10 Reasons He’s Not In The Mood To Have Sex

A lot of girls think that all guys are ready to jump into bed to get down and dirty at any moment of any day – so when a guy isn’t in the mood for sex, some girls take it really personally. However, just because a lot of guys are horny a lot of the time, that doesn’t mean they constantly want to have sex every second of the day. Sometimes stuff happens and they just want to cuddle. There’s nothing wrong with that!

I’ve gotten a few questions about some of you freaking out because your boyfriend isn’t always in the mood to have sex and I figured that it was time to address it. Of course, the best thing to do is to just ask him, but if you’re uncomfortable doing that, you can start by reading this! So, here are 10 reasons he’s not in the mood.

Do you date someone who just isn’t in the mood sometimes? Why are you not in the mood to have sex sometimes? Tell me in the comments.


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  • lois

    I’ve been dating this guy for about 6 months. When we first met he had just got out of a long term relationship as did I. But it didn’t seem to be a problem until it came to sex. Usually before sex you have foreplay and the possibility of oral but not in this case. The first time we had sex he couldn’t even get hard. It made me feel like I was the issue. You know I did the generous deed of getting him to where he need to be and finally that did the trick.
    But that continued he wouldn’t be where needed to be and…… still cant. He didn’t know that girls needed to be warmed up first with some touching kissing and what not and he will not go down no matter how hard I beg!
    It will get to the point now where he gets me naked starts kissing me then rolls over and goes to sleep. Which leaves me disappointed and unwanted. What is a girl to do when the guy she loves won’t give her the loving she needs.

  • Jenna

    My partner is never in the mood no matter what I try including a few hurtful moments being rejected whilst trying to surprise him after his shift. It all started 3 months in and winds me up and makes me feel unattractive. I have finally just accepted that he is not very sexual and at some points lazy. I’m scared that I may do something stupid if out or away just for the need of feeling wanted. We have talked about it no end and nothing changes but I gave up my life for him and have nothing now and I love him aside from the non sexual side.

  • R

    I just read your blog and it kind of helped a lot. My issue is that when he gets stressed or annoyed he doesn’t want to touch me and just takes it out on me. Lately I’ve found my self snooping in his history and found some pornagraphy it isnot all the time but it is still enough that it makes me upset just because I had been wanting it for so long. We do it the same way all the time. I am bored from it but even if I am completely not in the mood I don’t say no because I don’t know when he’ll be back in the mood for it. The same way is boring and annoying but it is the way he always wants to do it. I love him so much and we have been dating for over four years now. But with the sec and him feeling distant I can’t help but feel like he just isn’t that into me anymore. :(