When I was a sophomore in high school, my best friend started dating my ex behind m back (while I was on vacation!), knowing that I was still in love with him. The situation was a total mess – we got into a huge fight, I lost my best friend forever and it set the stage for a ton of fun insecurities and trust issues. If it’s never happened to you, let me first say you’re lucky and then let me say that it absolutely sucks.
Being betrayed by two people you care about has to be one of the worst feelings ever, especially when things are done in an underhanded and sneaky way. Despite the fact that basic girl code rules say we can’t date our best friend’s ex (unless we have her permission and even then, ehhh), people always do it anyway. It’s not a fun experience to go through and if it’s happening to you, here’s a cyber hug. Also, here’s an explanation of what it REALLY feels like when your best friend dates your ex, in GIFs.
You’re dating this awesome guy and you’re happy and in love.
Then, for some reason or another, you guys break up.
Now you’re sad and lonely and totally not over him at all.
You talk to your best friend about it all the time. At first she’s so supportive and nice and says all the right encouraging things.
Then, out of nowhere, she starts to get weird about it whenever you bring up his name. You’re confused.
A few weeks later, you find out (somehow) that she’s been really friendly with your ex.
You ask her about it and she’s like, “Oh, yeah, we have this in common, blah blah blah,” and you try to be cool about it but inside you’re like…
She promises you she would never betray you like that and swears nothing shady is happening.
You feel good about the fact that you know your best friend would never do something like that to you… right?
A few weeks go by. Your BFF hasn’t been around as much. You start to freak out, wondering what is going on. Another friend says she saw them flirting.
That’s it! You’re furious.
She swears once again that nothing is happening between them, but you don’t believe her.
You guys get in a huge fight and stop talking.
A few days later, you see her write on his Facebook wall and you’re so mad you don’t know what to do.
Then you find out they hung out. THEY HUNG OUT.
You’re so upset you don’t even want to leave your bedroom.
You call her to tell her you’ll never forgive her. She doesn’t even seem to care.
A week later, it’s official: they’re dating. You’ve never felt so betrayed.
You spend a lot of time ranting about her to anyone who will listen, you don’t care if they don’t want to hear it.
You try hanging out with new friends but mainly feel miserable and alone.
Seeing them together is like…
Stalking their Facebooks is just torture.
For some reason, your ex-BFF gets mad at YOU for talking about her so much. This boggles your mind.
When you run into them anywhere, you want to run the other way.
You can’t understand why every other friend isn’t mad at her. She’s the worst!!!
But even though you’re furious with both of them, you still miss both of them so much and you hate it.
You finally come to the conclusion that you’ll never move on or trust anyone again.
(But don’t worry, you will.)
Has one of your friends ever dated your ex? Have you ever dated a friend’s ex? Can you relate to this? Tell me in the comments.