On September 16, reps for both Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth confirmed that the couple have officially called off their engagement and are, in a word, dunzo. We’ve all had our suspicions for a very long time, so I don’t think this came as a surprise to anybody. What did come as a surprise (to me, at least)? Liam has already been spotted getting cozy with another girl – a Mexican actress named Eiza Gonzalez – and the Internet is buzzing with news that she’s his new girlfriend.
I’m pretty sure Miley and Liam called it quits a while ago, but still – if this girl really is Liam’s new girlfriend, it’s a little soon, don’t you think? Poor Miley. I can totally feel her pain. It’s bad enough when your ex starts dating someone else, but when he does it almost immediately after a breakup, it’s 100 times worse. It leaves you wondering how long he’s been over you, if he was cheating on you and what you did wrong.
I’ve been in this situation myself and all I can say is… man. It freakin’ hurts. So, how do you deal when your BF breaks up with you and already has a new girl in a week? Read on to find out.
Avoid Them... To An ExtentThere's no reason for you to put yourself in a situation where you'll see this new couple together, but you also shouldn't go out of your way to prevent yourself from seeing them. Don't skip parties or stuff like that because you'll think they'll be there - stopping your own life and preventing yourself from having fun isn't going to help you get over him. But at the same time, if you do wind up in the same place as them, just keep away from them. Don't talk to them, don't talk about them - just completely ignore them. Also! No online stalking. It's only going to make you much more sad. Source: ShutterStock
Stop With The AssumptionsUnless your ex explained to you why he's dating this new girl (which, doubtful), you probably don't know the exact reason that he's jumped into another relationship so quickly. So don't make your own assumptions! You could sit there all day and wonder if he was cheating or if this is just a rebound or if he really loves this girl... but that's only going to make you more upset. It's not going to help you move on. It's very possible that your ex is using this girl as a rebound to get over you - but it's also very possible that he actually really cares about her. But you don't know, so just stop thinking about it. Source: ShutterStock
Distract YourselfI know, I know - how are you supposed to not think about something that feels like the worst thing in the world? You need to distract yourself. When my ex immediately jumped to a new girl, I was devastated. But I also knew that I had to keep myself busy. For me, the best distraction was work - I started working overtime and really threw myself into everything I did. And it worked! When I was working, I didn't think about him. Find whatever it is that works for you and just distract yourself until the pain goes away for real. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Compare Yourself To HerComparing yourself to this new girl will do nothing to make you feel better. Don't sit there and stare at her pictures and make yourself feel bad. Who knows why your ex is with her? Either way, he's with her. Is telling yourself she's prettier going to make you feel better? Is insulting her going to make you feel better? Not really. Source: ShutterStock
Surround Yourself With People You LoveAnother great way to distract yourself is to hang with your friends. You're probably feeling pretty let down right now - your ex not only left you but also "replaced" you. Surrounding yourself with people who love you and treat you right will remind you that just because he's not there doesn't mean you have to be lonely. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Try To Get Him BackIf your ex is dating a new girl, now is probably not the best time to try to win him back. Getting an ex back is complicated enough as it is - add another person in there and things get about ten times worse. Don't try to sabotage their relationship. It will most likely backfire. Source: ShutterStock
Take Your Time Moving OnJust because your ex seems like he moved on pretty quickly doesn't mean you have to. Take your time getting over the relationship. A breakup isn't also a race as to who can move on the fastest. Every person takes a different amount of time to get over things. You might need a lot of time and that's totally fine. Source: ShutterStock
Avoid Your Own ReboundLike I said, don't push yourself. Your ex might have a new relationship already, but that doesn't mean you have to have one too. Rebounds are almost always a bad idea and they're not really fair to the other person. Don't use someone else to try and make your ex jealous or to try to speed up the moving on process. Source: ShutterStock
Have you ever dealt with an ex dating a new girl too quickly after the breakup? How did you get through it? Tell me in the comments.