Going through a breakup is tough. It’s emotional and messy and can make you do embarrassing things that you would never normally do. Shortly after I broke up with my first boyfriend, I found out he was hanging out with another girl – so I showed up at his house and wouldn’t leave until he spoke to me. Needless to say, I am ashamed.
But it’s okay. We all do secret things during a breakup that we would never, ever want to admit to doing. It’s hard to act rational and calm when you’re heartbroken and it’s okay to keep some things private and to yourself. So don’t act like you’ve never done any of this stuff… because I know you’ve done at least one thing. Here are 12 things we do during a breakup that we don’t want to admit:
Tell People You've Over It When You're NotAfter a few weeks, it gets a little embarrassing to admit to your friends that you're just as heartbroken as you were on day one. You shouldn't feel ashamed (breakups take a long time to get over!), but you do, so when they ask if you're over him yet, you're like, "Oh, totally! What a loser." Aw, girl. We all know how you really feel. Source: ShutterStock
Stalk Him On Social Media Through FriendsDo you know how many of my friends deleted their ex on Facebook after a breakup... only to beg me for my password so that they could still look at his page secretly? I know a few of you have done this, even if it is a really bad idea. Source: ShutterStock
Check Out Any Girl He Talks ToWhile we're on the subject of Facebook stalking, let's talk about this. Admit it: you've Facebook stalked any girl who appears on your ex's Facebook page. We've all seen a comment from a girl and have had the reaction, "Who the eff is that?!" only to spend as much time as possible finding out everything you can about the chick. Source: ShutterStock
Go Through Old Pics Just To CrySometimes during a breakup, you just want to make yourself feel sad and cry. I don't know why, but sometimes we just can't help the need to feel completely miserable. I bet that most of you have gone through old pictures or boyfriend memories (like gifts and notes) just to remind yourself of what you don't have anymore. Source: ShutterStock
Fall Asleep With His Stuff Because It Smells Like HimWhen my most recent ex and I broke up, I found one of his sweatshirts he had given me and I fell asleep with it on. It smelled like him and it made me feel a tiny bit less lonely (actually, that's not true, it made me feel worse). I know it sounds pathetic, but you shouldn't feel like it is - you miss this person and you're searching for some way to feel connected to him. Source: ShutterStock
Drive By Their HouseThis sounds really creepy, but I know way too many friends who do ex-boyfriend drive-bys. I really don't understand why, either. Driving by your ex's house basically accomplishes nothing. You can rarely find anything out, it will only make you more paranoid to wonder why his car is gone or who's mystery car is in front of his house... not to mention, what the heck would you do if he spotted you?! Avoid this one, friends. Source: ShutterStock
Listen To Sad Songs And Cry Through All Of ThemDuring the last breakup I went through, I would sometimes come home from work, lay down and listen to Deathcab for Cutie on repeat. Sigh. Such a terrible idea. But, hey, sometimes crying through pain actually makes you feel a little bit better, you know? Source: ShutterStock
Call Them To Beg For Them BackI know most of you would never admit to this, but seriously - we've all had at least one moment of weakness where we've called up our ex begging him to take us back or change his mind. It's not a fun experience, but it happens. Source: ShutterStock
Hookup With Someone Else To Feel Less LonelyRebounds happen, whether you do it purposely or not. Maybe you're feeling extra lonely and you just want to feel close to someone - so you hook up with someone else. However, these usually don't make you feel better. Most of the time, they'll just make you miss your ex even more. Source: ShutterStock
Have Elaborate Daydreams About Getting Back TogetherDon't lie, you've totally had daydreams about how you and your ex getting back together. All of these daydreams are very dramatic and movie-like. They all involve you looking fabulous. You probably run into your ex while you're busy being awesome and he's busy being a loser and then he begs for you back. It's okay. It happens. Source: ShutterStock
Talk To Someone You Know Likes You For An Ego BoostWhen a college boyfriend dumped me, I felt so rejected that I immediately got in touch with an ex who I wasn't interested in - but I knew he still had feelings for me. I knew that he would give me a lot of compliments that would make me feel better about myself. Is this mean? Yes. Do we all do it at some point? Yes. Source: ShutterStock
Hold Onto His Passwords To Check Up On HimIf you had his password during the relationship, did you really think you were going to forget about it when you guys broke up? Most likely not. Look, a lot of people do this, but it's really kind of messed up. Try to be honest, okay? Source: ShutterStock
Have you ever done this stuff? What is some other stuff you’ve done during a breakup that I forgot about? Tell me in the comments.