The other day, a friend said to me, “I don’t know why I dated any of my exes. They were all a complete waste of time.” While I am normally down for a little ex-bashing sesh with a good friend, this time, I had to disagree with her. Your ex might be horrible, immature, annoying and downright mean, but I would never call any sort of romantic relationship a complete waste of my time. Why? Because you can learn really important things from past relationships and the breakups you go through when they end.
In fact, these life lessons are probably the best thing about a breakup. If you just ended a relationship, you’re probably sitting there feeling miserable and thinking that there is no “best thing” about a breakup. But once you give it some time, you’ll see what I mean. There are a lot of things you can from a breakup and these things are usually an essential part of you growing up and maturing. So, the next time you’re feeling down in the dumps about a relationship ending, look at things in a positive light and remember the 8 things you can learn from any breakup.
What Kind Of Relationship You Really WantOne thing a bad relationship can teach you is what you don't want in a relationship. That, in turn, teaches you what you do want in a future relationship. Obviously, you need to know what you're looking for when you start dating someone new. Once you recognize the bad qualities your ex had, you can watch out for those qualities in other people. Knowing what you want is super important when it comes to a relationship, so after a breakup, make a list of things you want to never happen again and make sure they don't. Source: ShutterStock
How Strong You Really AreBefore I broke up with my first boyfriend, I never thought I could go through with it. I didn't think I was strong enough to handle a breakup. As it turns out, I was wrong. Yes, it was super, super hard, but guess what? I got through it. It felt so amazing to realize that I was such a stronger person than I thought I was - and it also gave me the courage to end bad relationships in the future. A lot of girls feel the way I did and I just want you guys to know that realizing you can go through a breakup and come out okay is a truly amazing feeling. Source: ShutterStock
Who Your True Friends AreIt wasn't until I dumped my first boyfriend (yes, him again) that I realized who my true best friends were. People I thought didn't care too much about me were there for me in ways I never could have imagined. And some people who I thought would be there for me... well, they just weren't. I started spending a lot more time with these friends who had my back and I started realizing that having great friends is a lot better than having a bad boyfriend. And you'll see that also! Source: ShutterStock
That You Deserve BetterWhen you're stuck in a bad relationship, you usually don't realize exactly how bad your significant other is treating you. Sometimes, it's not until you end things and move on that you see how you deserve so much better. And once you realize this, it may help you stop settling for losers who aren't worth your time. Source: ShutterStock
Or That You Need To Act Differently Next TimeWe can't always blame the ex - sometimes, relationships end because we're doing something wrong. If your BF dumped you, seriously think about why. Were you treating him the wrong way? Did you betray him? If you feel that the breakup is your fault, learn from your mistakes and take that breakup as lesson on what not to do in the future. Source: ShutterStock
That Being Single Is NOT TerribleI know that the idea of being single and alone when you're in a relationship can be terrifying. A lot of times, the fear of being single is enough to keep people tethered to their terrible BF... and that's not good at all. Seriously, being single is not as horrible as you think it is! After my first relationship ended, I was devastated about not having a boyfriend. But my years being single ended up being some of the best years of my life. I made so many amazing memories and so many incredible friends. Take advantage of your "me time" and have fun! Source: ShutterStock
That You Can't Change AnyoneWe're constantly told that you can't change someone who doesn't want to be changed... but most of us don't believe that statement unless we learn it for ourselves. You'll figure this out after a breakup and hopefully, it will prevent you from trying to change others in the future. Source: ShutterStock
How To Move OnMoving on is one of those things you don't know how to do until you actually go through it yourself. Everyone moves on differently and you'll learn how to do it when you go through a breakup. And as hard as it may be, it will happen eventually. And when it does, it will feel amazing! Source: ShutterStock
What lessons have you learned from a recent breakup? Are you going through a breakup right now? Tell us about it in the comments.