10 Tips On How To Make Your Friend With Benefits Your Boyfriend

I’ve never kept it a secret that I think friends with benefits type relationships are a horrible idea. When they start off, they sound great – you have someone to hang out and hook up with when you feel like getting frisky, but you don’t have the obligations of a relationship to deal with. Who wouldn’t want something as light and easy as that?

The problem with friends with benefits is that everyone thinks they can handle it, but the majority of people cannot. Once you start having an intimate relationship with someone you like (and obviously you like them if you’re hooking up with them, I don’t care what you say), it’s natural to eventually start to want something more serious. It happens all the time. Since most girls go into a FWB swearing up and down that they won’t get attached, they freak out when they do get attached and sometimes end up doing the wrong thing.

Truthfully, it’s really, really difficult to make your friends with benefits your boyfriend. In most cases, I think it’s impossible. Once a guy sees that he can get what he wants without having to really do anything back for you, it’s hard for him to change the way he sees the relationship he has with you. However, there are some people out there that swear that it can happen. If you’ve recently fallen head over heels for your friend with benefits, here are 10 tips that might make him your boyfriend. Good luck!

Have you ever had a friend with benefits? Did you fall for him? Have you ever made a FWB into your boyfriend? How did you do it? Tell us in the comments.

 

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  • Karabo

    Yo gal thats true thats how i feel it sucks i dont know he feels abt me

  • Baby Girl

    I have a fwb relationship. I want my own man! The End.

  • Danielle

    I started being fwb with this one guy i had known since we were in 7th grade, and it’s weird actually because back then I used to have a crush on him, but he’s always been the “popular” type of guy so honestly I never saw anything between us happening. It wasn’t until last year (we were seniors by that time btw) that we just started talking even more and somehow became fwb, in all honestly I just thought of it as a game, but as the time has passed I’ve noticed how I’ve actually gained real feelings for him specially after things that we been through together, and well it sucks because I don’t know if he will ever feel the same way for me or not.

  • justice

    So I met a guy through a mutual friend about a year and a half ago and since the day we met we clicked. However he was definitely feeling me more than I was feeling him but we remained good friends. Well just a few months ago he finally told me how he felt about me and wanted something more. Being that we were already friends I didn’t wanna mess it up but thought I would give it a chance anyway cause I was attracted to him. Well the first couple months he was calling, texting and spending the night at my house almost daily. We got in a huge fight about 2 months into it and didn’t speak to each other for over a month and so much has changed since. I feel like I’m the one texting him all the time to hang out but this last time I hung out with him it was so perfect. We watched a movie, cuddled, talked about US and just had a great intimate night. Then I went back to not hearing from him again. It’s soooo confusing and breaks my heart cause I want more of this, but he obviously doesn’t. I told him I was gonna leave him alone cause I felt like I was bothering him and he laughed…. but a week later, he inboxed me. I don’t get it!!!! FWB is a hard hard situation! :(

  • Alice

    I do have a FWB, and I did fall for him. Although I didn’t know we would be FWB when we started seeing each other. He’d just broken up with his girlfriend of 6 years, which I didn’t know at the time. We’ve been seeing each other for 9 months now, are best friends, and, though I wish things would work out as I want them to, I’m resigned that we’ll never be together. I still have some hope. We spend most of every day together, practically live together, and I’m closer with him than anyone else. But I’d like not to give myself false hope. Regardless, he knows I’m in love with him, and if friendship is all I get, I can content myself with that.

  • Laura

    I used to have an fwb with a guy I had been friends with for a few years. I wanted more but could never tell if he wanted more or not. After probably 6 months when we realized how well we got along and how much fun we had together we decided we would try out a real relationship. We dated for a couple of years but he never quite treated it like it was official. He didn’t want to tell anyone except people who were around us together like our friends. The relationship just never seemed to go anywhere. Fwbs definitely have the potential to be more if you really are friends. However, in my experience it doesn’t work out well. I honestly don’t think 99% of guys are able to respect that you are a modern woman who is comfortable with her sexuality. Like the article says, most guys need the chase. It’s definitely worth a shot, just make sure you are getting what you need too.

  • Aaliyah

    I have a fwb but I love him I’ve loved him since the beginning I rather rip out my heart then make him cry. I know he can never love me but I can’t stop loving him.

  • Aaliyah

    I have a fwb but I love him I’ve loved him since the beginning I rather rip out my heart then make him cry. I know he can never love me but I can’t stop loving him.

  • leanne

    I have a fwb right now I have known him all my life and want to be togather and I’m geting sense he wants the same but ee both scared to say something to each other and he also lives out of state si its hard wen he has to leave to go home any one have any advice please let me know

  • Elizabeth

    I have a fresh friends with benefits relationship with a guy that I want something more with. I’m kinda settling for this relationship because it’s the only kind I can have with him.

    • Kayla

      I fully and understand what you’re saying. I’m going through the exact situation. A part of me wants to tell him & get it over with because it’s not gonna end the way I want it to. :(

  • Amee

    My husband thought it would be sexy if I slept with his buddy, so he kept bringing him over until I finally agreed and we became friends with benefits. My husband and I have been having problems a long time and now I kinda want to leave him and date my friend with benefits but I don’t know if he would want to be that serious :/ he takes me out for dinner and we even went to a theme park together but I’m not sure if he’s just being nice or is falling in love with me too :(

    • rosesline perez

      first i’ll talk to the guy and say like what if this happend… and see what he gots to say. but u can see that u and ur husband need to split because these problomes will go on and on. but if ur heart is saying go for it just go for it.