I sort of think of trying to make new friends as similar to flirting, but easier – you’re trying to win someone over and make them like you, but luckily you don’t have all that romantic pressure on you. Making new friends isn’t always super simple, but it should never be super difficult either. I’m a very shy girl and even I can manage to do it, so that should make all of you feel better!
Whether you’re the new kid at school, you’re just starting high school or college or you’re just looking to branch out and meet new people, these tips will help you make friends at school. It’s important to remember that most people are open to the idea of making new pals, so please don’t feel like you’re being annoying for being friendly. It’s also important to remember that friendships sometimes get off to a slow start – you can’t expect to be BFFAEAE after only a week. Oh, and one last thing you HAVE to do: be open to everyone. Don’t judge people by what they look like – be willing to chat with anyone and get to know people no matter what. Put a smile on that face and learn these 10 tips for making new friends.
Always Look FriendlyTry to keep a smile on your face at all times, especially when you're around the people you really want to be friends with. No one wants to approach someone who looks miserable and closed-off. But people do want to approach others who look friendly, happy and open. Be nice whenever anyone says anything to you, even if it's, "Do you have a pen I can borrow?" Source: ShutterStock
Join A ClubWhat are you interested in? Whatever it is, find out if your school has a club for it and join. Whether it's a sports team, the school newspaper or the math club, you're guaranteed to meet people who have something in common with you - they're obviously interested in the same thing. Right away, you have something you can talk to them about. You'll also obviously be spending a little bit of time with these people. Use this time to start up some conversations and get comfortable with each other. Clubs are also great because they let you meet people other than the ones already in your classes - you're expanding your horizons! Source: ShutterStock
Sit Near People Who Look InterestingIf you can pick where you sit in class, try to sit near the people you want to become friends with. If not, you can always try making friends with the people who sit next to you. It's easier to talk to them during class. Plus, you guys have that class in common, so it's something you can talk about. Start a friendship by asking if they want to study together or something like that. Source: ShutterStock
Take Advantage of Group ProjectsA group project basically forces you to talk and interact with other students. As long as you have to do this, why not take advantage of it? Try to make plans to do group work together outside of school by maybe going to a coffee shop or something. Be as talkative and outgoing as you can. Who knows, these people could be your new friends! Source: ShutterStock
Start Up A Convo With Something You Have In CommonThe best way to start a conversation with anyone is to bring up something you both have in common. Are you guys in the same class with an annoying teacher? Bond by complaining about him/her together. Did you notice she has a picture of your favorite musician in her notebook? Say something like, "I love them too!" Whatever it is you notice you guys have in common, don't be afraid to bring it up. Source: ShutterStock
Give Out Some ComplimentsEveryone loves to receive a compliment. It makes them happy! The next time you see the girl you want to be friends with, say something simple like, "I love your shirt/shoes/bag!" You don't need to go overboard with it, but one simple compliment is an easy way to start talking or just to make that person feel more receptive to you. Source: ShutterStock
Try To Sit With Them At LunchUnless your school is straight out of Mean Girls, it shouldn't be too hurt to eat lunch with someone new. On my first day of high school, I followed two girls to where they were eating lunch and asked if I could join them. Not many people are going to be like, "um, no." It's a little scary, but sometimes you need to get out of your comfort zone to make new friends. Source: ShutterStock
Follow Them/Friend Them On Social MediaOnce you've started up a convo with someone, find them on Facebook and add them. It's not as creepy as it sounds - you guys probably already have mutual friends in common and isn't the whole purpose of Facebook to make friends, anyway? Adding them on social media is a great way to get to know more about the person and also to keep in touch. I've started a lot of friendships virtually by casually liking and commenting on statuses - eventually, this person and I would be like, we need to be friends! And we'd start hanging in real life. Don't go crazy with it, like adding them on FB and following them on Twitter, Tumblr and Instagram all in the span of 5 minutes. That might be a little creepy. Source: ShutterStock
Always Say HiI know this sounds obvious, but hear me out. I'm very shy and so most of the time, when I meet new people, I don't go out of my way to say hi to them because it makes me feel embarrassed. What if they don't say hi back?! But it ends up coming across as rude and then they don't think I'm friend material. Make a point of saying hi whenever you see your potential friend. You don't need to run up to them to give them a hug, but if you pass them in the hallway, wave... when you sit next to them in class, say, "Hi!" Stuff like that. Source: ShutterStock
Know The Line Between Getting Comfortable And Being PushyOnce you start getting to know your potential new friend, you shouldn't be afraid to get a little comfortable with them. Say hi, invite them to hang out, ask them stuff, whatever. But know that there is a line between starting to feel comfortable with a new friend and being too pushy. Don't start inviting yourself everywhere. Don't talk endlessly to them. Don't text them all day every day. Don't comment on every single status they make... you get it. People don't like others who are too pushy and needy, it freaks them out and pushes them away. Just let things happen naturally. Like I said, sometimes friendships can take a while to flourish, but you just need to be patient. Source: ShutterStock
Are you trying to make new friends in school right now? What are your tips for doing so? Tell me in the comments.