10 Signs Your Friend Has A Crush On Your Boyfriend

When I was in high school, I found myself in one of the most awkward, uncomfortable situations ever: a new friend who I had grown really close to had started crushing on my boyfriend, who I had been dating for three years. I met my friend, because she was dating one of my boyfriend’s friends. When they broke up, she started spending a lot of time with my BF and I, growing closer to both of us.

It didn’t take long for me to figure out that she was crushing hard on my boyfriend – and I wasn’t the only one who noticed. At first, I tried to stay friends with her since I genuinely cared about her as my BFF. But after a while, I couldn’t deal with it anymore. Her crush drove us apart and we stopped speaking entirely. Two years later, the same exact thing happened with another, different best friend. This time, the situation was so bad that I broke up with my boyfriend and got in a huge, dramatic fight with said friend.

So, it’s safe to say that I know how to tell if your friend has a crush on your boyfriend. There are some telltale signs that you might want to ignore, because you don’t want to lose either of them, but you shouldn’t. Things can get very tricky very fast… trust me.

Do you think one of your friends has a crush on your boyfriend? Has this ever happened to you? What happened? Tell me in the comments.

 

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  • Fatihah

    so like my bf once has a crush on my friend before we dating since me and my bf start of as a friend i don’t really think that it was a big thing until recently i somehow realize how my friend react on my bf like she all over him when we go on double date it turn out to be so messed up like she abandoned her bf and talk with my bf i can’t really do anything because im afraid that we gonna fight so i just ignore it but i sense something going to be wrong and my relationship with my bf it so not good right now

  • sophie

    my so called friend started talking to my boyfriend before we started dating but as soon as we started to get serious, i’ve asked her 3 times to stop and she still continues to talk to him and she gets so defensive when i tell her to stop, saying things like ‘we’re friends, is that not allowed?’ but they have never met in real life they only talk on snapchat and facetime and whenever she has a problem she goes to him not anyone else

  • Manga

    So just after watching a good show of love and hip hop : Hollywood . I went to bed slept and had a steamy dream about a guy I like . So the next day the guy I had a steamy dream about calls me 🤔 . Cool right but thing is there are two guys that like me . Interesting right …. so I tell my friend about it and she’s like cool let’s give them names …. m( the guy in my dream ) and s ( the other sweet guy) . So what happens is things got kinda intense bcoz s found out about m . He called me nd by accident my phone answers and S heard the whole convo with me nd M . Plus S heared me call M cute …. so I told my friend it’s so crazy and I asked her what would she do if she were in the situation . She gave me a shady answer saying she wouldn’t do that to hurt anybody’s feelings . Well well well the girl tho . She was the one who said I can have two boyfriends at the same time . And she said if I can’t handle the situation she can tke my place taking M ( steamy dreamy guy) . I looked at her confused and said no I meant example with other guys not mine . Well I realized she likes my guy nd wants to be in my situation . So I decided to say things like omgosh M is so dreamy . She admitted that she likes him . I was annoyed because she has her own guy but wants mine . We stay together and the whole damn day she didn’t speak to me . When I call her she acts like she can’t hear me . What should I do ? I feel like she is a snake in the grass

  • Fireflower

    Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost two years. And in these two years we had been through a lot of ups and downs. Our fights get out of control and thats when my best friend’s role comes into play. In January this year, we had a terrible fight and I had never seen my boyfriend so out of control. He wasn’t listening to me and so in order to save our relationship I had to tell my best friend to talk to him for me. That’s when I gave her his number. She did talk to him and somehow things did come back to normal again.
    It’s been 4 months now since then. All of us are in high school and so the last four months we had been given study leave to study for our final board exams. My boyfriend and I have plans to get into a good school and so we decided to work our ass off for these 4 months. We decided to minimise our social network usage and he told me that we would only talk to each other and nobody else. Earlier we used to have multiple social networking sites but for these 4 months we had planned to use only one where only two of us would talk. I agreed with him.
    Recently I got to know that I was the only one working according to our plan. He had been active in another social networking site where he used to often talk with my best friend. My best friend told me this 3 months later. I was shocked and didn’t know how to react. When I asked him, he innocently agreed. But I didn’t want to act paranoid and I did trust both if them a lot, and so I didn’t react at all and said it was okay with me. I also said that infact I am glad that my boyfriend and my best friend had become good friends.
    Its been 1 month since I said that but now I am having second thoughts. They talk a lot and she sends him intimate forwarded messages. One message was something like he had to choose any letter from A to Z and then she would say what dare he had to performe. Thank fully he chose the most innocent option (owes to good luck). But the other options said stuff like ‘smooch me’, ‘flirt with me’, ‘send me a sexy picture’ etc. I got to know about this message as he had forwarded the same message to me and when I asked him who sent HIM that he told me it was her. I was really very upset but still I didnt say a word. I didnt expect that she would send something like that to him. Later she said that if he would have chosen a different option, she would have never sent him the answer. I don’t know what’s going on and I am really frustrated and confused. Please help.

  • Fireflower

    Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost two years. And in these two years we had been through a lot of ups and downs. Our fights get out of control and thats when my best friend’s role comes into play. In January this year, we had a terrible fight and I had never seen my boyfriend so out of control. He wasn’t listening to me and so in order to save our relationship I had to tell my best friend to talk to him for me. That’s when I gave her his number. She did talk to him and somehow things did come back to normal again.
    It’s been 4 months now since then. All of us are in high school and so the last four months we had been given study leave to study for our final board exams. My boyfriend and I have plans to get into a good school and so we decided to work our ass off for these 4 months. We decided to minimise our social network usage and he told me that we would only talk to each other and nobody else. Earlier we used to have multiple social networking sites but for these 4 months we had planned to use only one where only two of us would talk. I agreed with him.
    Recently I got to know that I was the only one working according to our plan. He had been active in another social networking site where he used to often talk with my best friend. My best friend told me this 3 months later. I was shocked and didn’t know how to react. When I asked him, he innocently agreed. But I didn’t want to act paranoid and I did trust both if them a lot, and so I didn’t react at all and said it was okay with me. I also said that infact I am glad that my boyfriend and my best friend had become good friends.
    Its been 1 month since I said that but now I am having second thoughts. They talk a lot and she sends him intimate forwarded messages. One message was something like he had to choose any letter from A to Z and then she would say what dare he had to performe. Thank fully he chose the most innocent option (owes to good luck). But the other options said stuff like ‘smooch me’, ‘flirt with me’, ‘send me a sexy picture’ etc. I got to know about this message as he had forwarded the same message to me and when I asked him who sent HIM that he told me it was her. I was really very upset but still I didnt say a word. I didnt expect that she would send something like that to him. Later she said that if he would have chosen a different option, she would have never sent him the answer. I don’t know what’s going on and I am really frustrated and confused. Please help.

  • Secret

    Omg… I just started dating and my BFF is doing just about all of these things.. She won’t let me see her and my BF’s text messages and stuff like that. Whenever I try to bring up the subject to either of them they never answer. I don’t want to think of the possibility that she does like him or if he’s cheating.

  • Secret

    Omg… I just started dating and my BFF is doing just about all of these things.. She won’t let me see her and my BF’s text messages and stuff like that. Whenever I try to bring up the subject to either of them they never answer. I don’t want to think of the possibility that she does like him or if he’s cheating. Someone please help 🙁

  • Megan

    My best friend Aira always goes down to my boyfriends tutor (we’re still in high school) and she always flirts with him constantly playing with his hair. I wouldn’t mind it but all of my girl friends are constantly flirting with him and sitting on him and this just makes me feel upset because they just don’t even consider my feelings. The only person who’s noticed is my ex boyfriend keagan (we’re still friends) he’s been asking me how i feel with this relationship and if we talk, he’s also being asking if i’m alright with all the girls flirting with my boyfriend and i’ve told him about it and he’s saying i should speak to the girls but honistly they don’t even listen to me…..
    Any advice?

    • Secret

      Talk to your boyfriend in private about it. Depending on what he says, the problem could be resolved. But if he shows signs of disapproval, as in, he’s denying that their flirting and/or he doesn’t mind, you need to tell him that your not happy with it. A boyfriend isn’t a lover if they don’t help you and make you feel better.

  • Anymous

    I think my boyfriend secretly likes my bestfriend more then me, and my bestfriend secretly likes him. They’re always talking , he stops txting me to just txt her . She’s always talking about him,showing me the convos with him. They’re more of a couple then we are . I just miss the way things use to be when it seemed like it was only us two before she started getting close to me and him

    • hi

      wow.. i have the same problem… My boyfriend and my best friend are very handsy and talk A LOT… he never pays attention to me anymore and my best friend is pretending to be clueless about the whole thing. my other friends has noticed this too.. it really bothers me a lot and i really want to break up with him. She defends him when HER OWN BOYFRIEND calls him names… I really need help.. Should I break up with him?!

    • Secret

      Here’s the plan: If and whenever your with him alone, grab his phone when he goes to do something. If he has a password, there’s problem number one. If you know it, YES! If you don’t, follow this sneaky tactic to figure it out: 1. Wipe the screen vertically with your fingers so that there are no fingerprints on it. 2. Ask him to type his password because you want to see something (like a game or whatever). 3. When he isn’t looking, hold the phone up to the light. Bingo, the dots from his fingerprints are now visible. 4. Use the dots to figure out the password. Number pins are easier. Done.
      Ok, after you have access to his phone, look at all his social media (if he has any.) Look at anything that you know your bestie has as well. That counts for things like Messenger, Skype, WhatsApp, Kik, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, etc. If you see anything (messages, pictures) with stuff like “Bae,” “My Boo,” “Lover,” or even your bestie’s social media name or even their real name, you should defiantly check those out. The rest depends on what you find… Good luck.

  • Anastacia

    I’m not sure if my friend like my boyfriend because she’s not like that but lately I’ve been noticing things and I’m not the only one my other friends also noticed it. The 3 of us attend the same school my friend and boyfriend is in the same grade, and I’m one grade lower than them. So that means that at times he goes to her house and they’ll be doing their tasks and its not that I don’t trust him, I do honestly….. But it just the things that she’s been saying to me, she would ask me what would I do if I catch them making out… And she’ll be asking him for hugs and such. He evem kisses her on her cheek!!! I don’t wanna tell him how I feel about this beacause then I’ll seem insecure… I’ve told him before to just see the way she acts around him but he says that she’s normal around him….I really don’t know what to do

    • Secret

      It seems as though they are secretly a couple… You better break up with him because he’s not being loyal and she’s not being what a friend should be..

  • Isabella B

    My friend is always trying to be around my boyfriend is always looking out for him and just before we started dating she was talking bad about him and she had a boyfriend. But ever since she broke up with her boyfriend she’s been acting different like making sure he’s okay, alway looking at him, talks to him when I’m not around, does stuff to make him notice her. But when me and my boyfriend hold hands or hug in front of her you can tell that she is mad.

    • Secret

      She defiantly likes him. You should really address the situation with her and if she tries to change the subject or deny it, keep talking. You need to get your point across and let her know he’s taken.