Truthfully, I’ve never been in a long-distance relationship… but I’ve had enough friends who have tried it to know that it kind of, well, sucks. When you’re in a relationship, you want to be with your significant other all the time, but the whole LDR thing makes that kind of difficult. It can be tough to feel truly connected with somebody when you can’t be in the same room as them for months at a time.
Long-distance relationships can be especially tricky at this time of the year, if you and your BF are going off to different schools. As if dealing with homework, tests and friend/roommate drama isn’t enough, you also have to deal with the pain of missing your boo. I don’t encourage LDRs during your first year of college, but if you’re determined to stick with your BF no matter what, I can respect that and try to help you.
Want to keep your relationship alive even if you’re both in different schools and far away from each other? Read these 8 tips right now.
Set A Weekly Skype DateSkype and video chatting in general can make your LDR that much easier, as long as you use it right. Don't just say you're going to Skype each other - set an actual weekly date to video chat. A once-a-week strict date seems the most manageable - I'm talking strict. Pick a day and time that works best for both of you and treat the date as you would treat actual important plans with your BF. If you guys have time to video chat other times as well, of course go for it. But one strict date a week ensures that you'll both be there no matter how busy you get. Source: ShutterStock
Give Each Other Personal Items To Hold OntoBefore you both go away to your respective schools, you should each give each other a personal item to hold onto as a quick and easy way to remember each other when you're feeling sad and can't talk. You guys can pick whatever you want - a sweatshirt, a stuffed animal, a piece of jewelry. Whatever works for you. I suggest a piece of clothing or stuffed animal because you can sleep with those things and feel like you're cuddling with your boo (well, kind of), but whatever has sentimental value works best. Source: ShutterStock
Do Little Things TogetherI know you guys can't actually do this stuff together, but hear me out. Was there a TV show you two always watched together? If so, watch it "together" even if you're apart. Put it on at the same time and either stay on the phone with each other or text or message each other throughout the show. Couples don't always spend every moment together talking, so this is kind of like a normal couple-y thing to do that will make you both feel connected. Either watch a show together or a movie or even read a book at the same time and talk about it. Source: ShutterStock
Make Plans To Visit Each OtherI'm sure you guys talk about visiting each other all the time - but instead of just talking about how much you want to do it, make actual, set plans. This will give you both something to look forward to and since the plans are made in advance, it will be harder to back out of it for whatever reason. Also, make sure you're both being fair with this. You shouldn't have to be the one always going to him and he shouldn't be the one always going to you. Try to take turns. Don't put all of your effort into seeing each other constantly, but try to make your visits not super far apart, if possible. Source: ShutterStock
Agree To Call Each Other At Least Once A DaySaying something like "we'll text all day long" or "we'll talk for at least 2 hours every single night" is a little unrealistic. You'll both be busy with school and friend stuff, so don't put these crazy expectations on yourselves. Those will start to feel like an obligation. But, do make it a point to speak at least once a day, even if it's only for one minute to say hi and bye. Source: ShutterStock
Send Each Other Stuff In The MailSure, texting and Skyping and talking on the phone is nice, but receiving snail mail from your boo is super romantic. You guys don't need to write each other long love letters (unless you want to). Instead, maybe send each other a small care package or note once a month or so. It will be unexpected and will definitely put a smile on your face. Source: ShutterStock
Send Photos To Each OtherApps like Snapchat make sending photos to each other super easy. I'm not talking about sexy photos - be careful with those, please - I'm just talking about regular old pics of yourself. Snap a shot of yourself walking to class and send it to him. Take a pic of yourself studying and send it over. They're boring, but they'll keep you guys feeling connected. And don't you want to see his face? Source: ShutterStock
Don't Try To Control HimIt's easy to get jealous and over-protective when you're in a long-distance relationship. After all, you don't REALLY know what he's doing because you're not there. But if you're going to commit to an LDR, there needs to be a lot of trust there. Don't try to control your BF by getting mad at him if he goes to a party or hangs with a group of people. That's only going to push him away. Don't try to keep tabs on his every move - that's not possible and is going to drive you crazy. Just try to relax and trust your BF. And if you absolutely can't, you probably shouldn't be in this relationship. Source: ShutterStock
Are you in a long-distance relationship? Have you ever been in one? What are your tips? Tell me in the comments.