I have an active sex life with a guy I’ve been dating for a while and I really want to start using birth control pills, but I’m scared to tell my mom about it. I don’t want to talk to her about having sex and I feel really awkward asking her to help me get the pills. But I don’t know how to get them without her – I’m under her insurance so if I go to the gynecologist, she’ll know and she’ll ask about it. I don’t know what to do. How can I go on birth control without telling my parents?
That’s great that you want to start using birth control pills! Safe sex is really important, as I’m sure you know. Plus, birth controls don’t only help prevent pregnancy – they have a whole bunch of benefits, from getting rid of unwanted acne to making PMS symptoms less severe to making your period more regular. I think it’s great that you’re thinking ahead and being safe.
Now, to answer your question: yes, it is possible to go on birth control without telling your parents. I don’t recommend lying to your mom or dad, but this is your body and you have the right to do what you feel is necessary. Going on birth control pills should be your decision. If you’re afraid to make an appointment with a gynecologist because you think your parents will find out, then you need to find the closest clinic, like a Planned Parenthood (you can find locations right here).
In order to get your hands on birth control pills, you need to have a prescription. You can only get that from a doctor, whether it’s a private physician or someone from the clinic. At Planned Parenthood, you can find a doctor who will treat you without going through your insurance, so your parents won’t find out. Once you have an exam (which can be pricey without insurance), you can get a prescription for the pills (which can also be pricey without insurance). There are some programs that offer free birth control pills, such as this one.
Honestly though, telling your parents (or even just your mom) about your birth control plans might be your best option. Like I said, things can get pricey without health insurance and if you’re still covered under your parents, you should take advantage of that. You might think your mom is going to shut you down, but at the end of the day, she wants you to be safe and protected and she’s most likely going to try to help make sure that happens. Your mom can answer your questions, come to the doctor with you, help you pay for the exam and the pills and just be there for you. I was scared to tell my mom also, but she was surprisingly cool about it!
Unless you think your mom is going to flip out about the birth control pills, I would seriously consider talking to her. Whenever it comes to anything medical, it’s good to fill your family in. Oh, and quick note: remember that even if you go on birth control pills, you need to continue using a condom. The Pill does not prevent STDs or STIs!
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