But what if you’re in a new relationship? Is it worth it to go long distance if you haven’t been dating for that long? That’s what you’re talking about on the message boards this week!
Let’s see what y’all had to say:
“I have been dating my current college boyfriend for under 2 months, and soon I will be separated from him for up to 8 months. (I’m going abroad and then for the summer he lives on the other side of the country) I know I’m not in love with him, but he really is perfect. We click in a way I never expected to with any guy, but we’re young and still living college life. So do you all think we should break up for the next 8 months? Break up completely? Stay together and just tell each other we’ll be honest if we find somebody else?”
“I think stay together and just tell each other if you find somebody else. Maybe long distance will work out, you’ll never know unless you try.”
“I think that you could certainly give it a chance with your beau. Sit him down and explain any fears/concerns you have about having a LDR. You two can work together and talk about it. I found it was easiest to make a schedule. If you both have Saturday nights free, for example, set aside a weekly Skype session time. That way, you just know that you have a certain time to talk, and there isn’t as much pressure about how to keep in touch. You may find that the distance makes you stronger as a couple, or you could start to notice some differences. Be sure that no matter what, you stay happy.”
“This happened to me with my current boyfriend. We got together then like 2 weeks afterwards I had to move back home, which is like five hours away. I say give it a go. LDRs are hard though. I particularly find it difficult when you see other couples together, and you’re just like why can’t I have that? But if you find a way to keep in regular contact then it definitely can work.”
Long distance relationships are really tricky, especially with new relationships. I think they definitely can be successful and sometimes LDRs are easier than regular ones. About two years ago, I started dating a friend of mine during the summer. We went to different colleges and decided that even though our relationship was new, we should try long distance.
It didn’t work out. However, it didn’t work because of the distance. We actually saw each other a lot for being so far apart. We just weren’t right for each other. I think if we really wanted to stay together we would have.
If you want to stay together, I say give it a shot. It may not work out, but I think not trying is worse because you’ll always wonder “What if?” So give it a chance and see what happens! And if it doesn’t work out, you’ll meet someone else who will be around!
Have you ever done long distance with a new relationship? Have you ever done long distance at all? Did it work out? Tell us in the comments!
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