Sometimes (well, hopefully a lot of the time), sex is really great. So great, in fact, that your mind turns off and you don’t really think about anything else during it. You’re totally in the moment and you lose yourself. But then there are the times when sex is kind of, well… boring. You feel like you’re just going through the motions and your mind is anything but clear.
Don’t worry, it’s happened to all of us, especially when you’ve been having sex with the same person for a long time. If sex was always 100 percent amazing, life would be different, but it’s just not. And although you’d never admit it to your partner, there are some secret things you do or think during sex. Don’t lie! I know you have. Check out these secret things you do or think during sex and prepare to feel less alone:
Thinking About Someone ElseAdmit it: you've done this. You've thought about a person you are definitely not having sex with while doing the deed. Whether it's a celebrity, someone else you have a crush on or your ex, it's happened. Then you felt guilty afterwards, but you probably did it again later on. Source: ShutterStock
Trying Not To Laugh At The Faces He's MakingYou don't want to insult him by giggling at his passion, but seriously, what kind of face is that?! And was that noise? Did he just accidentally fart? He he he. Source: ShutterStock
Watching TV In The BackgroundIf the TV is always playing in the background to drown out any extra, uh, noise, then you've definitely snuck a few peeks at it at least once. You've probably caught yourself getting interested in the plot only to be like, "Oh, oops, look like you're paying attention to the sex." Source: ShutterStock
Hoping You Look GoodEven though you are bombarded with advice telling you to relax and enjoy the moment and stop thinking about what you look like because the guy doesn't really care, you've still thought about it during sex. You've still wondered if he saw your stomach rolls or if your butt looks weird from that angle. Source: ShutterStock
Stressing Over SomethingWhen you're already stressed or anxious about something before you have sex, you sometimes can't help but get distracted by that something during the act. Admit it: you've had sex while thinking about an annoying situation the entire time. Source: ShutterStock
Thinking About Some Other Sex Scene You WatchedIt could be porn, it could be a movie sex scene... I don't know. You've definitely had at least one hookup where you've thought about a hookup scene you found particularly sexy. Source: ShutterStock
Wondering What You're Going To Do AfterwardsIf sex is boring, it's easy to get distracted. You've probably been in this situation, wondering what you guys are going to do afterwards. Watch a movie? Eat something yummy? Get ice cream? Ooooh you should get ice cream. Source: ShutterStock
Comparing It To A Past HookupEven though you're not supposed to do this, you've definitely had one of those moments where you're like, "Wow, he does this a lot better than so-and-so" or "Ugh, so-and-so was so much more amazing than this." Source: ShutterStock
Thinking About How Tired You AreHey, we all get tired sometimes. And sometimes when we're that tired, we have sex anyway, even though we spend the whole time thinking about how nice it's going to be to fall asleep and is it really rude to just close your eyes for a while? Source: ShutterStock
Wondering If You'll Have To Fake ItSometimes sex is bad or it's just not working for you and you want it to be over because you know you're not going to orgasm, but you don't want to hurt your partner's feelings. So instead, you think about whether or not you should fake it. And sometime you do, even though we tell you not to. Source: ShutterStock
Do you ever think or do these things during sex? What did I forget? Do you disagree with me? Tell me in the comments.