While I would never call myself a relationship expert (because I don’t think anyone is), I will say that over the past few years, I have learned a lot about relationships. I’ve learned from experience, from mistakes, from listening to friends and from reading websites. But I think the most important thing I learned was something I caught onto myself: you can’t expect any kind of relationship to live up to the perfect expectations you will inevitably have.
While some expectations are good (you should obviously have an idea of what you want), a lot of them can end up hurting you. A lot of us, myself get included, get these unrealistic expectations from romantic movies or the relationships we see on TV shows. Sometimes we get them from magazines and sometimes we get them from our friends.
The truth is, no relationship is perfect. And if we expect everything to go exactly as we want it to go, or as we’ve seen it go in movies, things are going to go wrong. Every relationship is different. Not only that, but every good relationship takes work, dedication and a lot of effort. I’ve seen many friends dump guys because things weren’t living up to their unrealistic expectations of sunshine and happiness and ooey-gooey love. Don’t let it happen to you! Here are 10 you need to get rid of ASAP.
You'll Never Get A Little Sick Of Each OtherChances are, once you've been in a relationship for a while, you're going to get a little sick of each other once in a while. This is completely normal if you guys spend a lot of time together. It shouldn't be a constant thing - you should obviously enjoy spending time with the person you're dating - but it's okay if it happens sometimes. That means you need to go have a "me" day where you just do things for yourself. Source: ShutterStock
He'll Never Notice Anyone ElseI see a lot of comments on here with girls saying things like, "If a guy is your boyfriend, he should never be looking at any other girls." Saying and thinking something like this is completely unrealistic. We're humans, we notice other people whether they're attractive or not. It's ridiculous to expect your boyfriend to find you and only you attractive just because you're dating. Try not to get too furious at your BF if you catch him checking out another girl or saying someone else is cute - it's normal and it happens and it doesn't mean he loves you any less. Source: ShutterStock
He'll Always Immediately Support Everything You DoYes, your boyfriend should ultimately support you through it all. But does that mean it will happen automatically? Not really. Sometimes you're going to make decisions that your boyfriend isn't going to be thrilled about and vice versa. That doesn't mean he's a bad BF! If he never supports you and is mean about everything, then, yeah, he's a bad boyfriend. But don't think about breaking up just because he doesn't immediately agree with you about everything. Source: ShutterStock
Everyone In Your Life Will Love HimIn a perfect world, every member of your family and all of your friends would love your boyfriend. In the real world, that will most likely not happen. It's great when your girlfriends get along with your boyfriend! But they're not always going to and that's okay. If every single person you know can't stand him, that's a warning sign, but if just a few people aren't that on board? That's just a difference in opinions. Source: ShutterStock
He'll Always Say The Right ThingHe won't. Don't expect him to because, guess what? He's not perfect! He's not Ryan Gosling reading a carefully written script full of cute and romantic quotes. He's a person who makes mistakes and sometimes says things he shouldn't or says things that come out wrong. And you are too, so cut him some slack. Source: ShutterStock
You'll Be Close With All Of His FriendsLike I said... in a perfect world, everyone would get along. But truthfully, your boyfriend will probably end up having some friends you don't like. You might not get along with all of them. And if you do, you guys might never end up being best friends. That's okay. You don't both have to have all the same friends. Source: ShutterStock
He'll Always Do Small Romantic GesturesI hate to break it to you, but not every guy is a romantic. I had one boyfriend who bought me surprise presents and gave me flowers whenever I was feeling sad. It was very romantic. My boyfriend now? Not the same. His idea of romance is surprising me by washing my car or letting me finish his brownie. And I love it because the point isn't what he's doing, it's the thought behind it. Basically what I'm saying is that romance comes in many different forms - it doesn't just mean flowers and candy and jewelry. Embrace the differences. Source: ShutterStock
Hooking Up Will Always Be Great... and Will Happen All The TimeSorry to burst your bubble, but hooking up with your SO will not always be a magical experience. Weird stuff will happen. Awkward stuff. Sometimes one of you will be too tired or sick. I don't know. Also, once you've been dating for a long time, like years, you won't be having sex as much as you did when you first started dating. That's okay. Unless you guys literally stopped hooking up altogether, it's normal. Source: ShutterStock
He'll Say I Love You At The Right TimeWe've all imagined the perfect moment our boyfriend will say those three little words. But "I love you" doesn't come so easy to everyone. For some people, it takes a long time to get the courage to say that. Just because your BFF's boyfriend said it after a month and your other BFF's boyfriend said it after two weeks but your boyfriend hasn't said it in six months doesn't mean something is wrong exactly. It's just different timing. Source: ShutterStock
Everything Will Come EasilyNo matter how in love you two are, everything will not go smoothly all the time. All relationships are hard, even the ones that seem perfect. Every relationship takes work, dedication and effort, like I said above. If you want to stay with this person, be prepared to try, to compromise, to fight, to not always get your way, to sometimes feel miserable and to sometimes want out. All of this stuff shouldn't be happening all the time - but it will happen at some point. Source: ShutterStock
Do you have any of these expectations? What did I forget? Do you agree or disagree with me? Tell me in the comments.