When you’re in a relationship, especially a new one, you usually feel pretty infatuated with your boyfriend. That’s normal, especially in the beginning. But there is a big difference between a healthy, close, intimate relationship and a relationship where you are 100 percent dependent on your boyfriend. Those dependent relationships? Yeah, they’re not good.
Being too dependent on your boyfriend means that you lose your sense of self – who you really are. It means that you feel like you can’t really function without him. It’s never okay to rely on one other person for all of your happiness. That’s not fair for either of you! The best relationships are the ones where each person has their own thing going on to, whether it’s regular nights with your friends or a hobby your SO just doesn’t get. Plus, when you’re that dependent on someone, breaking up becomes ten times harder. So, how do you know if you need to back off a little? Start by reading these 10 signs you’re too dependent on your boyfriend.
You Feel Miserable and Lost When You're Not With HimIt's normal to miss your boyfriend a little bit when you guys aren't together, but it starts to cross the line when it makes you feel seriously miserable lost. If you have no idea what to do with yourself when he's busy, that's a huge sign that you're too dependent on him to make you happy. You should able to get through a day on your own without feeling like you need him by your side. Source: ShutterStock
You Text Him All Day, Then Call Him LaterI'm not going to tell you how often you should talk to your boyfriend. What I'm trying to say here is that if you're literally texting him the entire day and then talking to him for hours on the phone, well... it basically means you need to keep in touch way too much. It's good to be apart a little! It gives you more to talk about when you're together. Source: ShutterStock
You Freak Out If He Doesn't Answer Right AwayDo you practically have a panic attack if your boyfriend doesn't answer the phone when you call him or if he takes more than 20 minutes to respond to a text? If so - danger, danger! Look, just because he has a cell phone doesn't mean he's at your beck and call. If he doesn't respond, he might be too busy. If you can't handle waiting to hear from him, that means there's something wrong. Source: ShutterStock
You Like What He LikesIf you have changed all of your views and opinions based on what your boyfriend likes and doesn't like... not good. You need to maintain your sense of self when in a relationship. It's great to have some things in common. It's also totally fine to disagree on some things. Source: ShutterStock
When You Guys Are In Public, You Don't Leave His SideWhen you guys go out together, are you practically attached at the hip? Do you stick by his side, holding his hand, no matter what else is going on? If so, relax a little bit. Step away from the boyfriend. Let him breathe a little bit. Being on top of him in public makes it seem like you don't know how to interact with others without him and that's not okay. Source: ShutterStock
You Don't Make Decisions Unless You Talk To Him FirstSay your friends ask if you want to hang out next Friday and you have nothing planned. Do you say yes... or do you wait to see what your boyfriend is doing? If you wait to talk to him, doing stuff like that means you're incapable of making a decision without his input or approval. Just because you're a couple doesn't mean you're one person - you need to be able to do your own thing sometimes. You need to make decision for you, not for him. Source: ShutterStock
You Don't Remember The Last Time You Had A Girl's NightSpeaking of friends, when was the last time you had a girl's night that didn't involve your boyfriend at all? Oh, you can't remember? Not good. Doing your own thing is important, like I said, and you should be making time for your friends too. Source: ShutterStock
You Get Annoyed When He Has Guy NightsIf your boyfriend sometimes just wants to be with his friends without you and that bugs you, that's not okay. Just like you need time to be with your BFFs, he needs time alone to be with his. It's not him blowing you off or being mean, it's just him wanting a little bit of space. Source: ShutterStock
If He's In A Bad Mood, You're In A Bad MoodYour mood shouldn't depend on his mood. He might be angry or sad or bummed out, but that doesn't mean you have to be too. Again, be your own person. Have your own sense of self. Don't try to become one mega-person here. That's not healthy. Source: ShutterStock
You've Basically Never Been SingleAnother sign of being too dependent is if you're one of those girls who has never been single - you jump from relationship to relationship and can't stand the thought of being on your own. This is not good. Everyone should be single for a few years of their life. It lets you learn who YOU are as a person, not who you are as someone's girlfriend. Being single allows you to experience things and grow into yourself. That's really important! Source: ShutterStock
Do you think you’re too dependent on your boyfriend? Have you ever experienced any of these things? Tell me in the comments.