This week on the message boards, y’all are talking about what to do if your partner thinks you’re cheating when you’re not:
“Well maybe you could try to do something nice for him? Buy him a random gift, take him out somewhere, plan something fun just for the two of you and really show him how much he means to you. It’s what I would have done
I know it’s annoying but you can’t blame him for being afraid of losing you, he’s probably very insecure and maybe he feels like he doesn’t deserve you, that you’re so much better than he is.”
“I agree with 3Becca. Do something sweet for him so he knows your thinking about him. Sit down to lunch or dinner or something with him and just talk to know about how you feel and how you have and never will cheat on him!”
“His insecurity is no excuse. You need to have a real talk to him, express how much you love him, how you would never cheat on him. However, his accusations are affecting your relationship and that he needs to trust you for your relationship to last. He’s creating his own unhappiness, and he needs to reign it in before it ruins your relationship.”
“I wouldn’t buy him a gift or do something special – if he’s that paranoid he will probably think that you feel bad about cheating or something like that.
You need to sit him down and have a heart to heart about this. It’s not going to just go away and he may not know how much it’s upsetting you.”
Oh boy, I know this situation all too well. One of my exes was always paranoid that I was going to cheat on him because he had cheated on one of his girlfriends before me. Logic, amirite? He never trusted me, and it put such a big strain on our relationship. When he accused me of cheating, it felt like he was doing so to protect his own cheating so I in turn didn’t trust him. It was a really big mess.
Honestly, if you’re not cheating and your partner doesn’t trust you when you tell them the truth, that’s not a good sign. Trust is one of the most important elements of a relationship. If your partner is constantly accusing you of cheating because of their own insecurities about the relationship, how are you supposed to convince them otherwise?
I would definitely not do something special or get your partner something as some girls suggested. It your partner’s paranoid mind, it’s going to make you look guilty, which is the opposite of what you want to achieve here. You just need to sit down with your partner and have a straight-forward talk with them. Explain that you’re not cheating and that they have nothing to worry about. If your partner still can’t trust you, then maybe you need to reevaluate the relationship and find someone who respects you enough to trust you.
Have you ever been accused of cheating when you weren’t? What did you do? Tell us in the comments!
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