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When I started high school, there were so many clubs and sports to join that it got a little overwhelming. I hadn’t totally figured out what my interests were, but I knew that I was definitely interested in boys.
Remember that episode of Lizzie McGuire when Lizzie pretends to like all the things Ethan Craft likes so that he’ll finally fall for her? She even temporarily takes up golf. I could totally relate, because I’ve done that… more than once. I thought that liking and participating in the things that my crushes liked would help mold me into the “perfect girl” for them. Want to hear how it went? Here are the 5 craziest things I’ve done to get a guy to like me.
Joined The Track Team
One of my crushes was an amazing runner and since I needed to do a winter sport anyway, I joined the track team to get closer to him. I got into amazing shape that season, but the truth is, I really hate running! Some people talk about feeling a “runner’s high,” but when I run, I just feel like I am going to keel over and pass out. Looking back, I can’t believe I invested so much of my free time doing something that I wasn’t passionate about and that didn’t make me happy. Yeah, my crush and I got to talk a little bit… but I wasn’t as good of a runner as he was, so I felt like he was leaving me in the dust – literally and figuratively.
Ran For Class President
One of my other crushes during high school was older than me. He was also the president of his class and so I thought that if I were the president of my class, I would impress him and we’d have more in common. I don’t regret running for class president, but I do regret doing it for the wrong reasons. I forced myself to campaign even though it made me feel uncomfortable and I wasn’t passionate about it. It took up so much of time that could have instead been devoted to getting better grades or hanging with my friends. When I didn’t win my crush over or score the position of class president, I felt like even more of a loser than I did before.
Faked An Interest In Football
In ninth grade, this totally cute older guy sat in front of me in Science. I knew he was a major Jets fan, so I decided that I had to like the Jets too so that we’ve have something to talk about. I had my mom fill me in on how the season was going and I watched games with her just so I could talk about them with my crush on Mondays. I even doodled “Jets” on my folder and kept asking him questions during class, hoping he would notice the doodle and be impressed that I was a Jets fan. The truth is, I didn’t and still don’t understand anything about how football works or why anyone finds it interesting. It just doesn’t appeal to me. I never had any idea what I was talking about and it must have been pretty obvious to him, too, because we never talked outside of class.
Covered Sports For The School Newspaper
I’m really passionate about writing, so I joined the school newspaper. When it came time to choose which section of my paper I wanted to cover, I chose sports just so that I could talk to cute guys. I’m not really interested in guys’ sports (see above), so writing articles about them was difficult and boring for me. When I did get face time with lots of cute dudes, conversations were all about things I didn’t even really understand. They never got t see what me unique or interesting.
I’ve done this a few different times, but especially during my senior year of high school, when I met a guy who was obviously not the brightest. I was taking honors and AP classes and had already been accepted to a good college, but I felt like sounding smart in front of him would make me sound like I thought I was better than him and turn him off. I wanted him to like me, so I wanted to be on his level. I acted ditzy around him a lot, but it didn’t work. He turned out to be even less intelligent than I thought, but he also wasn’t impressed by my act. Having to hide who you really are isn’t a great way to start a relationship and we didn’t work out.
As you can see, trying to change who you are just to impress a guy never works – at least in my experience. Looking back, I’m so embarrassed at how obvious it must have been that I was doing things just to impress my crushes and get guys to like me! I can’t even remember why I liked those guys so much.
I wish I had spent more time doing the activities that I found fun or interesting and making new friends instead. Now, I would never try to change who I am or what my interests are for a guy because I think girls who are busy enjoying their lives are the girls most likely to find a fulfilling relationship. Besides, any guy who gets to know me will eventually find out the truth: I still don’t like football.
Have you ever done anything stupid to get a guy to like you? What was it? Tell us in the comments.