10 Tips On What To Do When You Have A Crush On A Girl

I read through all of the questions and comments you girls send to Gurl.com (keep ‘em coming!) and recently, I’ve noticed that a lot of you seem to be sharing a similar problem: you have a crush on a girl (usually a friend), but you’re afraid to tell her and also, you’re freaking out a little bit because you thought you were straight but does this mean you’re a lesbian? Whew. It all seems very stressful.

If you’re going through this right now, don’t panic! You are definitely not alone and there is definitely nothing wrong with you having a crush on another girl, whether it means you’re bisexual, a lesbian or just a straight girl with a crush. Even celebrities have been in your shoes! In a recent interview with Entrevue magazine, Katy Perry said: “When I was 15, I fell in love with a female friend. I thought she was beautiful and wanted to be like her. She had such a huge impact on my life, but I never told her how I felt.”

Does that sound familiar? If so, read on for 10 tips on what to do when you have a crush on another girl. Having more than friendly feelings about a BFF can be scary and intimidating. Figuring out how to deal with your feelings can be really difficult. That’s why we’re here – to give you a helping hand and to remind you that, no matter what, there’s nothing wrong with this crush.

Have you ever had a crush on a girl? What did you do? Would you ever tell a girl you had a crush on her? What advice did I miss? Tell me in the comments.

 

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22 Comments

  1. avatarSamantha says:

    We all have the same problem , why don’t we go out together and see if things would work out

  2. avatarjomz says:

    im a 2nd year college student i have a huge crush on this girl,, everytime i saw her i feel so happy and I can’t help myself to smile my classmates know about it they told me to talk to her, but I can’t because I feel so nervous and shy, I really really liked her what should I do?

  3. avatarms fae says:

    I have a crush on a girl…I got these feelings in college (we knew each other before but I didn’tlike her that way then.) It sucks beca she thinks it is a total JOKE. I always try to get over my feelings because they confuse me, but I feel really protective around her like I want to live with her (???) And be on top *blush* which I am not like when I am with guys, at all. When she is around all I can think about is how beautiful she is. I saw her recently after about a year and my feelings were still strong. I was sad to see her leave when she went home. It totally messes up my relationships with men I have broke up with guys just to see if she’s interested which she is not. I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. Why is this happening.

  4. avatarKiki says:

    I’ve had a crush on my best friend for a while and I told her I kinda liked her sometime last year. She’s at my house right now and she’ll be staying over tonight and tomorrow night. Tomorrow will be the last day I see her and I’m nervous. She’s moving away next week so she’ll probably never come back. She has a boyfriend and she doesn’t really seem like the person who would have feelings for the same sex. I want to at least kiss her once before she leaves. I’m scared and nervous. Should I ask? What should I even say? What if I make things awkward? Please help.

  5. avatarphoebie says:

    Once in a while a girl stepped in the café i was working the last two semesters. We never really spoke with each other as both of us are more of the shy/introvert type. I didn’t really like working at this place but she was literally my only motivation to keep up with this job. Every time I hoped so much she would show up. Although we didn’t speak much she would make my day at this place and I always started feeling so nervous and blushing when speaking to her. And then, eventually, we exchanged Facebook names. She was my very first crush on a girl and I didn’t know if she is Bi but certainly not Les. I was very eager to meet her and we eventually hooked up two times. We were drinking a lot and it was so much fun! But still I think that she doesn’t put so much effort in getting to know me or meeting me. She seems so busy and kind of the loner type. Tough, she told me that we have a special kind of non-lesbian love?!? WTF. So i stopped messaging her as I feared to appear creepy and pushy. We haven’t seen each other in a month and I know she is going to move out of the country soon. I wished I had just kissed her this evening. And if we would ever talk to each other again I’d just tell her what I felt during this time. In the end, we won’t see each other ever again and I wouldn’t care so much about her reaction.

  6. avatarmsshy says:

    There girl be like and I’m really nervous when get around her but don’t know if she bisexual sometime she look me and smile. I’m scared to talk to her cause don’t want to spread around the school and go trying write notes to her scared she show to someone

  7. avatarKitty says:

    Up until 6 months ago, I was sure that I was straight, but then I started to crush on a good friend of mine, who I get the train to school with, and I can’t stop thinking about her. I think she likes me but only as a friend. I get really nervous around her and I just want to confess to her, but I have 3 or 4 years left in high school and I’m afraid if she rejects me that she will tell everyone and they will make fun of me. I’m just so confused.

  8. avatarJen says:

    I have a huge crush on a female I see every once in a while. I am very shy so I tend to be quiet when I’m around her. I try hard to fight and forget what I feel towards her but I just can’t get her out of my head.

  9. avatarlee says:

    im in high school and its this girl ive been crushing on for months now
    and she gives me signs i guess sometimes
    but thats still not enough for me to officially know if she likes me like i like her..
    i cant stop thinking about her shes driving me crazy
    im too young to feel so depressed and sad its almost
    like shes teasing me .i wish these feelings would just go away
    already! and plus im in the closet (bisexual at least i think)
    but if i told her how i feel ithink she would out me i need help!

    • avatarheather says:

      What kind of signs does she give? Maybe shes afraid of her feelings or sexuality.. maybe hang out alone wih her and see how she acts

  10. avatarheather says:

    Im straight always been straight but recently i suddenly have developed a hardcore crush on a female coworker and i dont know what to do she is straight too. But whenever i see her my heart starts racing i sometimes run and hide i cant stop thinking about her we dont work in the same area thank god but all i can do is admire from afar

  11. avatarheather says:

    Im straight always been straight but recently i sudden

  12. avatargabe price says:

    A senior girl has a crush on me what do I do

    • avatarIqra says:

      well if you like her then you could consider going out with her.
      But if you don’t you could nicely reject her which might not be pretty.

  13. avatarMadrea says:

    I have a crush on a straight girl right now, im a lesbian. its the worst thing ever. dont do it. it hurts to have a crush on someone who will probably never like you, but to have a crush on someone who just doesnt like girls as a whole…IT SUCKS.

  14. avatarAnn says:

    I have a crush on a female coworker. We’ve gotten a little close, every once in a while I flirt with her but very casually. I don’t have the guts to ask her if she’s ever experimented or had a crush on a girl. I’m afraid she would immediately know that I like her like that and I would be so embarrased if she rejected me. And since we work together it would make things weird. But man, I can’t stop thinking about her. She really makes me want to be a better person. That sounds like a cliché but its really how it is for me. I would love to tell her one day.

    • avatarKat says:

      Ann — I can understand how you feel :) I play roller hockey with a group of girls — many of them are lesbians — and we are all casual friends. One in particular I think I have a crush on. I doubt she feels in any way like that about me — I am both straight and happily married while she is a lesbian and single. But lately being around these girls and talking more about their lifestyle has piqued my curiosity about what it would be like to kiss and/or experiment with a girl. However, I am starting to feel like I wouldn’t want to do this with any girl — just her specifically. I have no idea if I could ever seriously approach her but I think I could maybe one day — after a few drinks — tell her that if I was to ever try anything out with a girl, it would be her. I just wouldn’t want it to make the friendship we have awkward.

    • avatarJenni says:

      I am straight girl have a crush on girl, she is my cowoker , i know she is Lesbian . It started nine month ago , i can’t stop thinking about her , i like her so much that i can not put into words . We talk sometime when her friends are not around. but i cannot tell her how i feel. I am so scared of rejection. Now i am in situation that i have already explain to her . But this situation i am now , it has not change the way i feel about her . I am so worried in few month time i will not be able to see her, i wish she makes a first move and talk to me or exchange her mobile number with me so that we can be in touch . I like her so much.

    • avatarJenni says:

      I am straight girl have a crush on girl, she is my cowoker , i know she is Lesbian . It started nine month ago , i can’t stop thinking about her , i like her so much that i can not put into words . We talk sometime when her friends are not around. but i cannot tell her how i feel. I am so scared of rejection. Now i am in situation that i have already explain to her . But this situation i am now , it has not change the way i feel about her . I am so worried in few month time i will not be able to see her, i wish she makes a first move and talk to me or exchange her mobile number with me so that we can be in touch . I like her so much.

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