10 Signs You’re Settling In Your Relationship & Don’t Really Like Your Boyfriend

A new, groundbreaking study has found that the fear of being single can make people settle for relationships that they really aren’t happy in. In other words, being afraid of being alone can cause people to date others they don’t even really like that much, just because they want to be in a relationship. Shocking!

In case you didn’t pick up on that sarcasm, this study is not shocking or groundbreaking. People have been doing this FOREVER and it sucks. I have a friend who has been dating a total loser for years because she’s so terrified of being single and alone (seriously though, there’s nothing wrong with being single). Settling for a relationship with someone you’re not even that into is such a waste of your time and emotions. It’s a recipe for disaster and we all need to stop doing it – especially if we don’t want to admit that we are. Here are 10 signs you’re settling in your relationship:

Do you think you’re settling in your relationship? Have you ever done that? How did you realize it? Tell me in the comments.


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  • Noh

    I’m 38, on SSDI and have really no choice but to settle for this passionless, loveless relationship with an immature alcoholic. I have no place to go (short of a homeless shelter) if I leave him; nope, I have no family to move in with and none of my friends can take myself and my cats in. And yep, I’d have to give up my cats if I left.
    So to recap, I have no: money, family, options or romantic prospects. If I want sex, I HAVE to cheat, but if I cheat, I end up homeless. I could break up with him and keep living here, but that didn’t work out last time, as we ended up getting back together.

    Ladies, don’t end up like me. I’m an actual loser. 😞

  • morgan

    So if all these thing in the article are true about your relationship what do you do Just end things?

  • Rachel


    I have been struggling in my relationship for seven months. I have been in this relationship for almost three years common law and we have a 1.5 year old daighter. We each have a six year old from previous relationships as well. I know I’m settling. He’s brought major financial problems on this home – thankfully we have nothing joint in our finances so it was all in his name- but then I still have to overcompensate on the bills to make HIS half ends meet. He’s proven to be a pathological liar, after this long he still doesn’t accept my six year old son as his own- even though I have fully bonded with his six year old daughter, so much that I have a friendship with his ex. He goes through cycles of atleast 3 days a month where he won’t talk to me not even to respond in small talk- like I don’t exist and he plays mind games this entire time. He’s ripped me off $4000 and now he’s drug himself so far down he can’t really even cover his bills. I’ve almost left multiple times ( actually he’d be the one leaving cause he can’t afford this home) but keep giving him ” one more chance”. I’m not sure if I’m delusional thinking maybe one day he’ll come to the end of himself and grow up and that things will get better. But I’m finding mySelf feeling more trapped and unhappy. 90% of what has kept me here is my daughter I have with him . What do I do? How do I kick someone out that has nothing? How do I avoid being manipulated into giving him another chance ? How do I protect myself from his vindictiveness after I do end it ? Please, any advice will do. Of course there are so many other details but there isn’t enough time or space.

    • SimplyMo

      I’m dying to know how this played out. What did you do?

  • Jackie Lynn

    I’ve been with my guy for a few years. His is my best friend, and I can honestly say I love him. Lately I haven’t felt happy. We are in a long distance relationship, and the last few times I got to see him I was not as excited as I was in the past. The thought of breaking up with him makes me feel sick sometimes, and the explaining to everyone would be exhausting. I look at my siblings and see how happy they are with their significant others. Sometimes I feel like I don’t look at my guy the way I see other couples look at each other.

  • Mary Ann

    I have going out with a man who has many problems – hoarding – calls me dirty
    filthy names – loses his temper with almost everyone – on the highway while
    he is driving – a neighbor of mine was going fast on my street – he actually
    screamed out “this is a 25/hr zone you AHole.
    Plays road rage on the road and yet there is
    a good person at times. I fell in love with this
    man and don”t want to givehim up – All my
    family and friends do not want him in their
    company. He lives alone and 1 month ago I
    worked in his house throwing 16 large trash
    bags in the garbage (had to make many trips)
    Now I undrstand it is now the same – He won’t
    throw anything out. He is good to me
    financially and takes me on trips. There
    hasn’t been one vacations that I haven’t been
    called every filthy names. I believe he is
    even lying to me about being with an old
    girlfriend, While writing this I am the one who
    needs help. I can’t let him go and I know I’ll take
    him back. pls. help.

    • vanessa

      You’re way too dependent on him. You need to look within yourself to see why you would Allow someone to disrespect you like that. Is it low self esteem?

    • Sylvia Garcia

      I am sorry that is happening to you. As I read your story, I was compelled to tell you that you need to get out of that relationship. YOU deserve so much better and need to be treated with respect. Walk away. The first step is hard. You need to do this for you or you will be miserable… Trust me. Good luck in your decision but you do deserve a lot better.