The other day, I got my period while I was at school. I didn’t have a pad with me, so I just rolled up some tissue and used it as a pad. Big mistake. A little while later, I was walking down the hallway when I heard two girls behind me laughing. I went to the bathroom to check it out and there was just a huge mess down there… my period had bled through my pants. I’m so embarrassed because the two girls who saw my incident were the mean popular girls. I have a few classes with them and now I feel like I NEVER want to go back to school. I was already shy to begin with and this makes everything worse. What should I do?!
Aw, girl! I wish I could give you a hug right now. Embarrassing period stories are never fun to go through (although I promise that one day you will laugh about this), but take solace in this fact: we’ve all had ’em. I once had the unfortunate experience of realizing there was a huge stain on my white shorts during the middle of a hangout sesh with my boyfriend and his friends. It left me wondering just how long I had obliviously walked around like that.
But this is about you, not me. Dealing with embarrassing moments is hard enough as it is – add a few mean girls into the equation and things get even more tough. There’s really only one thing I can tell you to do: keep your head up high, ignore those lame girls and act like nothing embarrassing ever happened. Confronting them isn’t going to make things better and letting them see you cry and squirm is exactly what they want. Don’t give them that satisfaction!
Go to school acting like nothing weird with your period ever happened. If you hear people talking about it, ignore them. Don’t go out of your way to avoid these girls, but don’t pay any attention to them either. If people really won’t leave you alone, you can talk to a teacher or parent, but I would really suggest ignoring them – it’s the best way to show people you don’t care. And if you don’t care, there’s no fun in it for them.
Seriously – don’t let these girls and this situation make you feel uncomfortable or ruin anything for you. There will always be mean girls out there – you just need to learn to ignore them. As for the period thing? Like I said, embarrassing period stories happen. All girls get their period and chances are, all girls have had a stain at some point. That might not make it any less cringe-worthy when it happens to you, but at least you can take comfort in the fact that you’re not alone.
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