I just started dating this guy and we’ve recently started fooling around. We’ve had sex a few times and it’s cool, but the problem is, I’m so freaked out about getting pregnant that I can’t just let myself have a good time! Can you pregnant if he finishes near your vagina but not in? Can you pregnant if you have your period? I have so many questions, help!
Believe it or not, this is definitely not the first time I have heard this same panicky question. It seems like every girl out there is afraid of getting pregnant, whether she’s having sex or just coming really close to doing the deed. I’ve been there myself. The threat of an unwanted pregnancy looming over your head really can mess things up, even if you’re being careful.
So, to make sure you and every other girl out there has the right information, let’s go through a few different scenarios to answer the ever-changing question, “Can you get pregnant if…” And don’t laugh – these are all questions I have heard before from one of you.
Can You Get Pregnant If He Finishes On His Hand Then Fingers You?Yes. If he finishes on his hand and there is still some left on his fingers when he fingers you, you can get pregnant. It doesn't matter how semen gets to your down-there area - as long as it gets there. Make sure he washes his hands thoroughly before he puts them inside of you. Source: ShutterStock
Can You Get Pregnant If You're Fooling Around In Underwear/Clothes?No. Unless there is a hole in both of your clothing and some weird miracle happens, you can't get pregnant from dry humping. Semen cannot travel through clothing. Source: ShutterStock
Can You Get Pregnant If There Is Semen Near Your Vagina But Not In It?Yes. A lot of people assume that semen dies the second it hits the air, but that's not true. Semen can live in the air for up to a few hours. If he finishes on your thigh or on your vagina but not in it or on your lower stomach, it's totally possible that the semen will somehow get down there. Of course, it's more difficult than if he finished inside of you, but it can still happen! You're probably safe if he finishes on your chest or face or arms or something, as long as you're not contorting your body. Source: ShutterStock
Can You Get Pregnant If He Pulls Out?Yes. Pulling out is not a successful method of birth control. Never has been, never will be. That's because of a thing called pre-cum or pre-ejaculation. This is a small amount of fluid that comes out of his penis when he's aroused. It doesn't always have sperm in it, but it can and it can get you pregnant. Also, when a dude is pulling out, it's easy for him to mess up and accidentally get some in there. Just don't do it. Source: ShutterStock
Can You Get Pregnant If You Forget To Take Your Pill One Day?Yes. It depends on where you are in your cycle and what kind birth control pill you're taking, but it's possible. It's not like you'll DEFINITELY get pregnant, but it is possible. If you forget to take your pill one day, take it as soon as you remember and use extra birth control to be on the safe side for the rest of the month. Source: ShutterStock
Can You Get Pregnant If You Have Your Period?Yes. A lot of people think that women cannot get pregnant when they have their period, but that's just a myth. It depends on ovulation, but it's totally possible. Source: ShutterStock
Can You Get Pregnant If You're On The Pill & Don't Use A Condom?Yes. The Pill is not perfect - it is not 100 percent effective in preventing pregnancy. If you use it perfectly (by that I mean same time every day, no matter what), it is about 99 percent effective. If you don't use it perfectly, it drops to about 92 percent effective. Either way, there is still a slight chance. And the Pill doesn't prevent against STDs or STIs! Source: ShutterStock
Can You Get Pregnant If You're On Top?Yes. In high school, I heard from more than one person that you can't get pregnant if you have girl-on-top sex because the semen won't really go in your vagina because of the way you're both positioned. Um... no. Semen can swim in any direction. Those little suckers can get up there. Source: ShutterStock
Can You Get Pregnant From Oral Sex?No. A lot of girls get worried that if they swallow anything, they will somehow get pregnant. Don't worry - sperm can't travel from your mouth all the way down there to where they need to be. Source: ShutterStock
Can You Get Pregnant From Anal Sex?Yes. For some reason, a lot of people assume that anal sex means you don't need to use a condom. So not true! If he ejaculates close enough to the vaginal area, the sperm can definitely travel in there and get you pregnant. Plus, that is such a sensitive area - if anything, you need to be more careful! Source: ShutterStock
Are there a lot of possible ways to get pregnant? Yes. Does that mean you can’t prevent it? No. As long as you’re careful and use the right measures of birth control, you should be okay. I recommend using two: a condom and either the birth control pill or the shot or an IUD. Don’t let semen get near your vagina and you should be okay! Hopefully, the answers to these questions made you feel a little better. Now, be careful, relax and enjoy your sexy times!
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