10 Tips On How To Make Your Friend With Benefits Your Boyfriend

I’ve never kept it a secret that I think friends with benefits type relationships are a horrible idea. When they start off, they sound great – you have someone to hang out and hook up with when you feel like getting frisky, but you don’t have the obligations of a relationship to deal with. Who wouldn’t want something as light and easy as that?

The problem with friends with benefits is that everyone thinks they can handle it, but the majority of people cannot. Once you start having an intimate relationship with someone you like (and obviously you like them if you’re hooking up with them, I don’t care what you say), it’s natural to eventually start to want something more serious. It happens all the time. Since most girls go into a FWB swearing up and down that they won’t get attached, they freak out when they do get attached and sometimes end up doing the wrong thing.

Truthfully, it’s really, really difficult to make your friends with benefits your boyfriend. In most cases, I think it’s impossible. Once a guy sees that he can get what he wants without having to really do anything back for you, it’s hard for him to change the way he sees the relationship he has with you. However, there are some people out there that swear that it can happen. If you’ve recently fallen head over heels for your friend with benefits, here are 10 tips that might make him your boyfriend. Good luck!

Have you ever had a friend with benefits? Did you fall for him? Have you ever made a FWB into your boyfriend? How did you do it? Tell us in the comments.


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  • Kat

    I started a FWB relationship with the this guy I work with. We have been seeing eachother for about 4 months now and I started to develop feelings for him a few weeks ago, I told him that I had feelings for him and he told me that we would never extend past the bedroom. I then told him that I didn’t want to see anymore because I needed something more but yet he refuses to let it go, he still keeps texting me and asking me to come over. I may just be overthinking it but i feel like maybe he does have feelings that he just isn’t admitting too.

  • Jennifer

    I have been seeing a man for 7 years … fwb relationship but I started falling for him a couple years ago when we were seeing each other a lot and I wish I could rewind it. I don’t want to feel this way for him but I don’t want to leave because the sex is so good. I know it sounds bad. How can I make these feelings go away?

  • Barb

    I work in the same company with this guy and we’ve been talking on and off over the past year, we also hung out a couple of times and we recently agreed to taking it to the fwb. Heres the issuse what will come next he already knows i like him and i would like to take it to the next level what should i do

  • Erica Wishucouldbme Green

    I have a friend and we are really close. Like he is my best friend and my FWB. We do anything with each other from getting hotels, going out to eat, and we even live with each other. We even share the same room and bed. We both agreed that we both wasnt ready for a relationship and im perfectly fine with it. But truth be told I fell in love with him and want to tell him without it changing our lives.. How do you confess this to him?

  • nobel

    I knew a guy recently, hit it off and started as FWB. No idea why would i agree to it but i do admit that he’s hot and guess thats the only reason for it. I kind of likes him but he doesn’t seem to reciprocate to my texts. He’s constantly busy. Imagine that we are in FWB relationship, he doesn’t meet me often to hook up. Now i wanna develop a relationship with him but i knew it would actually end our benefit relationship. Anyone can actually share and help me on this.

  • Donna

    To ANY OF YOU YOUNG GIRLS THAT WILL LISTEN!! I have been there and am now 53 years old . . please take note! End your FWB relationship AND give up the friendship . . and I will tell you 2 basic FACTS: you always find out what a man wants when you say you’re leaving . . aa man that wants you, for the RIGHT REASONS, will do AMYTHING TO KEEP YOU . . it is the nature of a man to chase, conquer and CLAIM YOU . . so no other man can have you . . not rocket science . . Fact #2. two things will happen, You will get back together, on YOUR TERMS . . Or . . you will be glad YOU DIDNT . . Dont settle for just a playmate, you can have a playmate with your SOULMATE! Also, do not text, call, run into them, inquire about them! They have to feel the void of you not being around . . that is when they do some soul searching . . if they dont come back FOR THE RIGHT REASONS, YOU DONT WANT THEM!! Check out the two sites that taught me this. havetherelationshipyouwant (Rori Raye) and catchhimandkeephim (Christian Carter) Dont settle for some selfish guys crumbs! Higher your standards . . he doesnt care about you or he would let you go to find a happy, satisfying relationship . . MAKE YOU HAPPINESS ABOUT YOU!! Let some low value chick take his crumbs (men have to work hard to have a PORSCHE, not for a Ford Focus! You are a PORSCHE! Understand?? Now, re-read this . .

    • Ashley

      this is so awesome. exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!!!!


      Wow I like it

  • Isis

    I’ve been friends with benefits since September with a guy that has like be for 2 years. I walk up to him tell him that I like him and want to be his girlfriend now which I know is rude to say “now” like he’s been waiting forever but still. And he said he wants to focus on work, and in my head I’m like WTF because for 2 years bro you’ve liked me and now you don’t want to date when I’m saying “let’s go”?! I really like this guy, I’ve liked him for 2 years but I was always scared to have a boyfriend because (it’s probably stupid but) I didn’t know what to talk about with him, this guy is on my mind a lot like tooo much for anyone and it kills me that we aren’t together I HATE IT! I told him that I want to be his girlfriend and he said he’s bad, which is so not true he’s is one of the most amazing guys ever. He doesn’t want to date me because I’m “too much of a bubble head” I think that’s it and he also said he wants attention from other girls (which isn’t true because there’s only one other girl). He said that he’ll think about us being together because he likes me too, 2 years of feelings don’t just go away like that. I really want him and I DON”T KNOW WHAT TO DO HELP!!!!!!!

  • leanne

    I have a fwb right now I have known him all my life and want to be togather and I’m geting sense he wants the same but ee both scared to say something to each other and he also lives out of state si its hard wen he has to leave to go home any one have any advice please let me know

  • Elizabeth

    I have a fresh friends with benefits relationship with a guy that I want something more with. I’m kinda settling for this relationship because it’s the only kind I can have with him.

    • Kayla

      I fully and understand what you’re saying. I’m going through the exact situation. A part of me wants to tell him & get it over with because it’s not gonna end the way I want it to. 🙁

    • Jennifer

      For me, it’s the sex that has me caught up lol even tho I’ve developed feelings for him and it’s been even 7 years (? I know), I want the feelings to go away so I can keep having great sex with this man ?

      • Gina

        This is me. My FWB is 14 years younger than me and my goodness, the best sex ever. I mean like damn and I’m a very sexual person so for him to keep me interested in the bed, that is big. However, it’s only been a few months and I don’t want to ever stop seeing him and just because the sex alone. It’s that good. But, I did develop feelings of course because he’s an actual great guy but I flip flop on my feelings because he’s so immature and lacks the older guy qualities I’m more used to such as the wine and dine, trips and nice cars. Hell, he doesn’t even have a car. But, I go back to the sex…..I can’t let him go! The good thing is that he does want to be exclusive in our sexual relationship and I do trust him. However, he does and can flirt with girls and I have to accept that. Do I want something more? I can’t decide but today, no. Maybe next week, yeah. By the way, this is my first FWB relationship and I’m 39. But, when I do meet a guy that is more suitable for me, I will have no problem ending things with him. I can’t see myself staying with him for years.

  • Amee

    My husband thought it would be sexy if I slept with his buddy, so he kept bringing him over until I finally agreed and we became friends with benefits. My husband and I have been having problems a long time and now I kinda want to leave him and date my friend with benefits but I don’t know if he would want to be that serious :/ he takes me out for dinner and we even went to a theme park together but I’m not sure if he’s just being nice or is falling in love with me too 🙁

    • rosesline perez

      first i’ll talk to the guy and say like what if this happend… and see what he gots to say. but u can see that u and ur husband need to split because these problomes will go on and on. but if ur heart is saying go for it just go for it.