Let’s be real: we all like getting what we want, especially in a relationship. I mean, obviously. The problem is that sometimes, no matter how much we want something, the other special person in our life doesn’t really that something that much. Sometimes, especially if you and your boyfriend are really different, it can be hard to get him to do what you want.
This is where I come in with these tips. Honestly, I’m pretty good at getting what I want from people. Let me be clear: I’m not manipulative or sneaky about it. I don’t have any crazy tricks that I pull to get my boyfriend to do what I want. I guess I just know how to talk him into things. Relationships are about compromise and while you can’t always have things your way, that doesn’t mean your boyfriend can’t make some sacrifices for you once in a while.
So, here are 10 tips to get your boyfriend to do whatever you want – most of the time.
Ask Him NicelyObviously, the first step in getting what you want is asking for it. You should never expect anyone, even your boyfriend, to just know what you want. He's not a mind reader and it's not fair to expect him to be one. So, when you need to ask your guy for a favor or you want him to go somewhere with you or whatever it is you want him to do, ask nicely at the right time. Don't try to be sly by doing it while he's distracted with something else or in the middle of sex or something - ask nicely when you guys are both in a good mood. Source: ShutterStock
If He Says No, Decide If This Is Something You Really Want To PushIf his first answer is no, seriously think about whether or not you really want to push this subject. You can't get your boyfriend to do EVERYTHING you want, so if you're going to campaign hard for something, make sure it's something worthwhile. Is this something you can just let go? Or is it something important to you? If it means something, go for it. But if it's something silly, like you REALLY want him to go to the mall with you but he hates the mall, just forget about it. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Whine and BegYou might think that annoying someone until they have no choice but to say yes is the way to get what you want, but... it's not. Trust me. Whining and begging to get your way is childish and incredibly annoying. If your guy does agree, it will just be to shut you up and he'll most likely be angry about it. And you don't want that. Source: ShutterStock
Tell Him How Much This Would Mean To YouAgain, don't expect your boyfriend to be a mind reader and to just know that this is something that's important to you. Let him know how much it would mean to you if he could do this one thing. It's not exactly guilt-tripping - it's just being honest. If he knows that it's important, he may be more likely to say yes. Source: ShutterStock
Try To Convince Him By Telling Him What He'll Get Out Of ItSometimes the best way to get people do what you want - and I know this is going to sound messed up - is to make them think it was their idea in the first place. You can do this by talking about how it will make your BF happy - what he'll like about whatever it is you want to do. Make it clear that you care about how he feels about this and you want him to enjoy it just as much as you will. Source: ShutterStock
Give Him Some Time To Think About ItOnce you've tried to do a little convincing, give your BF some time to think things over. Saying something like, "You need to decide right this second" isn't really fair. A lot of guys (and people in general) don't like the pressure that puts on them. Try to talk your boyfriend into it and then say something like, "Think about it, okay?" Then, depending on timing of whatever it is you want him to do, give him a few hours or days and if he doesn't bring it up, ask him if he had time to think about it yet. Source: ShutterStock
Remind Him Of The Things You Do For HimAgain, don't think of this as trying to pull a guilt-trip thing on your BF. Sometimes people just need to be reminded that they are in a relationship and sometimes have to do things for the other person that they wouldn't normally do. Don't make this a fight by saying things like, "Remember that time and that time and that time!" Just say, "You know, I do a lot of things for you." Then pick one instance and remind him of it. Source: ShutterStock
Make A CompromiseLike I said before, relationships are about compromise. So, if you're trying to get your boyfriend to do something he really doesn't want to do, you need to do something for him too. That doesn't mean you have to do whatever he wants, but you should do something nice for him to. Once, I was trying to convince my boyfriend to see Titanic 3D in theaters with me. He really, really didn't want to, but I said, "If you see this with me, I'll see the next car movie you want to see." And then he agreed. Compromises, ladies and gents. Compromises. Source: ShutterStock
Make An Ultimatum As A Last Resort ONLYI really, really don't recommend this, except in special circumstances. Making ultimatums is very demanding and makes most people (like myself) just want to do the exact opposite. Don't throw around phrases like, "Do it or we're done!" That's... not nice. The only time I would ever say to do this is if your BF literally never does anything for you and you do everything for him. Otherwise, just don't do this. Source: ShutterStock
Realize It's Okay For Him To Say No SometimesAt the end of the day, your boyfriend can't do everything you want him to do. You need to realize that it's okay for him to say no to something once in a while - just like it's okay for you to say no once in a while. Remember that, because otherwise, you're going to have a lot of fights. Source: ShutterStocK
Did you find these tips helpful? How do you get people to do what you want? Tell me in the comments.