It’s not fun to fight with anyone, but it’s especially not fun to fight with your best friend. Your bestie is the person who’s supposed to be there for you no matter what. She’s the one you turn to when you need someone to cheer you up or calm you down or make you laugh or just when you’re bored and you need someone to hang out with. In fact, she’s the one you go to for advice when you’re fighting with your other friends.
This is why it can be so confusing to fight with a best friend – you don’t really know how to deal. When you’re both feeling upset, angry and hurt, you might both resort to doing things that you’ll regret when you guys make up and become besties again. I’ve gotten in a lot of girl fights with various best friends and they’ve all sucked. And sometimes, I’ll admit it, my actions were the things that made these fights even worse. I learned that when fighting with a BFF, there are some things you just can’t do… or it could end your friendship forever.
Sub Tweet About HerWe've all been there - you're furious at someone and you're dying to vent about that anger in a place where a lot of people will notice. So you turn to Twitter, obviously. But trust me, sub tweeting about your fight with your BFF is a horrible idea. Don't air your dirty laundry via Twitter. Getting social media involved means your fight will get messy and public - and who wants that kind of drama? Keep this fight between you and your BFF. There's no need to make nasty tweets about her (just because they don't say her name doesn't mean they're okay). If you want to say something, say it to her rather than trying to send a weird message. Source: ShutterStock
Be Super, Super MeanIf something was bad enough to make you fight with your bestie, it's probably something that's making you super angry or super hurt. Either way, emotions are running high. In an attempt to make her hurt as much as you do, or just to win an argument, you might resort to saying really mean things to her. A lot of times when girls fight, they use the secrets they know against each other and that's when things get complicated. Don't throw things in your friends face just to hurt her - you can't take that kind of stuff back. Even if you guys make up and things are fine, she'll always remember the horrible thing you said to her that one time. Source: ShutterStock
Try To Get Other Friends Angry At Her AlsoDon't turn this fight into a friend war. Just because you're fighting with your bestie doesn't mean all of your mutual friends need to be mad at her also. I know it might be tempting to let your friend know exactly what your BFF was saying about her the other night (so she can be like, "OMG! I hate her too!), but it's really immature. This is between you and your best friend. Don't get others involved. Source: ShutterStock
Refuse To Listen To Her or Apologize To HerThis girl is your best friend for a reason. Therefore, you owe it to her to at least hear her side of the story. If she did something to hurt you, let her explain. Listening to her doesn't mean you automatically need to forgive her - you can listen and then take time to figure things out on your own. Similarly, if you did something wrong, you need to swallow your pride and apologize to her. Being too stubborn could cost you your friendship, which is something you'll probably end up regretting. Source: ShutterStock
Act Like You're Not Mad When You AreI'll admit it - I'm guilty of doing this a lot. And you know what? It never makes anything better, it only makes things worse. You don't need to tell your BFF every time she annoys you a little, but if you're legitimately angry with her over something she did or said, speak up! Don't act like nothing is going on, because it's probably obvious that you're mad. This will only hurt you in the end and it will also ensure that your problems will never get solved. Source: ShutterStock
Say Mean Things About Her Behind Her BackWhen you're fighting with your best friend, it's very, very easy to pick up the phone and start talking crap to your other friends about her. But this can very easily come back to haunt you. If you guys have mutual friends and you start saying mean things about your bestie to them, there's a big chance they can turn around and tell her exactly what you said... which will only make your fight worse. Even if you tell her secrets or say mean things to people who aren't friends with her, what makes you think they won't tell someone else, meaning it will probably still get back to her? Be careful with this. If you really want to vent, call a trusted friend or try venting to a family member. Source: ShutterStock
Try To Get RevengeGetting revenge might be the worst possible thing you could do when fighting with your best friend. Purposely doing something really mean to her is something you can never take back. It's immature and bratty and just not cool. Even if your friend did something horrible to you, try taking the high road instead of attempting to get revenge. Be the more mature one and forget about her - she's not worth your energy! Ignoring her and moving on with your life is always the best revenge, anyway. Source: ShutterStock
Let One Fight Ruin Your FriendshipUnless your BFF seriously betrayed you or did something truly awful to you, don't let this one fight end your entire friendship. After all, this is your best friend we're talking about. Try to talk this out with her - let her know how you feel, listen to what she has to say and give each other another chance. Fights happen all the time in every kind of relationship - that's just life. If you always let one fight ruin everything, you're not going to hold onto anyone for too long. Sometimes, it's okay to forgive and forget. Source: ShutterStock
Are you fighting with a best friend right now? What is it about? Have you ever done any of these things when fighting with a best friend? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.