When I was younger, I used to think that boys were a different species… an icky, germ-covered species that loved to fart and burp and make fun of girls just for being girls. I never really thought that guys had emotions or feelings. I never imagined them getting heartbroken over a girl or caring that a huge stain was all over their good shirt. Looking back on this, it was pretty unfair of me to stereotype guys so much and to assume that they’re all the same.
As I’ve gotten older (ugh), I’ve learned a lot of secrets about guys that prove that – gasp! – dudes are actually just like us! I mean, not just like any of us, because obviously we’re all different and unique and all that good stuff. But when it comes down to it, your average guy probably isn’t all that different from you.
It’s kind of comforting to know these secrets about dudes. I’d like to formally thank my current boyfriend, my brother and every other guy I’ve dated or been friends with in the past for allowing me to learn secrets about guys that I think you all need to know. Finding out more about the inner workings of guys can help you see them differently – and, who knows, it might even score you a date. Find out these secrets about guys that you need to know now:
Guys Love To CuddleDon't let their tough exteriors fool you... most guys love a good cuddle almost as much as girls do (just like some girls aren't as into it as other girls). Any guy I've hooked up with has seemed just as excited about the idea of cuddling as I have. And I've heard many, many dudes say that one of their favorite parts of hooking up is the cuddling afterwards - and that it's also one of the biggest things they miss after a breakup. So don't be afraid to cuddle up against him. He's probably loving it. Source: ShutterStock
Dudes Like To GossipGirls always get a bad rep about gossiping, but I've got news for you guys: guys can gossip just as much as we can. My cousin (who is a guy, obvs) used to call me all the time to talk for hours and gossip about all of our mutual friends. When I have friend drama, my BF literally can't wait to hear about it. In fact, I think my ex gossips even more than I do and that's really saying something. Guys aren't into drama, but if you're close with them, I've found that they'll definitely indulge in a little gossip and secret-sharing. Source: ShutterStock
They Care About Making A Good First ImpressionA lot of people seem to think that guys don't care about how they look, but that is so, so wrong. My boyfriend stresses over his outfits when we're going out somewhere nice, like a wedding. Whenever my little brother has a date, he goes all out with new clothes and cologne. I've heard guys stress about pimples, a stain on their shirt, the fact that their pants are a little too big... anything. Dudes care how they look and they want to impress you. Source: ShutterStock
Guys Get Bummed When You Don't Answer ThemTrue story: this weekend, I was chilling at the beach when I heard the guys sitting behind me get into a serious convo about girls. One guy was bummed that a girl he was interested in was blowing him off. He said - and I quote - "I don't like how she didn't answer me, bro. Should I DM her and be like, 'oh, it's like that?'" These were total bros and you would probably never expect that out of their mouths. It just goes to show that if a guy is into you, he's going to get super bummed if you ignore him... and they're going to ask their friends for advice on how to deal. Source: ShutterStock
Guys Can Have Frenemies TooI've found that the word "frenemy" seems to only revolve around female friendships, for some reason. While it's true that dudes tend to be a little more laid-back with their friends (they're more likely to just say it how it is than girls are), it's completely possible for them to also have frenemies. My BF has a major frenemy and so does my brother. So please don't think this is only reserved for girls. Source: ShutterStock
They Like 'Girly' Movies and TV ShowsA lot of people seem to think that guys are practically allergic to rom-coms, but I can tell you that this is completely untrue. My ex-boyfriend watched The Notebook more than I did... and he cried more than I did while watching it. Two of my best guy friends are just as obsessed with Pretty Little Liars as I am. And even though I had to drag my boyfriend to see Titanic in 3D, he ended up loving it. Source: ShutterStock
Guys Take A Long Time To Get ReadyI know there are some dudes out there who take 5 minutes to get ready, right? Right?! Wait, can you send them over here, though? My boyfriend regularly takes longer than I do to get ready, from taking a 40 minute shower to checking his Facebook to picking a shirt that doesn't need to be ironed. My brother might take better care of his skin than I do. And when I recently went away on vacation, I found that my brother's best friend regularly made us late to our dinner reservations because he took so long to get ready. Source: ShutterStock
Dudes Get Insecure About Sex Stuff TooYou should know this one already, but I figured I'd throw it in here anyway. You know how you're nervous to get naked the first time? Or how you get nervous about telling him what you like? Yeah, dudes feel the same way. Even if they put on a confident front, they might only be doing this because they feel like they have to as a guy. Source: ShutterStock
Guys Stalk You On FacebookDon't let them fool you - guys totally Facebook stalk the girls they like or their ex girlfriends. They just don't talk about it as much. I know this because I watch my boyfriend, brother and all of my guy friends do it on a daily basis. So the next time they make you feel crazy for doing it, ask them honestly if they can say they've never done the same. Bet they can't. Source: ShutterStock
They Get Heartbroken Over Breakups AlsoWhen a guy gets dumped by a girl he really likes, trust me: he's going to be miserable. Maybe even more miserable than some girls get. When a dude gets his heart broken, he takes it hard. I watched my little brother sink into a deep depression after his ex ended things and it still makes me sad. My boyfriend told me that when he dumped his ex because she was cheating, it was the worst few months of his life - he said he couldn't even get himself out of bed. So please don't think guys are always okay after a breakup. They have feelings too! Source: ShutterStock
Did you know any of these things about guys? Do you have any stories about secrets about guys you want to share? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments!