As someone who has never cheated and could never imagine doing it, I’ve always wondered why people cheat. I’m not trying to judge anyone, I’m just seriously wondering because I find this particular human behavior really interesting. Why do we hurt the people we care about the most for our own selfish gains? Why do we make our relationships fall apart because of (seemingly) one sexual urge?
Apparently, science finds infidelity just as interesting as I do. It feels like a new study comes out about cheating at least once a month, all of the researchers trying to find out the same thing: why people cheat on each other. The results are definitely worth reading and may give you some insight into why you’ve been cheated on – or why you cheated yourself. Here are 10 reasons people cheat, according to science.
One Of You Is On the Phone Too MuchA new study of over 6,000 people found that 45 percent would cheat or have cheated because they're jealous of how often their partner is on their phone. It makes sense: if you're staring at your phone every time you hang with your BF, he's eventually going to feel like you don't care and aren't interested. And then he'll feel neglected and look for attention elsewhere. Regardless of this cheating factor, spending too much time on your phone when you're with someone else is just plain rude. Source: ShutterStock
You're Insecure That He'll CheatAnother recent study found that those who are insecure about their partner cheating or leaving them are actually more likely to cheat. It may sound weird, but it comes down to an insecure attachment style: if you constantly need reassurance that your partner is faithful and you stop getting it every day, you go to someone else to get that reassurance. Messed up? Yeah. But it stems back to how you were treated in past relationships, which also makes sense. Source: ShutterStock
Blonde Women Are More Likely To CheatAccording to one study, women with blonde hair were more likely to cheat on their partners. 42 percent of blonde females had cheated, while 40 percent of males with brown hair cheated. Does this make sense? Not really. I think a much larger study needs to be done on this, because it sounds pretty shady to me. Source: ShutterStock
Men Who Talk In Low Voices Are More Likely To CheatIf you're dating a dude with a low voice, like Vin Diesel over here, be careful. One study found that men with low, deep voices are more likely to cheat. It's not technically their fault though - the study found that women find men with low voices more attractive. But women also viewed men with low voices differently - they were attracted to them for a fling involving infidelity rather than a long-term relationship. Weird? Definitely. Source: ShutterStock
You Like The Cheater's HighAs terrible as cheating is, there's no denying that it's also exciting. Sneaking around is part of what can make an affair so passionate - infidelity can give you a cheater's high, which you get after doing something you know is wrong. One study found that cheaters feel good after cheating, even though they know what they're doing is wrong. That also explains why studies have found that risk-takers are more likely to cheat. Source: ShutterStock
If A Guy Feels Powerful, He Might Be UnfaithfulIf you've ever wondered why so many celebrities and politicians cheat, this might explain why: Researchers say that powerful men are more likely to cheat because they are more confident and feel like they'll get away with whatever they do. Basically, they let their power go to their head and assume they can do whatever they want without consequences. If your BF is very cocky or doesn't give an eff about anyone but himself... watch out. Source: ShutterStock
Fear Of Poor Sexual PerformanceResearch has found that in the case of both men and women, the fear of not being good enough in bed can cause them to cheat. I know that sounds a little odd, but it does make sense: if they're worried about being bad in bed with one partner, they might feel a different sense of comfort with someone else. It basically goes back to feeling too insecure. Source: ShutterStock
Men Will Cheat If Women Make More MoneyOne study found that men are more likely to cheat if they're unhappy about the fact that their partner makes more money than them. Seriously lame, dudes. Researchers say this is because it may make them feel less masculine... so they cheat to get that powerful feeling back. Grow up, guys. Source: ShutterStock
It's In Your GenesIf your parents cheated on each other, infidelity might be in your genes. One study found that people were more likely to cheat or sleep around because of DNA. This is the same gene that has been linked to alcohol and gambling addictions, which is pretty interesting - it's self-destructive. It also means that people who are seeking excitement are more likely to cheat, which we already covered. Source: ShutterStock
Guys Will Cheat Because Of Stronger Sexual ImpulsesWhy does it seem like it's always dudes who cheat? Well first of, it isn't, but if you really think that, this may be why: Research has found that because of "stronger sexual impulses," men are more likely to be unfaithful. Researchers also say that men couldn't resist the temptation, while women exhibited more self-control. So is it an issue of strong sexual impulses or lack of self-control? Come on - we all have strong sexual impulses. I would say it's the self-control issue, but that's just me. Source: ShutterStock
Have you ever cheated? Why did you do it? Why do you think people cheat? Have you ever been cheated on? Tell us in the comments.