A lot of girls think that all guys are ready to jump into bed to get down and dirty at any moment of any day – so when a guy isn’t in the mood for sex, some girls take it really personally. However, just because a lot of guys are horny a lot of the time, that doesn’t mean they constantly want to have sex every second of the day. Sometimes stuff happens and they just want to cuddle. There’s nothing wrong with that!
I’ve gotten a few questions about some of you freaking out because your boyfriend isn’t always in the mood to have sex and I figured that it was time to address it. Of course, the best thing to do is to just ask him, but if you’re uncomfortable doing that, you can start by reading this! So, here are 10 reasons he’s not in the mood.
He's Mad At You About SomethingIs there anything that happened between you guys that might have made him angry? Guys can be passive-aggressive sometimes and it's possible that he's annoyed with you and "getting back at you" by not having sex - or his anger is just not making him feel very into the idea of having sex. If he seems weird and distant or if you guys just got in a fight, ask him if everything is okay. Source: ShutterStock
He's Not Interested AnymoreYes, it's possible that your boyfriend doesn't feel like having sex because he's not into you or the relationship. But that doesn't mean that if he takes off one night, he's going to break up with you. There will be a pattern here - if he's very distant, suddenly always busy, always seems annoyed and hasn't been interested in sex for a good amount of time, this could be what's happening. Source: ShutterStock
He's Bored Of What You Guys Have Been DoingSometimes in long-term relationships, couples start to get a little bored with sex, especially if it's being done the same way every time. If you guys never try new positions, always do it in the same spot and it always goes basically the same way, it's possible that your BF could just be kind of bored. Try switching things up. That could be as simple as trying new positions, going somewhere new and different or even wearing some sexy lingerie. Source: ShutterStock
He Doesn't Want Your Whole Relationship To Be About SexThis happens a lot in the beginning of a relationship. When a guy really cares about you, he wants you to know that and doesn't want you to think he's only looking for sex. So sometimes, he might say no to sex just because he wants to get to know you on a deeper level. That's nice! Source: ShutterStock
He's Cheating On YouPay close attention to your BF's behavior. Is he suddenly absent a lot? Does he get texts from random girls? Has he stopped having sex with you out of nowhere? If it happens a few times and you think he could be cheating, that's entirely possible. Some guys can cheat and go back and do stuff with their girlfriends, but some guys just can't. Source: ShutterStock
He Didn't ShowerGuys get self-conscious just like girls do! Maybe he hasn't showered in a few days and feels a little gross, like he might smell down there. He might be too embarrassed to tell you that, so instead he'll just say he's not in the mood. Source: ShutterStock
He Did Stuff On His Own EarlierMaybe he just masturbated and took care of things on his own! This happens often and he might just feel uncomfortable telling you that. If it happens a lot, that's a problem, but every once in a while it's fine. Source: ShutterStock
He Doesn't Feel GoodWho wants to roll around and have sex when they feel crappy? No one, really. Maybe he just doesn't feel good and wants to take it easy. Source: ShutterStock
He's TiredYes, it sounds like a cliche excuse, but that doesn't mean it doesn't really happen! Your guy could be exhausted from a long day or week and maybe he just wants to chill out instead of putting work into sex. Source: ShutterStock
He's Stressed/Preoccupied With Something ElseIf some pretty heavy stuff has been going on in his life, a guy might not feel like having sex. Maybe he's having trouble with work, school, his parents... whatever. If he's stressed or distracted because of something else that's going on, it can totally turn him off. Source: ShutterStock
Do you date someone who just isn’t in the mood sometimes? Why are you not in the mood to have sex sometimes? Tell me in the comments.