I have always been a shy girl (as I’ve said before). Throughout middle school and high school, I literally was afraid of saying the word “no.” I never spoke my mind no matter what and so I let a lot of people get away with things they should never have gotten away with. In other words, I was a total pushover for the majority of my life.
Although I’m still shy now, I have fortunately learned how to stop allowing people to walk all over me. I’ve learned how to tell people when they’re making me angry or upset, I’ve learned how to tell dudes how to treat me and how not to treat me and I’ve figured out that confrontation doesn’t always equal huge, dramatic fights. In fact, most of the time, it can be useful. I know that a lot of you girls are just as shy as I once was (and still sometimes am) and so I’m assuming that some of you out there are acting like pushovers when you shouldn’t be – you have a voice and it deserves to be heard! Here are 8 signs you’re a pushover.
Your Friends Always Ask For Favors Because They Know You Won't Say NoIf you find that you're constantly doing favors for other people, but rarely getting favors back in return, that's a huge sign that you're acting like too much of a pushover. Throughout high school, I had several friends who relied on me and my parents for rides everywhere because they knew I could convince my parents to do it - they never asked their parents if they could drive us. People might not even be doing it purposely, it's just that once you start saying "yes" a lot, people sort of assume you'll always say it. And while you should obviously do favors for people, you don't have an obligation to fulfill every favor asked of you. Don't say yes if it's going to put you out of your way or make things more difficult for you. Source: ShutterStock
You Always Seem To End Up In Non-Relationship RelationshipsOne of my friends who is a HUGE pushover (and admits it) is constantly stuck in these FWB type relationships where the guy does whatever he wants and she does whatever HE wants. She has yet to find a stable relationship where dudes do stuff for her and that's because she lets things happen this way. Once people realize they can treat you a certain way and it seems okay to you, they'll keep treating you that way. It's your responsibility to be like, "Hey. Stop. I deserve better than this." Source: ShutterStock
You Never Defend YourselfAre you always laughing off "jokes" from friends or family members that actually hurt your feelings? If so, you're acting like a pushover. You should obviously have a good sense of humor about yourself, but that doesn't mean you have to let everything slide. If someone is joking around about you too much and it's bothering you, don't just laugh it off like no big deal - they'll probably think you don't care. Instead, be like, "Not cool, dude." Source: ShutterStock
You Say 'Sorry' Way Too OftenAnother friend who is a major pushover has the terrible habit of saying "I'm sorry" to literally everything. It drives me and everyone else crazy. Saying your sorry for every little thing comes off to mean that you did something you should be sorry for... and a lot of the times, it's not necessary. Don't say you're sorry after every thing you say or do. It makes people think they can take advantage of you because you're easy to be made to feel guilty. Source: ShutterStock
You're More Worried About Other People Being Happy Than YourselfIn high school, I used to be so worried about making other people happy that I would often do things I didn't want to do to make sure that happens. I still have an issue with this today - I sometimes do things for my BF just to make him happy even if I don't want to. Luckily, I have a great boyfriend who makes sure that I AM actually happy with that stuff before we do it. Of course other people's happiness is important, but you need to be happy too! Source: ShutterStock
You'll Do Anything To Avoid ConfrontationI HATE confrontation. It is definitely not my strong point. I have gone so far as to have friends tell other friends why I'm mad at them or having friends tell my boyfriends why I'm sad. I used to avoid it at all costs, but now I'm learning to stop that. If you're nodding your head like, "me too!" right now, that's a sign that you're a pushover. Confrontation is uncomfortable, but sometimes it's necessary to get what you want and deserve. Source: ShutterStock
People Take Credit For Your IdeasDo you often find that at school or work, people take credit for things that you came up with? Do you notice that in group projects, you do a lot of the work but get little to no credit? Not cool. If you came up with something and someone tries to steal it as their own, don't let them! Source: ShutterStock
You Always Go With The FlowIt's great to go with the flow sometimes and do whatever your group of friends is doing. But there's a limit. If your friends want to do some expensive dinner at a restaurant you hate, don't go just because they decided on it - speak up and suggest somewhere else. Your opinion deserves to be heard. Don't always do what your friends are doing without throwing in your thoughts. If you do that, they'll start making plans without you because they'll assume you'll just do whatever - and that's not always a good thing. Source: ShutterStock
Do you think you’re a pushover? Have you ever been a pushover? Which of these signs can you relate to? Tell me in the comments.