The 10 Stages Of Realizing Your Crush Likes Someone Else

Having a crush is never easy, mainly because everything is so uncertain. A lot of bad things can come along with having a crush (hence the name), but one of the worst things is when you realize your crush likes someone else. I don’t think I need to tell you why that sucks so much.

Finding out your crush isn’t exactly crushing on you is tough. We’ve all dealt with it and so we’ve all gone through a few, if not all, of the 10 stages explained below. So, while I know it feels like this is only happening to you and no one else, trust me, that’s not true. Here are the 10 stages of realizing your crush like someone else.


You’ve been in love with your crush for a while. He’s funny, nice, cute and basically just awesome.

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You guys sometimes flirt and it’s always amazing.

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All of your friends know you’re obsessed.

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You’re pretty sure that one day soon, he’ll realize he loves you too and will make you his girlfriend.



And then, one day, you’re innocently skimming through Facebook when you see him flirting with another girl.

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He likes all of her pictures. Um, WTF? You ask around and it’s pretty clear… he totally has a crush on this girl and not you. 

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Once you find out, you pretty much go through these 10 stages. 

1. Denial: You think this has to be some sort of sick joke. Maybe he likes you too? 

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2. Panic: You spend way too much time online stalking both him and his crush to try and find out if she likes him back. 

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3. Depression: You catch them flirting and spend way too much time in bed feeling miserable about your life. 

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4. Manipulative: Okay, it’s fine. You can try to change his mind and get him away from this girl. You come up with all sorts of evil plans.

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5. Anger: You hate this girl and make fun of her all the time even though she’s never actually done anything to you.



6. More Anger: Ugh, what did you ever see in your crush anyway?! What a loser. 



7. Obsessiveness: You can’t stop wondering if they’re going to end up in an official relationship. 

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8. Heartbroken: You’ll never meet anyone like him ever again. 

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9. Anger At Yourself: Why can’t you just stop thinking about him?! 

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10. Moving On: It’s happening. You’re starting, very slowly, to move on. Did I mention it’s very slow?




Have you ever been in this situation? How did you react? What other stages are there that I missed? Tell me in the comments.


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  • Alex

    I never thought I would meet anything like this person and we were inseparable in college. Even in the same program and everything. As much as I tried to tell them how I feel, I’ve never gotten a response but it didn’t stop me from trying. They’ve always been in love with someone else, and I’ve recently realized that these relationships are nothing but trouble. Of course, I still love them even though they’re in a happy relationship with someone else. I will never see that person again in this lifetime, because they moved half way across the world to be with the person they have always loved. I am so glad I won’t have facebook anymore in November, because I can’t stop looking at picture of how happy the two of them are together.

    This has been a learning experience though. Never try to go after someone who is in love with someone else. These relationships are only a recipe for disaster even if they claim to have the same feelings for you, because they will always have the other person at the back of their mind. It’s made me realize that I am the only one who can make myself happy, and my self-worth and happiness is more important than any relationship. I have never bad mouthed the other person, because I realized this crush didn’t work out for a reason. Something better is out there. I will stop going after my crush and let the two of them be happy together.

  • sumbul

    I think that u shuld move on in ur lyf….theres lyf out there for us with much happiness its hard to do this….but finaly if u try not to think about ur crush u will slowly just forget about him or her….i think if ur crush see u happy they will be more confuse whats going on in ur lyf….tht will make u more happier than ever 😉

  • Blaze

    This is true.. I like my crush but he likes another girl… Mehhhhhh oh gods now I hate that girl HEALLLPPP anyways this was so funny but true… (I mean the pictures…)

  • jasmine

    My crush used to flirt with me but now he likes this other girl and his ugly best friend likes me.I think that is why he stopped flirting with me.

  • Quinn

    I am going through these right now! We did social dancing at school and I had to watch my crush dance with the girl he likes. I was going crazy! My heart hurts…

  • Sam

    I found this so fucking hilarious. This is literally sums it all up. I think im at stage 5. Oh fuck it I’llmjump to no.10. This made my day…literally

  • Memory

    Its happening to me too…only that the girl is not my best friend….shes nice,beautiful and smart.i am sad and depressed but as long as she makes him happy,i will be alright.

  • Sophia

    we have been texting a lot latley but there is rumor that he likes this other girl… one time though we were texting and he sent me the text he meant for her– it killed me but for now i am just super happy he is chatting with me and hopefully its just a rumor!

  • Free

    If you hate a girl and say mean things or do mean things to her just because she likes the person you like you are an extremely mean, immature, and shallow person and you should really grow up.

    • Britanny

      Not really lmao

  • Fiona

    This totally happened to me and my friend. But I am over him. My friend was not as lucky. She is totallly heartbroken She is gorgeous, and he likes her friend, who is ugly, total accne face, mean, and just plain awful.

  • larcien

    Stage 3, 9 and 10 hahaha

  • Gloria

    Thats happening with me, except I’ve liked my crush for years (and only him, no one else), but he likes one of my best friends now. Actually, they just went out on a somewhat date.

  • Luly

    Oh my fucking butt…

    This is totally true…
    BUT I WON’T GIVE UP… I want him A LOT… And he’s mine…