10 Tips On How To Say No To Anything

A few weeks ago, I showed you guys some signs that you’re a pushover. If you read that and realized that you are, in fact, a total pushover (and don’t feel bad, I’ve been there), then you’ve probably known for a long time that you have a really hard time saying no, whether it’s to a friend who asks for a favor, a guy who wants to do something you don’t want to do or even a stranger.

I’ve been there. I used to have the most difficult time saying no to people, even when I really wanted to. I didn’t want to be seen as mean or bitchy. I wanted everyone to be able to count on me and to think that I was a really nice person who would always be there for them. So I said yes to everything, like invitations to parties I had no interest in, favors that caused me to really go out of my way, dates with guys I definitely wasn’t crushing on and more. I couldn’t figure out how to say no without feeling incredibly guilty. And if I did say no, it was always accompanied by an elaborate excuse, usually a complicated lie.

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Then, in college, I met a girl who had no problem saying the word no. She didn’t feel the need to come up with excuses – if she didn’t want to do something, she just said, “No, I’m not into that.” If she didn’t want to go somewhere, she was honest, saying, “No, I’m too tired tonight” or “No, I just feel like hanging at home.” I was beyond impressed with her because of this. I realized that when K said no, she didn’t sound bitchy or horrible at all. She didn’t seem selfish or like someone you couldn’t count on. She also didn’t sound like a pushover, something I really didn’t want to be anymore.

So, I learned from K. The more we hung out, the more I started saying no to people too. Without even realizing it, K taught me how to do more of what I wanted rather than what everyone else wanted. Today, I don’t have as much of a problem saying no to people and it’s great. Of course, I realize that sometimes you have to say yes, even if you don’t really want to. But for the most part, none of us should have a huge problem with saying “no.” If you do, read these 10 tips on how to say no to anything. You’ll feel so much better once you figure it out.

Do you have a problem saying no? How did you learn to say it? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.

 

I wish I knew it was okay to say no, even to my boyfriend

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