From The Message Boards: Is It Normal To Have A Crush On A Fictional Character?

You know we love YA books and reading here so we can definitely relate to your feelings about fictional characters. How many times have you read a book and just wished, no, pleaded with the universe, that one of your favorite characters were real? I’ve been there.

This week on the message boards, y’all are talking about if it’s normal to have a crush on a fictional character. Let’s see what you had to say.

GurlSue said:

“I came across The Year of the Great Seventh and now I am totally obsessed with the main character, Nate. I finished it like 2 weeks ago, and I can’t stop thinking about him. I swear I think of the main character like 10 times each day. Am I going crazy? Why can’t I stop thinking about him? Have you ever become obsessed with a YA novel?”

1shortcourt said:

“I have read books where I cannot stop thinking about them. Now I wouldn’t use the word obsessed, but if you maybe talk to someone about the book that may help you to forget about it. Think, “Yeah that was a great book, wouldn’t it be great to meet a guy like Nate” and start another book.”

scuzz said:

“Ehh it’s normal haha. I have fictional crushes to an extent. I don’t think I’ve ever been that obsessive over one.”

Gabbymadd22 said:

“Sure you can crush! Growing up, I’ve crushed on SO many TV and movie characters. Here’s a brief list: Harry Potter, Cedric Diggory, Daniel (from The Karate Kid), Bridge the Green Ranger in Power Rangers SPD…yeah, I watch too much TV haha. But it’s nothing to be ashamed about. My theory is that it’s a way of escaping the depressing fact that I can’t get a real guy in real life so I crush on the brave, adventurous, daring Don Juans in fiction as comfort.”

Having a crush on a fictional character is totally normal! I’ve actually never met someone who hasn’t crushed on a fictional character. It makes sense, especially if you’re an avid reader, because you’re getting involved in a character’s life story just like you would a real person. Fiction also allows us to escape what’s going on in our lives, which is why we might feel so much attachment to the story and characters.

While it’s normal to crush on a fictional character, you do have to remember that they are in fact fictional. It’s perfectly normal to feel attracted to a character because you’re really attracted to their qualities. That means you want to someone in real life with those same qualities, which is great! But if you’re letting this fictional crush get in the way of your real interactions, then you might need to take a step back.

Whether you need to read a new book or have a fictional breakup with your fictional crush is up to you. Maybe talk to your friends about characters they love too so you don’t feel like you’re the only one. Don’t worry too much though about this fictional crush. Just like regular crushes, they come and go!
Have you ever had a crush on a fictional character? Who? How did you deal with it? Tell us in the comments!

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  • Sith lord

    I know this sounds weird but I have a crush on Ahsoka Tano and I get real mad when I see a painting of her with a guy

  • Frag Wall

    Well let’s see, my anime crush in order is :

    Index – Magical Index
    Rikka – Chuunibyou
    Senjougahara Hitagi – Bakemonogatari
    Kagura – GinTama
    Tatsumaki – One-Punch Man

  • Anonymous weirdo

    I am crushing on gaara in naruto and can’t go a minute without thinking of him. He is depriving me of sleep. God why is it that anime characters are so hawt