We’ve all been hit upside the head in school, advertisements and in TV shows about the importance of safe sex. Seriously, I think I’ve seen a condom rolled on a banana enough times to last me a lifetime and a half. I’ve seen disgusting photos of STDs, I’ve read plenty of tragic stories about HIV/AIDs and I’ve seen enough episodes of 16 and Pregnant to understand that, yes, unprotected sex can lead to some awful things–from an itchy vag, to a pregnancy, to a death sentence. And I’m sure all of you reading this can say the same.
And yet…and yet, despite knowing how crucial safe sex is, too many people don’t have it!
I know, accidents happen and poor choices are made. Throw in some misinformation from your friends, untrustworthy boyfriends and a healthy dose of anxiety and we have a serious incident on our hands. Unfortunately, some of you–our awesome readers–are in these predicaments right now. We’re answering questions and dispelling rumors from 10 comments we’ve received about unprotected and safe sex. Check ’em out and get a serious reality check.
You can become pregnant even if you have sex during your period. Sure, the chances are lower, but why make such a risky gamble in exchange for a few minutes of sex? Use protection! If this guy doesn't respect your wishes, he doesn't respect you. Period. Point blank. I know you don't want to hear this, but you should avoid much older guys at your age, especially ones who might manipulate you into thinking that their personal experiences overshadows basic science. From I Can’t Forgive My Boyfriend For Dating Another Girl When We Were On A Break Illustration Source: Shutterstock Don't beat yourself up about it! I know, easier said than done, but ultimately the right measures were taken. Your mom made sure that you were safe and healthy and you've grown into a stronger, smarter young woman because of this experience. You can't forget this experience, but as long as you can learn from it and use it to make better, healthier decisions for yourself in the long run. That's what's important. Keep on keepin' on, girl! From What You Had To Say About Losing Your Virginity Illustration Source: Shutterstock There is no such thing as extremely safe unprotected sex. You can still become pregnant or contract an STD. Again, nobody should be willing to take that kind of risk. Use. Condoms. From What You Had To Say About Losing Your Virginity Illustration Source: Shutterstock Pre-ejaculation fluid can contain sperm, meaning that even if he didn't finish inside of you, he could have still released sperm before he pulled out. Do what you need to do to find our for sure whether you're pregnant or not, but also make sure that you know that your partner wore a condom. If you told him to wear one and he didn't, then this guy sounds like trouble. Communication is a crucial part of sex. This guy didn't listen to your very reasonable request and left you worried about pregnancy. You deserve better. From Can You Get Pregnant If He Ejaculates Near My Vagina, But Not In It? Illustration Source: Shutterstock If it landed in close proximity to your vaginal opening then pregnancy is possible! Also, pre-ejaculation fluid can contain sperm! I don't want you to panic, but you should know that it isn't unheard of. If you need some peace of mind, buy a pregnancy test. Hopefully you're in the clear, but remember that the pull out method is not safe sex. From Can You Get Pregnant If He Ejaculates Near My Vagina, But Not In It? Illustration Source: Shutterstock Tell your BF to take another crash course in the reproductive system, because you can still become pregnant if you have sex on your period. What's more important? Your BF's penis feeling slightly happier or you not becoming pregnant? From From The Boards: Would You Have Sex While On Your Period? Illustration Source: Shutterstock Our definition of better sex is safe sex. A condom that is too big or too small increases the risk of the condom slipping off or breaking. Bigger condoms might make the guy feel a little less constricted, but that shouldn't come at the expense of a girl possibly becoming pregnant or contracting an STD. From 10 Crazy Condom Myths That Are Totally Not True Illustration Source: Shutterstock Always make sure that your partner wears a condom, don't assume that they will. That should be one of the first things you two discuss before getting down to business. There is a chance of pregnancy, so you should take a pregnancy test and make sure that all is well. Also, that's a big age gap, girl. Find a cool guy who is not only closer to your age, but is also mature enough to know that a condom is mandatory! From What You Had To Say About Losing Your Virginity Illustration Source: Shutterstock I've already emphasized that you can become during your period, but now I'm a little more concerned about the rest of your statement: You didn't know that you were on your period? He figured you were because you bled during sex? That could have been anything from a bought of spotting between your period or simply you bleeding during sex. If you're not on the pill then you have a very real reason to be worried about pregnancy. You can consider taking emergency contraceptives up to 72 hours after the event or, if too much time has passed, you can take a pregnancy test. Beware of false positives, however! And if you don't get pregnant, don't take it as the go ahead to let this happen again. Sex should never come with this level of anxiety. Use condoms next time! From What You Had To Say About Losing Your Virginity Illustration Source: Shutterstock Last time I'm going to say this: Unprotected sex during your period is not worth the risk of pregnancy. Ever. From What You Had To Say About Losing Your Virginity Illustration Source: Shutterstock
What myths did you believe about unprotected sex? Have you ever had a partner who refused to have safe sex? Tell us in the comments!