8 Tips On What To Do If He Doesn’t Call or Text You Back

When it comes to dating, one of the most frustrating things ever has to be when you’re talking to a dude – and out of nowhere, he stops answering your texts. Or, he says he’ll call and he doesn’t. Basically, whenever he doesn’t call or text you back can drive you CRAZY. Ugh.

In these situations, it can be tough to figure out what to do. The hopeful part of your brain wants to believe something happened, like his phone died or he’s really, really busy with other stuff or maybe your phone is broken and the text just didn’t go through. Then there’s that miserable part of your brain that is imagining the absolute worst. So how do you deal? What do you do? Well, for starters, read these tips. They’ll help, I promise.

Have you ever been in this situation? How did you react? What do you do when a guy doesn’t answer you? Tell us in the comments.


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  • Trac

    So, after dating this guy for over 4 months and seeing each other regularly even though we live an hour away from each other, he all of a sudden stops answering my calls and texts. From ” I Love you” to absolute silence. Then, after 5 days of no contact he texts out of the blue, ” I just want you to know its not you. I will be getting with you” and here we are another week later with nothing. My concern is that I am not a mean person, He has his phone on my account and the bill is due this week, do I pay the bill and disconnect his phone?

  • wisereverday4life

    You know ladies, it does hurt like heck when you’ve opened up and been honest about your feelings. I do know this. Do not keep calling or texting. It is making you work too hard. I haven’t and I feel better already. There is that emptiness because you thought you had a truelove. But at least I’m not putting in the effort he is not giving me. In previous situations I was over reaching out regardless. I’ve grown some self worth and dignity enough to know that if you don”t reach for me ,why should I break my neck reaching for you.?

  • Abbyli

    i dated this guy 2 times and we got intimate(no penetrated sex). He said he likes me. I sent him a message but replied after 2 days with sorry for late reply. Is this means hes not interestex anymore?i replied the next day with good morning. Ur super late reply is now forgiven. Just trying to ne casual. I felt miserable in those days he didnt contact me but when i was trying to be ok. When i was ok he sent that message. He is 35 and im 29.any advice?

  • Courtney

    My boyfriend and I just got together about a week ago. We have been taking for months. We live about 3 hours apart. On weekends all I want to do is Face Time him, but he doesn’t always text me back. I don’t know what i should do!

  • Tan

    Everything is almost easier said than done isn’t it. I haven’t been able to get in touch with my boyfriend for about 3 days and the last text i got from him was telling me he just woke up from his nap. The reception was really bad and i ended up getting his text an hour later but that’s just what we do. We don’t text all the time every minute of every hour. Sometimes our text are like in intervals of 5 minutes to an hour but this time after i replied he didn’t text me back.

    I know for a fact that sometimes his phone’s OS just hangs and gets stuck but usually that’s only for a day or so. I try not to be desperate and wait for his reply. I texted him casually asking about his day and sharing things like I usually do. I want to believe that something came up and he’s just busy but it just hurts.

    Sometimes i want to ask our friends so badly if something was up and he’s just too busy but i don’t think its right and I know he won’t like that too. As much as I try to act normal despite having this dead silence between us, I can’t help but feel so hurt as if I’ve done something so bad to offend him.

  • chou

    Hi..i have a problem plz help me out..i have a deep crush 4 a married man..we c each other casually n i have told him i would like 2 go out wid him..he said zat we can only enjoy wat doea zat really mean???n now whn i txt or call him he does not react??? Wat to do???its drivingme crazy

    • Amy

      That clearly means he will get into your pants but that’s all he wants from you.

  • 陳寶瑩

    this is how I do everytime… making myself a little bit overacted. I don’t know why I always ended up as the person to apologize even if I was not at fault. We are in a distance relationship and I didn’t ask him more than take spare time to talk with me and at least give me a reply on my messages, however he argues that love is just a small thing.. there are other important things to do, it is based on souls, just keeping in heart, don’t need to reveal it, don’t ask for any returns. If you want it, you get it(this makes me feel like love is to buy and sell). If you abolish it, it is gone. Moreover, every single time, it is me who gives him a message first… he never does. Sometimes I feel very tired, but I can’t make it to end this relationship… it’s too hard.

  • Mary Smith

    What dovyou do if you gave a guy your number at work and he say he’s going to call and he don’t whatvand how am I suppose to act to him

    • Cheryl Lange

      Mary, if you gave a guy at work your number and he didn’t call, don’t show any signs at all that it bothers you. Just casually say hello and don’t add any extras to it whenever you see him. In other words, don’t ask him why he didn’t call, don’t show interest in him and certainly do not chase him. Go to work, looking as cute as you can be. Look happy and carry on. Whether he calls you or not, you must do this. But if he us interested, this will certainly lead to him pursuing you. Good luck with that, sweety.

  • claudia berk

    I have been seeing this guy for about 5 months now. He made it very clear that he really likes me a lot on numerous of occasions.. He was into me way more then i was into him. Couple of days ago we had a small argument. And i have not heard from him for 15 days now. I called him couple of times, emailed me.. but no respond. I m ok with the fact if he doesn’t want to talk to me but atleast have the nerves to say that to my face or phone. Why do guys do that? I really hope someone can answer this for me. How can you just turn it off? I m a little disappointed/confused and was really sad for few days but as time goes by its getting better..

  • The first tip is so important, DO NOT send a million texts asking why he hasn’t answered. A friend of mine wrote a how-to with some ideas as to why he hasn’t answered (you can check it out here: https://omghow.com/articles/not-get-nervous-when-your-crush-doesn-t-text-you-back) but remaining calm and following the tips in this gurl article are so helpful. Keeping it casual is so important.

    Kindness is the best accessory,


    Dear girls,

    If a guy doesn’t respond to you, if he makes you ache, a mistake can be trying. Don’t try to fix it, don’t try to make sense of it, you have to treat and feel about him casually. When you start putting your feelings into it, you will only get hurt, put your guard up, don’t be easily moved. Don’t get expectations of him.

    If you have made the mistake of getting into him, or let curiosity go into interest before he’s drop dead into you, before you contact him, have a one night stand and get him out of your system. Or give yourself time away from him and forget him. Then talk to him, because if he’s starting to treat you casually, either you need to be at the stage to treat him casually back or forget him.



    I have guy we spent almost 8 months with him bt we had sex for several times with him , bt what really happened we had sex on friday last week bt those days he longer calls when i send a text he doesnt text back ineed help from people please help what should i do please before i do anything wrong advise please

  • Rosalintha

    This is happening to me right now I met a guy he took me his house then he wanted sex then I refused so he took me out to eat now he suddenly stopped responding to my messages

  • Ella

    I totally relate to this article and I think it will help me. Back in August, I was hanging with one of my guy friends at his college an hour away from mine. Me and one of his friends seem to hit it off and talked ever since. I made a rash decision and slept with him though, but we hung out almost ever free weekend he had. (He usually asks me to come up to his college.) We hung out this weekend and it was fun. He said he missed hanging out with me. Buttt, now a few days after, he hasn’t really been texting me. Twice, he went to bed saying “I’ll text you in the morning, sweet dreams.” but he won’t text me in the morning? Is that some way of blowing me off and not wanting me to text him first.. or at all? I fell for him and at first I didn’t want to because I always end up hurt but I thought he would be different so I fell and now I’m unsure whether he will catch me. Advice would be good.