Ask A Guy: How Do You Turn A Guy On (Without Being Naked)?

Dear Ethan,

I want to know something. How do you turn a guy on without having to get undressed first? What’s the best way to get him interested without being totally naked?

Getting undressed should be the last stop on the train to Turn-Onville. Believe it or not, wearing the right clothes can be even more seductive than revealing what’s underneath them. You don’t even have to bare any skin – guys can get worked up over a cute skirt, a form-fitting sweater, or a killer pair of jeans. And sharing a peek at sexy underwear can mesmerize a dude for days.

But of course, there are ways to turn a guy on even while wearing a plastic trash bag. For the most part, we like a lot of the same things women like: By whispering in his ear, administering a sensual massage, or kissing his neck, you can get him squirming and squealing like a little girl (no offense, ladies).

And don’t ever underestimate the power of talking dirty. If your relationship warrants it (don’t go on and on about his “big” you-know-what if you haven’t yet seen just how “big” it really is…) and you’ve a good gauge on just how far you can take it (best not to frighten an inexperienced partner with violent analogies for sex), dirty talk is perhaps your most potent weapon. Just make sure you only talk about things you’re actually comfortable doing with him. Don’t talk dirty just to make him happy.

When all else fails, however, ask your man what he likes. Every guy is different and has a unique set of turn-ons and preferences. Whether discussing it in the heat of the moment, or over breakfast in order to save the information for a rainy day, communicating with him will be the only way to know what really gets him going!

Good luck!

Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. He is also the creator and editor of For more on Ethan, visit…or call his mom, Robin.

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  • orangenarwhalgurl

    This is good advice, but why would you wait until “all else fails” to just ask him what he likes? He’ll appreciate you wanting to please him! That’s what I did and it worked very well. 😉

  • gabi

    that really helped!

  • b.

    hahahaha You’re really funny 😀