Every time I have ended a relationship, I’ve gone through the “stuff” to determine what to keep, what to trash and what to give back. When you’re in a relationship you just accumulate a lot of things, and you don’t necessarily want those things after the breakup because you associate them with memories.
Some people think you shouldn’t keep anything, but I don’t believe that. I’m not into the Men In Black style of just erasing your memory completely. I don’t think it’s healthy to keep everything because doing so won’t help you get over your former love. However, there are a lot of things that are fine to keep around and that won’t prohibit you from moving on.
Check out some things that you don’t have to put in a breakup box:
Clothes He Gifted
I believe gifts you can definitely keep, especially if you really like them. I have an awesome plaid shirt that my ex bought for me. I wear it all the time. It doesn't mean I'm thinking about him when I wear it. It just happens to fit me really well, and it's cute. Why would I get rid of that?
Photos You Look Really Good In
I generally untag and get rid of most pictures I have with exes. But if I look really good, I'm keeping it.
A stuffed animal from that amusement park you went to, a keychain, some souvenir he got you from his family vacation? All harmless memories that you don't have to toss.
KEEP THE JEWELRY.
Sweatpants You Stole
I'm a notorious sweatpants stealer. I love sweatpants. And I especially like sweatpants that are big on me. I have three pairs of ex-sweatpants. Sue me.
I like books so boyfriends buy me books. Why would you get rid of literature?
T-Shirts You Snagged
This is a tricky one because sometimes exes will ask for t-shirts back, especially if they really like them. I ended up getting rid of almost every shirt from my college boyfriend because I didn't want them. But I kept one because it was my favorite t-shirt, and it's great for running errands in.
I never get rid of letters from exes or from anyone. My mom recently found a box of old letters from my first boyfriend, and it was actually really cool to go back and read them.
Did you keep anything from your past relationships? What do you think it’s okay to keep? Is there anything you definitely shouldn’t? Tell us in the comments!