherwise, break up with him so that somebody who accepts him for who he is can date him. From My Boyfriend Is Bi And I’m Confused Source: Shutterstock Only you can know if you feel comfortable identifying as a bisexual or a lesbian, but either identification will, apparently, accompany some seriously troubling reactions from your family and friends. If your friends don't want to be around you anymore just because you're not straight, they're not your real friends. Period. Friends don't abandon people like that. If you tell anyone, definitely tell someone you can trust. You can tell your family in your own time, but having someone else who is there for you will make all the difference in the world. Consider talking to an open minded school counselor. That might be a good first step in the right direction. From Could You Be Bi? Source: Shutterstock Sure, you might be bi and if you are it's so important to have a support system. A lot of my friends who have been in your position have found a lot of support online by blogging about their confusion and feelings, especially when they don't have any friends IRL who truly understand. Consider that. I know for a fact that Tumblr is great for that kind of support. Otherwise, hop on Google and find a local LGBT organization in your area. You could meet a ton of new friends that way, too. From Could You Be Bi? Source: Shutterstock It would be fair of him to be disappointed, but I hope that he doesn't think of this as some sort of "side-effect" of dating someone who is bisexual. That would be ridiculously unfair of him. Cheating happens in all sorts of relationships, straight, bi, pan, etc. You did make a mistake, but I hope that you don't feel ashamed or uncomfortable with your sexual identity because of it. From From The Message Boards: I Cheated, And Now I Don’t Know What To Do Source: Shutterstock First you need to figure out what will the the cost of ending your current relationship. Is your affection for this other girl worth ending things? If so, a break up might be the only fair way to go, but it might be a little messy, especially if you still want to maintain a friendship. Weigh the pros and the cons and make sure your feelings for this other girl are more than just lust. From Could You Be Bi? Source: Shutterstock It's okay if you don't know yet! Only you'l know when it's right for you to identify as bi or pan or anything else. The problem is that you're getting too ahead of yourself. You're already thinking about the possibility of not liking her and you're not even sure how much you like her yet! First, ask yourself this: Do you feel the same way for her that you would with any other crush you might have had on guys in the past? If so, you might not be all that straight. So would it be leading her on if you had these sincere feelings for her and wanted to act upon them? I don't think so, personally. Hang out with her more one-on-one and see how you feel. You could just have a lot of affection for her in a way that isn't romantic or sexual, but you'll never even consider that if you're already getting caught up in hurting her feelings in some made up scenario! By the way, it's so important that you have potential support if you do realize that you're not straight, though. You're lucky because so many other girls, unfortunately, can't say that. From Could You Be Bi? Source: Shutterstock This is so important. Thanks for sharing that. From Am I A Lesbian? How Do I Know If I’m Gay Or Bisexual? Source: Shutterstock
Have you struggled with figuring out your sexuality lately? Do you think that it’s important to identify with a label? Tell us in the comments!