I’m a pretty self-aware and confident lady, but even I get a case of the stupids when it comes to guys. For instance, the guy I’m currently seeing makes my brain fuzzy to the point where I lose the ability to form complete sentences. All of my friends are like, “That’s a good sign! You like him!” and I’m over here like, “UM I AM A BUMBLING BABOON!”
As Ludacris would say, I’m actin’ a fool. But that’s okay. There’s a difference though between a guy who makes you nervous-stupid and doing stupid things to impress a guy. And you should never do stupid things to impress a guy. You should be true to yourself and make him like you for you!
I have done soooo many dumb things to impress guys, which is just ridiculous because I have a lot of really good qualities that work just fine on their own. And yet, this hasn’t stopped me from being an idiot on occasion. So here are some stupid things I’ve done to impress guys that you definitely should not do:
Pretending To Be Stupid
A la Cady Heron in Mean Girls, I have dumbed myself down for a dude. Why? Because a lot of guys can be intimidated by smart women, which is stupid in itself. If a guy can't handle your intelligent self, he is NOT worth it. EVER.
Playing REALLY Hard To Get
Playing hard to get is fine! It often works. But playing impossible to get will not work in your favor. You still want to be attainable if you want a guy to like you back.
I once re-purposed a friend's story as my own because it was a good story, and it made me seem interesting. Then I had to keep track of the lie. And what if my friend met the guy and told this story herself?! Don't lie.
Flirting With Other Guys In Front Of Him
The logic here is that he'll get jealous. The reality is that this is a dumb move, and he'll just think you're not interested in him. This is especially dumb if you flirt with his friends in front of him.
Ignoring Him Completely
Why are you ignoring your crush? He will get bored pursuing you and move along.
You're not in third grade anymore. Being sassy and witty is one thing, but being mean is another. Being mean to your crush isn't cute or endearing, it's mean. And stupid.
Pretending To Be Interested In His Interests
"Oh yeah I'm totally interested in your obsession with chess tournaments!" No. I'm not. And I don't want to watch you play chess or play chess with you because I don't like it. But I like that you like it. Faking interest in something is just going to make things suck for you if you end up dating.
Have you done any of these things? What are some other things you’ve done to impress your crush? Tell us in the comments!