I’m quite a big girl and am overweight. I never really let this bother me until someone told me that I will never find a boyfriend. I’ve tried dieting before and doing a lot of exercise but it never seems to work. Will I find a boyfriend? What do I do? Thanks.
Oh no! I’m so sorry someone told you that you would never find a boyfriend because of your weight. That’s a really rude and insensitive thing to say and it’s also not true. Your weight will not prevent you from finding the right person who cares about you and loves you for you.
Every guy out there has different preferences when it comes to women that they like – just like every girl has different preferences when it comes to physical attraction. That’s normal and there’s nothing you can do about that. Truthfully, there are some guys out there who have a preference about weight – but there are also guys out there who don’t care or who might prefer “bigger” girls. You’re never going to please everybody, no matter how much you weigh or what you look like, so please don’t think that losing weight will make that happen.
You should never try to lose weight or change what you look like to try to make other people happy or to try to find a boyfriend. If you want to lose weight, okay – but do it for YOU, not for anyone else. Dieting and exercise to lose weight takes a lot of work and effort and it doesn’t come easily to everyone. Don’t do that if you’re just doing it because you’re hoping it will find you a boyfriend. If you lose 20 pounds, a guy isn’t going to suddenly decide he wants to date you – and if he does, he’s so not worth your time.
If you really want to lose weight for yourself, talk to a doctor about your options. I don’t know what you look like or what you weigh, so I don’t feel comfortable giving you recommendations.
If you stay at your current weight, please don’t feel like you will never meet someone. As long as you are confident and show off your personality and everything that is unique about you, you’ll find someone who likes you. Don’t let one person’s comment make you feel badly about something you never worried about before.
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