A lot of times, studies are silly and don’t tell us much. But this recent survey found on USA Today has revealed something that is surprisingly accurate. The survey looked at over 2,000 adults and found that the majority of young adults out there are super confused as to whether they’re actually on a date… or just casually hanging out with someone they like. In a culture where formal dates really aren’t a thing anymore, and you do most of your talking via computers, this isn’t surprising at all.
I’m sure you’ve been in this situation: the dude you’ve been crushing on asks you to hang out, but instead of doing something traditional (like dinner and a movie), you sit on his couch and watch a movie off of Netflix. A few of these “dates” (maybe?) later, and you officially have no idea what’s going on. Are you actually dating? Or are you just casually hooking up? How are you supposed to know for sure?!
Well, besides flat out asking (which is obviously the best way to figure it out), there are some signs you can look out for. Here are 10 signs you’re dating and not just hooking up. Of course you don’t have to check off every single one of these things, but if the majority are true for you… looks like you’ve got yourself a boyfriend!
You Talk Every Day On A Regular BasisIf a few weeks have gone by and you've realized that you've been talking to this dude every single day - for more than five minutes at a time! - that's a good sign that you're dating. A guy isn't going to waste his time having conversations with you if he doesn't care about you. Source: ShutterStock
You Talk On The Phone Instead of Just TextingA big sign that you're dating is that you actually talk on the phone rather than just sending short text messages. I can always tell my brother is serious about a girl when he starts having hour-long conversations with her on the phone. And I personally knew things were getting real with my boyfriend and I when I felt comfortable calling him rather than always sending texts. Source: ShutterStock
He Didn't Try To Immediately Make A MoveYes, there are some relationships out there that happen after sex on a first date. But a lot of guys will wait to make a move when they really like a girl, because they want to show her how serious they are about the whole thing. If you're dating, your relationship isn't all about hooking up - it's also about hanging out and getting to know each other, going places in public and just generally bonding. And he'll make sure of that. Source: ShutterStock
He's Brought You Around His FriendsIf your guy brings you around his friends after a few dates, that's an indication that things are more serious than just casually hanging out. I always know when my guy friends are legit dating a girl because when they are, they start bringing her around and introducing her to everyone. When I first met my boyfriend, he was super excited to introduce me to his friends on our third date. If the guy doesn't seem like he wants you to hang out with him and his buddies, or even meet them, that could mean it's because he only sees your fling as totally casual. Source: ShutterStock
He Makes It A Point Not To Talk About Other GirlsIf whatever's going on between you two is just casual, the guy will not hesitate to talk about other girls. Whether he's saying a random girl is hot or blatantly talking about hanging out with other ladies, it's not a good sign. When my BF and I first met, he was even scared to tell me he thought Mila Kunis was cute. See what I mean? Source: ShutterStock
You Guys Go Out Together Instead Of Just Hanging In A HouseIf he takes you out on dates in public places, that's a big sign that you're dating. If he just calls you at 9 PM and asks if you want to come over to watch a movie, then immediately tries to get in your pants? He only wants things to be casual. If he plans a date with you a few days in advance to go see a movie or get something to eat, he wants to date you. Source: ShutterStock
You've Met His Family MembersIf he's introduced you to his parents and siblings, that's almost a guarantee that you're dating - especially if you've had dinner with them or something like that. No guy, or girl, is going to introduce a random hookup to their family with any kind of importance. And it doesn't count if it's just him pulling you through the living room saying, "Mom this is Jess, Jess mom, bye." Source: ShutterStock
There's PDA HappeningPDA almost only happens when you're legit dating. A guy isn't going to go out in public and hug and kiss and act cute with a girl he only sees as a hookup. If he reaches to hold your hand while you're walking or kisses you in front of everyone, that's a pretty good sign that he's dating you. Source: ShutterStock
You've Had At Least One Day DateI hate to tell you this, but if you only hang out with this dude under the covers after 9 PM at night in a dark bedroom... you're probably not dating. If you've had at leas tone day date, where you've hung out when the sun is still shining... you're probably dating. Day dates are pretty legit. Source: ShutterStock
You Know More About Him Than Just Basic StuffIf he's confiding in you and telling you secrets about him or spilling about his dreams, it probably means you're dating. Yeah, a random hookup might spill on his life story after a steamy sex session, but if a dude is voluntarily talking to you about this stuff a lot, not only after hooking up, it means he's trying to bond and make a deeper connection. Source: ShutterStock
Are you confused about whether or not you’re dating someone right now? What other signs are there? Tell me in the comments.