When it comes to dating, I personally think it’s good for everyone to have a few deal breakers. You need to know what you want and don’t want, and deal breakers are a part of what you don’t want in a relationship. There’s nothing wrong with calling things off because a guy or girl doesn’t meet a few expectations that are really important to you.
However, there is something wrong with calling things off with someone because they did one thing wrong – or, worse, because they don’t live up to an unrealistic expectation that you may have. Maybe it’s just me, but I really believe in giving people second chances. Deal breakers are important to some people, but there are some that you need to get rid of. Remember: one is perfect, yourself included. Getting rid of someone because of one of these things could mean missing out on what could be a really great relationship. Don’t let that happen to you… avoid these 10 dating deal breakers:
A Height DifferenceI hear a lot of girls say things like, "I would never date a guy who's shorter than me." That's just silly, not to mention mean. No one can control their height and their height also doesn't determine what kind of person they are. Don't count someone out just because he may be shorter than you - that's so shallow and unfair. Source: ShutterStock
If They Mess Up One TimeLook, no one is perfect. People are going to mess up once in a while. The person you're dating or want to date might do the wrong thing once, whether it's something little like bailing on a date at the last minute or something bigger like not being there for you when you needed them. If they do this sort of thing a lot, that's a deal breaker. But if it happens once and that person is sincerely apologetic, and you think you can move past it, let it go. Forgiveness is a good thing sometimes. Source: ShutterStock
If They Don't Do Great In SchoolA lot of times, you'll hear a description for a perfect guy or girl, and that description usually involves someone who's smart. And, yeah, you should want to date someone who's intelligent - but I've found that intelligence isn't always best measured by school work. My boyfriend didn't go to college because he doesn't love school - he also works with his hands and doesn't really need a degree for the type of job he wants. When I tell people that, sometimes they get snobby about it and that really annoys me. Just because someone didn't go to college or doesn't get straight A's doesn't mean they're not worth dating. Source: ShutterStock
An Age DifferenceThere's nothing wrong with dating someone younger than you (or older than you, although that doesn't have as much of a stigma attached to it). Unless the age difference is illegal, like in the case of statutory rape, it's okay. Again, my boyfriend is younger than me, and some people make fun of me for that. I really don't care, Those people are lame. Date who you like! Beyonce and Jay-Z are 12 years apart and they're fabulous together. Source: Instagram
If They Don't Get Along With All Of Your FriendsRemember when the Spice Girls sang, "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends?" Yeah, they were wrong. It's a huge perk when your boyfriend gets along really well with your friends, but it's not necessary. As long as they don't totally hate each other because he's a jerk, it's fine. What really matters is how you feel about him. Source: ShutterStock
If They Lie OnceA guy who lies to you all the time is a loser. A guy who lies to you once and then feels badly about it? Different story. We all lie once in a while. If you catch him in a small lie and he feels bad and promises not to do it anymore, consider giving him another chance. Source: ShutterStock
A Long Distance Between You TwoI know a lot of people don't believe in long-distance relationships, but I also know a lot of people who make them work. One of my cousins is in one and has been for a few years and she has an amazing relationship with her boyfriend. Don't take a long distance to automatically mean things are over between you two. If you really care about each other, it may be worth it to give it a chance. Source: ShutterStock
If You're Not 'Supposed' To Be Together For Some ReasonMaybe your parents don't get along. Maybe he's a different race and your family is racist, but you're not. Maybe your dad is his coach, like in the case of Matt and Julie from Friday Night Lights. Whatever it is, you shouldn't always make outside circumstances a total deal breaker. Look at Romeo and Juliet! Well, maybe not the best example, but you know what I mean.
If Someone Doesn't Look Exactly The Way You Want Them ToI know, I know... Zac Efron is really hot and you want your boyfriend to look just like him. Or whatever celebrity you're into. But chances are, your potential partner isn't going to look like that. Accept it. Deal with it. Flaws are human and they're usually special. Source: ShutterStock
If Your Relationship Isn't 'Perfect'A perfect relationship doesn't exist. It just doesn't. Stop looking for it. It will never happen.
Have you ever ended things with someone over one of these dating deal breakers? Would you ever? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.