Okay, maybe one thing is better. And that’s Matilda herself giving you sex advice. Say what?! You heard me. Matila, or Mara Wilson as we now know her, is all grown up. She’s actually 26, and she’s super active on Twitter (follow her, seriously!) and writes a lot. Wilson has done some acting since her child star days, but lately she focuses on writing.
I’ve been following her on Twitter for quite a while, but I felt really compelled to write about her today after watching her interview with vlogger Laci Green on Sex+. (Laci Green is another lady you should know because she’s awesome.) Sex+ is a channel devoted to having honest conversations about sexuality, which is something we’re obviously all about here.
What can we learn from Mara Wilson about sex? So much!
Sex is a life thing. She says, “It’s important to accept sex as a part of life, and as a positive part of life.” It’s so nice to hear this coming from other young women. I know a lot of women who are still scared to talk about sex, which is sad because we should be able to talk about it openly. It is a part of life. Heck, it’s a part of life that creates life. Why are we so afraid to talk about it? We’re all products of sex. We’re not alone in thinking about sex, so let’s not be alone in talking about it either.
Education is so important. Wilson says that with sex you need to “be responsible and healthy about it.” We couldn’t agree more. She and Green talk about how sex education right now is very fear-based, and they’re so right. Tons of schools that actually have sex ed that isn’t abstinence-only just want to throw the “If you have sex, you will get pregnant and die” philosophy at you. That’s not helpful at all! Sex education should be positive and informative and about facts, like Wilson said.
Comfort is necessary. Wilson says, “I think you really need to check in with yourself, you need to feel safe and you need to feel desire. You need to be able to communicate with them.” Holy moly these things are so important whether it’s your first time having sex or not. I think a lot of times we forget to have a little chat with ourselves to see how we’re feeling. Before you do anything, make sure that you feel comfortable and safe.
She also has some advice on body image and sexual appeal, like our other BFF Jennifer Lawrence. Wilson says “My appearance is not for you.” Um, can I get a slow-clap please? Unless you want your appearance to specifically be for someone else, it just isn’t. You don’t have to listen to what anyone says about how you should or shouldn’t be look.
Check out the full interview for some more awesome info from Mara Wilson!
What do you think about Mara Wilson’s thoughts on sex? Do you agree or disagree? Tell us in the comments!