So how do you deal if you’re being judged because of your sex life? That’s what you’re talking about on the message boards this week! Let’s see what y’all had to say:
“How do you ladies deal with other women judging you for your sexual history? I am a very sexual person, and honestly prefer the single life. I live my life moment to moment, and a lot of time this includes a variety of sexual partners. I have no problem with this, and feel no shame. Lots of girls try to shame me for my high numbers, or the fact that men seem to gravitate toward me. I receive lots of flack for it. What do you guys do? I usually ignore it and don’t give any reaction, but sometimes this isn’t satisfying. Just looking for advice.”
“I ignore it, too. The only persons who’s opinion matters is yours. As long as you’re comfortable and fine with what you do, it doesn’t matter what they think or say. Who are they to judge? They’re probably just jealous.”
“A huge factor is how you see yourself. Do you judge yourself harshly, or fondly? Sounds like you are comfortable with yourself. Then just understand where these other people are coming from. They’re saying if they were in your shoes they wouldn’t behave that way. They would tone it down, not be so promiscuous (that’s the word they choose; you can chose “healthy”). They wouldn’t have so many different partners. They wouldn’t be comfortable living your life.”
Honestly, when it comes to your sex life, it is NO ONE’S business! People will always find ways to get under your skin, which sucks, but unfortunately this is the world we live in. The key is how you deal with it.
If you are comfortable with yourself and the decisions you make in your life, that’s what matters. When people comment on your sex life or anything about you, ignore it. It really is the best thing to do. When you’re being bullied, for whatever reason, ignoring it is the best and safest way to go. No, it might not feel particularly satisfying. But you haven’t done anything wrong and people who feel the need to judge others are often looking for a reaction to make themselves feel better.
So if you don’t react, they get nothing out of it. They’ll eventually leave you alone and move on to someone else. But always remember that your sex life isn’t anyone’s to judge. Don’t ever let someone make you feel badly because you have sex or because you don’t. Your opinion about your sex life is the only one that matters.
Have you ever been judged because of your sex life? How did you handle it? Tell us in the comments!
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