What It’s REALLY Like When Your Best Friend Dates Your Ex, In GIFs

When I was a sophomore in high school, my best friend started dating my ex behind m back (while I was on vacation!), knowing that I was still in love with him. The situation was a total mess – we got into a huge fight, I lost my best friend forever and it set the stage for a ton of fun insecurities and trust issues. If it’s never happened to you, let me first say you’re lucky and then let me say that it absolutely sucks.

Being betrayed by two people you care about has to be one of the worst feelings ever, especially when things are done in an underhanded and sneaky way. Despite the fact that basic girl code rules say we can’t date our best friend’s ex (unless we have her permission and even then, ehhh), people always do it anyway. It’s not a fun experience to go through and if it’s happening to you, here’s a cyber hug. Also, here’s an explanation of what it REALLY feels like when your best friend dates your ex, in GIFs.


You’re dating this awesome guy and you’re happy and in love.

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Then, for some reason or another, you guys break up. 

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Now you’re sad and lonely and totally not over him at all. 

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You talk to your best friend about it all the time. At first she’s so supportive and nice and says all the right encouraging things.

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Then, out of nowhere, she starts to get weird about it whenever you bring up his name. You’re confused. 

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A few weeks later, you find out (somehow) that she’s been really friendly with your ex. 

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You’re like: 

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You ask her about it and she’s like, “Oh, yeah, we have this in common, blah blah blah,” and you try to be cool about it but inside you’re like… 

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She promises you she would never betray you like that and swears nothing shady is happening.

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You feel good about the fact that you know your best friend would never do something like that to you… right?

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A few weeks go by. Your BFF hasn’t been around as much. You start to freak out, wondering what is going on. Another friend says she saw them flirting. 

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That’s it! You’re furious. 

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She swears once again that nothing is happening between them, but you don’t believe her. 

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You guys get in a huge fight and stop talking. 

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A few days later, you see her write on his Facebook wall and you’re so mad you don’t know what to do.



Then you find out they hung out. THEY HUNG OUT.

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You’re so upset you don’t even want to leave your bedroom. 



You call her to tell her you’ll never forgive her. She doesn’t even seem to care. 



A week later, it’s official: they’re dating. You’ve never felt so betrayed.

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You spend a lot of time ranting about her to anyone who will listen, you don’t care if they don’t want to hear it.



You try hanging out with new friends but mainly feel miserable and alone. 



Seeing them together is like… 

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Stalking their Facebooks is just torture. 

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For some reason, your ex-BFF gets mad at YOU for talking about her so much. This boggles your mind.

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When you run into them anywhere, you want to run the other way.



You can’t understand why every other friend isn’t mad at her. She’s the worst!!! 

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But even though you’re furious with both of them, you still miss both of them so much and you hate it. 

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You finally come to the conclusion that you’ll never move on or trust anyone again. 

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(But don’t worry, you will.) 


Has one of your friends ever dated your ex? Have you ever dated a friend’s ex? Can you relate to this? Tell me in the comments.


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  • Elaine

    So I recently broke up with my boyfriend
    Although I broke up with him I still have feelings for him. And my best friend knows this and I’ve told her a million times I want him back. So yesterday I find out they have been flirting and that made me mad. And a couple hours after that I find out she asked him out. I was really jealous and I got mad. He is a total player and I told her that “what goes around comes around”
    And then my other friend and me got into a huge fight cause of my jealousy. What do I do?

  • Gabrielle brown

    My best friend asked out my ex before we broke up because she new we were having some issues (mostly due to distance).I was the one who introduced them. Ended up having to chose between handling myself or loosing the two people I cared the most about (I had been friends with her for two years and been dating him for 3) I chose to try to move on from him and keep my friendships with them, it was worth being able to stay in contact with them but still really sucks from time to time.

  • Sarah

    First I needed vent…so thank you for sharing (and the accurate memes)
    I dated this guy my first year of college and he was my first…everything. It hurt so bad to leave. I still had to see him twice a week because we voulnteered at the same place. I wanted to get over him but obviously some days where harder than others. This is where my bff stepped in. She lived like 5 min. from me and we become so freaking close, sharing money, food, beds and secrets. I poured my hurting heart out to her and she was an amazing bf. I loved her like a sister.
    Fastward a couple months, my ex started inviting me and my friend over for game nights. I was so excited that he wanted to be friends with me (and part of me still was hoping that mabye things could be different) I felt safe cause my bff would come with me and there was always a group. After a bit she got a little distant but I thought it was because she was busy…a couple months pass and my ex asks to talk to me. I am freaking out because I think I did something wrong. But no, he sits me down to tell me that he’s talking to my bff. I was hurt, hurt that my bff would have my ex tell me this, and not trust that I loved her enough to understand if she had told me sooner. I went home and cried myself to sleep. The next morning I decided I wanted to be happy for them. So I put my hurt aside forgave her and my ex and went full support mode (I didn’t know what else to do but to only have love and happienies for her.) and i was genuine. I just asked that she promised to keep room for me in her life. Needless to say she left. She would barley contact me and when she did it was to tell me things that he would get for her, like to the 21 pilots concert (which I happen to be obsessed with) and then she randomly dropped out of volunteering, without saying a word. About a month later she sends me a pic with a ring on her finger and said “I wanted you to know before I put it on fb.” It hurt so freaking bad, I kept having panic attacks all night and all day I was a total mess. She was gone so quick.
    About a month later she started working with me and was pretending like everything was normal. Talking about her upcoming wedding, that I wouldn’t be able to attened because i’d be out of the country. I broke (while working) and poured my heart out I told her I loved her but that she’d hurt me. I layed it all out everything I felt about what had happened but kept reiterating that I loved her no matter what. She didn’t say anything…didn’t comfort me, nothing. Just went back to work. I had to quite soon after that because it was to painful.

    It hurts sometimes….like right now. When I think I have let go it sneeks up on me. I still love her, there where always be a place in my heart for her. But sometimes I want her to lay in bed at night and feel all the pain. Fully recognize the betrayal, embarresment and hurt she put me through. I want her to care, i want an apology, i don’t want her to marry my ex because he’s my ex for a reason.

    Anyways thanks for this…thanks foe letting me have a voice

  • truthserumX

    It is a blessing in disguise. They’re feeding off your misery and the moment you shake it off, move on in the SEXIEST way they’ll both realize their fools and wont even want each other!!!

  • Michelle Rice

    Hey, I’m currently going through hell but I’ve been told by so many people that I’m strong. I do believe that I am but at times I just want to crumble, it’s awful to be betrayed in the worst possible way there is, my ex-fiance and my best mate (no longer speaking to either of them) have recently “fallen in love” only two weeks after we split up, we only started going sour when she turned up on the scene and the worst part is I have to see him EVERYDAY as we both live in supported living for people with epilepsy (that’s where we met), personally I wish he’d never walked into this house! I hate them both for doing this to me. She had the audacity to pick him up on Saturday to take him away for the night! xx

  • Clary

    Well…..experiencing this at the moment…..my ex and I broke up, I cried a lot about him and everything. All I ever talked about was him to my best friend. Next thing you know she told me that she was going to make it all right again. I was actually going through a lot. She knew that but she still argued with me about it. I wasn’t going through a good time. She had texted my ex about me. He told her that he did not like me and that I should move on like he did. I understood. She started talking to him more. She told me that it was only going to be about what happened but she went off topic and she started to flirt with him. I was texting her things that I’ve been going through but she ignored my texts. And she never realized anything. All she did was talk about herself. It sucks because I had such high hopes. I thought my ex liked me. He always stares at me and he still does. A few minutes later my best friend started texting me “no no no” and I knew what she was talking about because she started saying she liked her crush and not my ex. But she realized she liked my crush. I feel absolutely betrayed because it sucks. I’m going through more than just my ex my best friend knows that. She’s always somehow done this. This is not the first time she’s betrayed me.

  • Daneli Ramirez

    What do I do , my best friend is with my ex boyfriend . I was only with him for three weeks but we were acting like a couple for four months. I broke up with him because he was awkward and I told my best friend everything about him , she said it was a good thing that we broke up because he looked like a muppet and was odd . A week later on 3/15/16 they are officially a couple and it makes no sense to me because there was a thing that his friends said that he liked her for a while but he did not he started liking her the day they got together and she doesn’t really like him , she told me … She likes his best friend. Whenever he text her he has things that he used to say to me and I used to say back and tells them to her and he even calls her by the name he used to call me , I don’t like him at all but I don’t know why this bothers me so much can someone help me ?

  • GiftedSoul

    I have a dilemma and I would desperately need someone to assist me.

    I have been best friends with a girl who i would call Mary, for about a year. However, she started to move distant with me. One day she told me her boyfriend who i would call James and he broke up about a some months ago and she still loved him and wanted him.

    After that she continued moving distant with me. I didn’t tell her anything but i acted accordingly that is give her space and so on.
    About a few months after i started dating her ex-boyfriend best friend who i would call John. John and I been together for 3 months but i didn’t work out in which he broke up with me; in short he explained he’s not right for me and he told me he still was in love with his ex-girlfriend. How painful was it for me .

    How does Mary fit in the picture? Remember i said her ex-boyfriend is the best friend of my ex boyfriend.
    Well i grew feelings for James, her ex. I no longer cared about John but grew immense feelings for James. I knew it was Mary’s ex but after the terrible breakup i had, i needed someone to console me and talk to me and James was there for me every time.
    James told me also that he liked me before and that he told Mary while they were dating that he did.
    So we started dating and eventually i told her. She was ok with it as first but seeing us together continually, she avoided us completely.

    She doesn’t speak to me neither him. I lost my best friend whom i loved dearly but i gained someone great.

    ________ Please anyone out there, how should i channel my feelings?______

  • Mandy May

    I’m in a similar situation to this one. I broke up with my ex boyfriend, let’s call him “Chad,” over 6 months ago for talking about me in school and telling people that we had sex, even though I’m still a virgin. Recently, my best friend, let’s call her “Laurie,” has been telling me that she has a thing for Chad. Now, this not only pains me to hear because he was once my boyfriend and I cared about him, but because (plot twist) I have been secretly in love with her since our freshman year. We’re now coming to the end of our sophomore year, and I still have the same feelings for her that I’ve had since we first met. When Chad and I broke up, I secretly prayed that if he were to move on and start dating another girl, it would be anyone but Laurie, and now, as if by some cruel and tragic irony, she begins to catch feelings for him. And the worst part is, both Laurie and I have recently gotten into new relationships with new guys, her boyfriend “Bruce” and my boyfriend “Mike,” but she won’t forget about Chad and I still can’t stop thinking about her. She is the most beautiful, amazing, wonderful, bubbly, spontaneous, cheeky, energetic, fun-to-be-with girl I’ve ever met in my life. I’ve never felt like this about anyone before. I’d die for her, but this whole situation is causing me so much heartache, I think I might die anyway.

  • grace

    my best friend just toldme that she is going out with my ex that i still love and now im sad cause she has a music.ly and he is on there and i texted her and told her that he is in 7th grade and she is in 5th grade but she never answered and now i feel like a total jerk for breaking up with him for some jerk but then we got back together but then he forgot that we were dating and he cheated on me and so i broke up with him again nd thats a big mistake and im likewhat have ive done what should i do and we were dating for 9 mounths and that was the best 9 mounths of my entire life and before she told me that i was trying to tell him that i still have feelings for him but i never got to cause i was too scared but now i know that i should have told him but i didnt so now im so so so so so sad and i just keep on thinking about him and it makes me how sad i am without him and now they see each other every day and nowim so sad for not telling him ndnow i just want to kill myself but not really but i just feel like a jerk for breaking up with him but now my friend is going out with him and he was the love of my entire life but i havent told her yet that i was still having feelings about him but i dont know if i should tell her thati still have feelings for him so i dont knowwhat i should do.

    • Rosa

      He is a jerk and not worth your time. No one forgets that they are dating. That is a lame excuse right there Grace. How can he give you an excuse such as “oh I forgot we were dating”? Set your standard higher sweet Grace. You are much better and deserve more than a pity jerk. You will learn with time, that not everyone that smiles and says nice things is necessarily nice, unfortunately. Get yourself busy with some new activity, new book, and you will see, before you know it, you will feel much better.
      But never settle for less than what you deserve. He is the jerk that should feel bad, not you.

  • Jackie

    Well they haven’t dated yet but he wants to ask her out and she thinks it’s a prank. But she like him before and I know she still does. And I have no problem if they date but just not around me so much cause I care about them both so much and I don’t wan to loose her over the first guy I ever loved. Besides it was a text relationship. I still love him but I’m getting over it. It’s just awkward when he says stuff romantic about her when she’s not their then I start to wonder that if he ever really said that stuff about me to anyone. I miss him I’ll admit that but I don’t really miss him we never really talked it’s just that he was the first guy I ever said I love you to. And I miss talking to him like I use to. But he’s a fuckboy and I’m sure I’ll find someone else . I don’t even know why I miss him. I just do

  • Deysha Villa Nueva

    Well I’m in middle school and this shit happened to me. She went behind my back and started dating him without asking me. I even told her that I still had feeling for him but I guess my say didn’t matter. I see them around and feel like slapping that fake bitch across the face she thinks she’s so damn innocent and sensitive but the truth is she’s a lying whore. She made my other friend go against me and now i’m being hated on because of her. I want to move on to high school and never hear her annoying ass voice again. I still like him and he hurts me so much. It hurts to know that I just want to hug him and tell him sorry that I wasn’t worth his time. I’m sorry for not being fake like her.