This week on the message boards y’all are talking about how to know if you’re ready to have sex.
Let’s see what you had to say:
“I’m not really sure. I guess the moment just hits when you are ready. I found out by the guy who I am currently with. It just felt completely right because we are close, he treats me amazingly, I am completely comfortable with him and I really love him. I guess it just depends on when you find that one person you feel like you will be with forever. It’s just one of those things you will feel when the time is right.”
“I realized I was ready when ‘that day’ actually came. I was with my first real, true love at the time and was 16 years of age. I was in love with him, trusted him and most of all felt comfortable with him.”
“I’m not ready for it at all. I think the only person that it would be ‘right’ with is my future husband to be honest. What’s the point on giving it up to someone who you may not spend the rest of your life with?”
“I don’t know actually. When the time came to have sex, I just knew. You feel 100% sure and any fear is not there. And you just feel that you’re doing the right thing.”
Like I said before, everyone is different. I lost my virginity way before a lot of my friends, but I was ready. They thought I made a mistake, but it wasn’t their decision. I was ready, and I don’t regret having sex when I did. I didn’t make some plan to lose my virginity or anything. I knew I was ready with that person, and it just happened.
When it comes to having sex for the first time, you need to make sure you’re completely comfortable with your partner. If you can’t even talk about sex, you’re not ready. If you’re having sex just to get it over with, you’re not ready. If you’re doing it to keep your partner from breaking up with you, you’re not ready.
You also need to know the implications of having sex. It can change things in a relationship, and there are consequences like pregnancy and STDs. You need to be completely informed with all of the risks of sex before you have it.
If you feel like you’re not ready to have sex, there’s no rush! When you want to have sex is your choice, and you can decide whenever you want.
Have you had sex? How did you know you were ready? Tell us in the comments!
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