Why do guys just randomly stop responding to text messages? Especially the flirty ones who are your friend and cannot keep their hands off of you and hint that they find you attractive. I’ve been texting this guy and he acts like he likes me, but out of nowhere he went MIA! Why isn’t he answering my text messages?
Whoa! Sounds like you’re dealing with one confusing dude. A “friend” who also typically can’t keep his hands off of you, but now ignores your texts, is giving you three very distinctly conflicting signals. But I wouldn’t lump this fella in with all guys, as he’s likely got some specfic hidden motives (if not a personality disorder). So let’s try to dissect this guy and see if we can understand why he stopped responding to your messages.
For one thing, he’s already surrendered his “friend” priveleges. That’s not to say that he’s not a nice guy, or isn’t invested in your well-being — but a real friend wouldn’t ignore you or push you aside when you reach out to him. And any guy who’s consistently hinting at your attractiveness — especially one who can’t stop hugging, holding, or touching you – isn’t in it for the nail-painting and gossip sessions. He’s in it to make out!
Most likely, his lack of responsiveness is precisely because of his attraction to you. He’s nervous, scared, or unsure of how to take things to the next level, which is especially common with inexperienced guys. Of course, it’s also possible that he’s a player who’d love you to put out without having to put in too much work. In which case, the distance he’s creating would be a tactic to keep you from getting too attached and would allow him more time to mack it to other girls. But I’m gonna give him the benefit of the doubt here and guess that he’s simply lacking confidence and uncertain whether his feelings are reciprocated.
Unfortunately, the only way to know what’s actually going on with this flip-flopping dude is to make a move! You may feel more comfortable addressing the situation in conversation, or by pouncing on him like Katniss on Peeta during a dark screening of Catching Fire. Either way, it seems that the only way you’ll achieve any closure is by confronting the issue head on.
Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. When not touring the country, Ethan gives weekly advice in the video series “Dude Seriously?”. For more on Ethan, visit EthanFixell.com.