7 Ways To Respond When Your Ex Texts You

It seems like when you’re happy or dating someone new, your ex will all of a sudden pop out of NOWHERE. I don’t know why this happens. Do exes just get a sixth sense when you break up that tells them to text you out of the blue? I think they do. And it’s really annoying.

As you all know, I am currently seeing someone. This is a big deal for me because I’ve been single for almost two years. I’m really, really happy, and this guy is just the best. Well, apparently the guy that I kinda sort of dated earlier this year decided that it would be a good time to see what I was up to. He texted me out of nowhere last weekend. I was really annoyed and told him to leave me alone.

We haven’t talked in months! Why did he feel that it was necessary to talk to me? You had your chance, dude. Now go away. I probably could have handled the situation better than I did (I was pretty mean), but whatever. I don’t like it when people try to walk all over me.

It did get me thinking about how this happens a lot though. So here are some ways you can respond when your ex texts or tries to contact you.

Has this ever happened to you? How did you respond? Have you ever texted your ex out of the blue? Tell us in the comments!

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  • jesse

    me and and my recent ex also broke up. and i want to do the no contact but for some reason she ends up texting me. I dont know what to do.

  • jody

    My ex contacted me via text yesteray after 4 months , which is when I kicked him out. I kicked him out because he disappeared for 6 days , no call , no show. His message was can I get him out of a jam , if I do , then we can restore our friendship.. Ofcourse I don’t respond . and don’t plan on it.

  • Ai

    I learned from experience that my ex only texted me when he was A) Horny B) Needed an ego boost or C) things with his current favor of the month wasn’t working out. He would send a text “Thinking about you, miss you”, which of course, would make me melt and I’d text him back. The next thing I knew, I was drawn in again, and he just reverted back to treating me in his default custom (aka being a jerk). The last time I spoke with him on the phone while I was on vacation, he was really cruel, so we agreed it was best that we not speak anymore. Not so fast. In 30 days, he texted the “thinking of you” text again. I didn’t respond this time and it felt amazing to keep going about my day, putting him where he belonged: in my past. An ex is an ex for a reason, ladies.

  • Joey

    Funny how this happens. I always have some ex who breaks the silence and send a trolling text. For me, I sort of went the route of waiting until I had time. I will not stop what I am doing for any text. Then I point blank asked why he has reached out after X amount of time if I can remember or its well, I haven’t spoken to you in a long while, what’s the purpose of your reaching out? I think I deserve to know what his angle is.

    This puts him on the line to either A. Be a coward and run away, B. Lie, or C. Tell the truth. You always know the difference between the three by either the specifics or ambiguity of his text. You dated him. You know all of his shortcomings if you paid attention.

    Most importantly, a text, I am sorry, is a lame and poor way to contact someone after a long time. I find it insulting. Perhaps after the first text, he can call. If not, he really isn’t worth it. Rule: if you aren’t worth a phone call, he isn’t worth the time.

  • chantal

    I wish I’d read this a few months ago. If you send a rude, angry message that just lets him know that he still has power over you. Better to be curt.