Body positivity is a lot easier said than done. We’ve been socialized to be so critical of ourselves that our insecurities tend to spiral out of control. We’re convinced that someone is actually paying attention to the hair on our knuckles or is disgusted by our crop top bearing a stomach that definitely doesn’t boast rock hard abs.
We’re bombarded with crap that makes us feel insecure about our bodies, even when we know how many of the images we see are Photoshopped or otherwise exaggerated. But that doesn’t stop us from feeling like we wish we were as skinny as one of our friends or didn’t have as many breakouts.
Here’s the thing though: It’s exhausting to hate the way we look. We’ll never be 100 percent satisfied with our appearance, but it’s important that we find little ways to stop hating ourselves so much. That’s why you should follow these 14 body image resolutions that you should follow in 2014. Baby steps, girls. Baby steps!
Get Rid Of The Clothes That Don’t Fit You AnymoreThis is a good rule of thumb for anyone, but this is especially helpful for those of you who have gained weight after recovering from an eating disorder. Instead of wishing you could fit into your favorite skirt from your pre-recovery days, try to go shopping with someone you trust and search for some new clothes that fit your new body. Not being able to wear your old clothes is a positive sign that you’re healing, so it’s time to move on and donate your old clothes. Source: Clueless/Paramount Pictures
Notice Something You Like About Yourself Every DaySo you don’t like your breasts or your hips, but maybe you think your legs are amazing or you love your eyes. Find something that you like about yourself flaunt it in a way that makes you feel happy and confident. Source: My Mad Fat Diary/E4
So You Scarfed Down A Couple Of Brownies…Stop Mulling Over ItA recent study has shown that two-thirds of 13-year-old girls are afraid of gaining weight. So many of us have been there, which is really effing sad. We start kicking ourselves for eating something “bad” like cookies or chips…which is only fair to a point. Look, I know that some foods definitely aren’t all that healthy and have some shocking calorie counts, but here’s the deal: What happened happened. You can’t Ctrl+Z your life, and food is no exception. You aren’t a bad person or a disgusting sack of crap because you ate a few cookies. Relax. Source: Shutterstock
Don’t Give In To Destructive TemptationsAs tempting as you might find it to follow thinspiration blogs, try to cut it out. Block the sites if you have to. This is just going to make you feel worse about yourself and delay your progress. Source: Skins/E4
Don’t Buy Something That Is Too Small In Hopes That You’ll Be Able To Fit Into It Some DayI’ve definitely been guilty of this and it is one of the dumbest things you can do. This might be a good motivator for some people to lose weight, but it’s a pretty foolish one. You're pretty much wasting money on a hopeful thought. The reality is that most people don’t maintain the motivation to drop the pounds, at least not as quickly as they might like, no matter how good their intentions are. And who knows? Maybe by the time you can wiggle into that dress you won’t even care for it anymore. Source: Mean Girls/Paramount Pictures
Stop Body ShamingStop assuming that everyone who is overweight only eats junk food. Quit telling skinny chicks to eat a burger. Honestly, just mind your own business and stop hating on other people’s bodies! Source: Skins/E4
If You Want To Make A Change, Be Smart About ItIf you want to get more fit, do so in a safe way! Don’t depend on laxatives or over exercising or crash dieting to do the work for you. Don’t eat just because you’re bored, portion your meals better, eat less processed foods and exercise. That’s it. Easier said than done, but that’s the safest way to go about it. Source: Shutterstock
Don’t Sell Yourself ShortDon’t restrict yourself from wearing a bathing suit or from approaching someone you’re attracted to. Besides, if you’re hanging out with people who are going to give you BS for the body you have, you need some better friends. And if some guy or girl is going to discredit your beauty just because of some zits, you deserve way better. Source: Some Girls/BBC
Know That You’re Not Alone…SeriouslyYou aren’t some freak of nature because you have hair around your nipples or have stretch marks along your side. You might feel alone but trust me, you’re not. I can assure you that every single one of your friends has witnessed a boob hair on their person or has some stretch marks that they aren’t very fond of. And if they deny it, well, they’re lying. Source: TheFashionSpot.com
Talk To SomeoneFor some people, body image issues can spiral out of control and lead to eating disorders, body dysmorphia, depression and other mental issues. If you’re afraid that your preoccupation with your body image is leading to some questionable and unhealthy decisions, please tell someone that you trust. This is in no way an instant cure, but you’d be surprised by the weight that will be lifted off of you once you open up. This could even lead to you speaking to a professional who can help you out. Source: Wish Upon A Star/Disney
If Makeup Makes You Feel More Beautiful, Don’t Deny YourselfThere’s no point in denying the fact that makeup can go hand in hand in perpetuating feelings of negative body imagery. Women are sometimes mocked or derided for not wearing makeup to cover up their imperfections, as if it’s a sin to walk around with a zit and under eye bags. But it’s important to know that makeup can often be a positive motivator in making us feel happier about ourselves. Makeup can often accentuate parts of ourselves that are already awesome. I love having big lips and I love the way lipstick highlights them. My brown eyes can be hidden behind my glasses, so sometimes it is fun to bring them into the spotlight with some eye makeup. My high cheekbones can get a little extra love with blush or highlighter. See? It’s not always about covering up. Sometimes it’s about building up! Source: Who Are You Polly Magoo?/RO
'Treat Yo Self!'Is your hair feeling icky and dry? Instead of hating your hair with every fibre of your being, whip up a DIY deep conditioner and treat your hair to a little TLC? Don’t hesitate to treat yourself, girl. Paint your nails, play around in makeup, cook something you’ve wanted to cook for a while and don’t worry about the calorie count. Just do it. Source: Parks and Rec/NBC
Stop Asking If You Look Fat In SomethingFirst of all, it treats looking slightly larger than average as the worst thing imaginable, which is just straight up insulting to the many people on this planet who are overweight. They get enough BS from this world of ours that decides that they’re disgusting and grotesque due to who they are, so the last thing that they need is you adding to the stigma. Plus, stop seeking validation in others like this. You want the answer to be “no" either way, so what’s the point of even asking someone for their opinion? Source: Shutterstock
Remember That You’re HumanNo matter how many affirmations we make in the mirror about ourselves, and no matter how much we grow to love the aspects of our bodies that we used to hate and feel self-conscious about…nobody is perfect. You won’t be happy about the way you look every single day of your life now that you’ve decided not to hate yourself as much. You just won’t. And that’s okay and that’s normal. Some days are better than others, but as long as we find a way to get back on track and brush off those little insecurities, that’s a step in the right direction. Source: That's So Raven/Disney
What do you do to get a boost of confidence about your body? What have you tried that doesn’t really work? Tell us in the comments!