From The Message Boards: Is It Normal To Have A Crush On A Fictional Character?

You know we love YA books and reading here so we can definitely relate to your feelings about fictional characters. How many times have you read a book and just wished, no, pleaded with the universe, that one of your favorite characters were real? I’ve been there.

This week on the message boards, y’all are talking about if it’s normal to have a crush on a fictional character. Let’s see what you had to say.

GurlSue said:

“I came across The Year of the Great Seventh and now I am totally obsessed with the main character, Nate. I finished it like 2 weeks ago, and I can’t stop thinking about him. I swear I think of the main character like 10 times each day. Am I going crazy? Why can’t I stop thinking about him? Have you ever become obsessed with a YA novel?”

1shortcourt said:

“I have read books where I cannot stop thinking about them. Now I wouldn’t use the word obsessed, but if you maybe talk to someone about the book that may help you to forget about it. Think, “Yeah that was a great book, wouldn’t it be great to meet a guy like Nate” and start another book.”

scuzz said:

“Ehh it’s normal haha. I have fictional crushes to an extent. I don’t think I’ve ever been that obsessive over one.”

Gabbymadd22 said:

“Sure you can crush! Growing up, I’ve crushed on SO many TV and movie characters. Here’s a brief list: Harry Potter, Cedric Diggory, Daniel (from The Karate Kid), Bridge the Green Ranger in Power Rangers SPD…yeah, I watch too much TV haha. But it’s nothing to be ashamed about. My theory is that it’s a way of escaping the depressing fact that I can’t get a real guy in real life so I crush on the brave, adventurous, daring Don Juans in fiction as comfort.”

Having a crush on a fictional character is totally normal! I’ve actually never met someone who hasn’t crushed on a fictional character. It makes sense, especially if you’re an avid reader, because you’re getting involved in a character’s life story just like you would a real person. Fiction also allows us to escape what’s going on in our lives, which is why we might feel so much attachment to the story and characters.

While it’s normal to crush on a fictional character, you do have to remember that they are in fact fictional. It’s perfectly normal to feel attracted to a character because you’re really attracted to their qualities. That means you want to someone in real life with those same qualities, which is great! But if you’re letting this fictional crush get in the way of your real interactions, then you might need to take a step back.

Whether you need to read a new book or have a fictional breakup with your fictional crush is up to you. Maybe talk to your friends about characters they love too so you don’t feel like you’re the only one. Don’t worry too much though about this fictional crush. Just like regular crushes, they come and go!
Have you ever had a crush on a fictional character? Who? How did you deal with it? Tell us in the comments!

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  • Shelby

    *Sigh*… I have many… MANY… crushes on fictional characters. My first one ever was Silver from STH and I was about… five or six…? I think. Second one was Kenny from South Park when I was seven. Yeap. I watched SP back then. I still do. My current crush, and probably my biggest one, is Ike from Fire Emblem. LIKE UGHHHHGHGHGHG WORDS CANNOT DESCRIBE HOW MUTHA FAHCKING PERFECT HE IS IN MY EYES. I always start desperately weeping when I remind myself that he isn’t real. </3

  • Kye

    Elizabeth Swann from Pirates of the Caribbean, hands down. I’ve rewatched the first three movies in the series so many times… lol. She’s feminine, and brave, she’s smart – she has a temper, but I love that. She’s just a well rounded, three dimensional character – who falls in love with the person she’s supposed to dislike, which means she’s not into stereotypes or judgmental. Great qualities. Not hard on the eyes either..

  • J

    Diana from the Gone series

  • Shun Sheene

    Hi! Well, I have a crush on a game character in the game Tekken, I don’t know how to explain why, but I really like him and hes always in my mind all day!!! 😀 peace 😀

  • XxxxXxx

    I am in a bit of an awkward situation now, as I am running a tabletop game and developing a crush on one of the player-characters. I suspect it is because of several factors, including (a) the character (not the player) wears glasses, (b) he has a somewhat cold exterior with evidence of softness underneath, (c)  he is an introverted, intellectual type, (d) his actions and interactions continue to surprise and entertain me, (e) the interplay between him and the other PC’s is very entertaining, and (f) I have had quite long crushes on the player (not the character) in the past. You can see how (f) can make things awkward, but to add to that, i have a boyfriend who is not the player in question. I suspect that it is a short-term thing and a symptom of me just missing my boyfriend, but really don’t have anyone to talk about it with. The people I would consider telling are other players in the game, and I don’t want to have this knowledge color their perception of everything that happens in the game (especially after the crush winds down). My other friends would likely think it’s weird and not really understand, and/or not be too good at keeping it a secret. So I am putting it here, where I suspect no one involved will ever be able to find it, just to get it off of my chest. Whew!

  • BlueRose1411

    I’ve had a crush on a good couple fictional characters. Gansey and Adam from the Raven Cycle Series, Tobias from Divergent, Newt from The Maze Runner books, Peeta from the trilogy you guys all know. Currently I have a massive crush on Dallas Winston from The Outsiders- AMAZING book by the way. I’m always going to have a crush on all of these fictional guys but I deal with it by reminding myself they’re fictional.

  • Random internet stranger

    I am 20 and this is my first crush ever. Its on Boromir from LotR… sad and fucked up if you ask me.

    Ah well. Watching the guy die from a banana while playing the Lego video game with my flatmate kinda hurt -.-

  • Ermdworm

    I’ve had a crush on simon lewis from the mortal instruments series since I started reading them I sometimes have dreams about him or think about him all day and then when i tell myself he’s not real it makes me feel empty and upset please reply I need some advice

  • Ellie

    I have a crush on Equius from homestuck <3

  • Morgana

    I think it’s pretty normal, so long as the crush doesn’t interfere with real-life relationships. I had a crush on Edmund from the Narnia movies. But no obsessions over anyone, ever.

  • Nessa

    Ah… that’s me. I’m OBSESSED. Probably to the point that I don’t like the opposite gender anymore. but that’s how i like it.

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  • Lauren

    I’ve had a crush on Sherlock Holmes for the last couple of years.

    • Olivia

      Watson, for me. :)

  • Jay

    I have always had a huge crush on Prince Zuko from Avatar. Whenever I mention that I think he is the coolest character, my family look at me with the “WTF” look. I know he’s a bad guy with a bad past, but I know he has a sensitive side. I am only on book 1, but I know I will love him even more through out the series!!

    I also ship Zutara!!

    • Laura

      Zuko and Jett. They were my fav and I ship Zutara as well!!!

  • Sophie

    My fictional character crush has to be from a game called assassins creed. There’s something incredibly attractive about ezio
    I guess I’m not the only one haha

  • LittleRedWolf

    Oh yeah, it’s so normal just as long as, like you said, you don’t let it get out of control or take it seriously. I had the biggest crush on Idgie Threadgoode from ‘Fried Green Tomatoes’ both in the film version and the book. I’ve had others, of course, but no need to list them all lol.