I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a few years now, which means that I’ve heard people say all sorts of annoying things to me or both of us. While I always hear people talking about what others need to stop saying to single people (and I even wrote about it once!), unattached individuals are not the only ones who have to deal with annoying remarks.
Yes, I know that a lot of people just mean well – but there are also a lot of people out there who are just rude. There are way too many people who think they have the right to pass judgement on someone else’s relationship. And I’m kind of sick of it. So, here are 10 things you should never say to someone who is in a relationship.
“Have you guys talked about the future?”
This question is my biggest pet peeve and I hear it from literally everyone. I don’t know why everyone feels like they can invite themselves to discuss this very personal matter. Unless you’re my best friend, please don’t ask me if my boyfriend and I have talked about where we’re going to be a few years from now. It’s none of your business.
“I bet you miss being single sometimes.”
Um… okay. Would you like me to say “I bet you wish you had a boyfriend sometimes?” Right, didn’t think so.
“That’s exactly why I don’t have a boyfriend.”
One of my friends says this to me every time I complain about a fight I had with my boyfriend and it really makes me angry. Again, would you like it if I said, “That’s exactly why I’m not single?” I doubt it. This is just rude. Try being a little empathetic!
“How often do you guys have sex?”
Talking about sex in general is pretty personal and for most people, myself included, it gets even more personal when you’re in a relationship. Once you’ve been dating someone for a while, your sex life gets more private.
“You guys look a little bit alike!”
Someone said this to me and an ex once. It was really awkward. Just… leave that thought to yourself.
“Do you ever think he’s going to cheat on you?”
Um, why would you even say something like that? (It’s happened though. Oh, it’s happened)
“Come on… you don’t need to talk to him all the time, you know.”
I have friends who say this if I’m text my boyfriend while I hang out with them and it’s just like… annoying. Yes, if I’m sitting there texting nonstop, tell me I’m being rude, because I am. But if I send him one little text, keep quiet. I can talk to my boyfriend when I want without you trying to make me feel guilty.
“Have you guys said ‘I love you’ yet?”
Again, way too personal. I once had a girl I barely knew ask me this about my new boyfriend and I was so taken aback I barely even knew how to respond.
“That’s a really stupid thing to fight about.”
Oh? Good thing it’s none of your business, then.
“Oooooh, your horoscopes are not a good love match.”
Again, why would you say this?
Has anyone ever said these things to you? Do you agree or disagree that these things are annoying? Which do you think is the worst? Tell me in the comments.