It seems like when you’re happy or dating someone new, your ex will all of a sudden pop out of NOWHERE. I don’t know why this happens. Do exes just get a sixth sense when you break up that tells them to text you out of the blue? I think they do. And it’s really annoying.
As you all know, I am currently seeing someone. This is a big deal for me because I’ve been single for almost two years. I’m really, really happy, and this guy is just the best. Well, apparently the guy that I kinda sort of dated earlier this year decided that it would be a good time to see what I was up to. He texted me out of nowhere last weekend. I was really annoyed and told him to leave me alone.
We haven’t talked in months! Why did he feel that it was necessary to talk to me? You had your chance, dude. Now go away. I probably could have handled the situation better than I did (I was pretty mean), but whatever. I don’t like it when people try to walk all over me.
It did get me thinking about how this happens a lot though. So here are some ways you can respond when your ex texts or tries to contact you.
Hey How's It Going?
This is perfect if you're on good terms with your ex and are open to the idea of being friends. It's a simple and easy way to start some small talk.
This is great if you're not really sure what to say. Just delay the response and make your ex wait. Take some time to figure out how you feel about this and then respond when you want to.
Hope You're Doing Well
Simple and to the point. It says "I don't want you to get hit by a car or anything, but I don't really want to talk to you either."
I Don't Want To Talk To You
You can be bold and upfront if you feel like talking to your ex is an issue. I told the guy who texted me "Please leave me alone" and he obliged. Sometimes you have to be really direct.
I Need More Time
If you're not ready to talk to your ex, don't rush it! Let them know that you need a little more time post-breakup before you can talk to them. There's no shame in being honest.
We Should Get Together Sometime
This works for two things. The first is if you actually want to get together with your ex. You can open up that door if you wish. The other is just you being polite. It's like when you run into a family friend and are all "Let's do lunch!" but you never do.
You don't have to respond to the ex text. You really don't. Sometimes it's best just to leave things be.
Has this ever happened to you? How did you respond? Have you ever texted your ex out of the blue? Tell us in the comments!