My Period Bled Through My Pants At School And I Got Embarrassed – Now What?

Dear Heather,

The other day, I got my period while I was at school. I didn’t have a pad with me, so I just rolled up some tissue and used it as a pad. Big mistake. A little while later, I was walking down the hallway when I heard two girls behind me laughing. I went to the bathroom to check it out and there was just a huge mess down there… my period had bled through my pants. I’m so embarrassed because the two girls who saw my incident were the mean popular girls. I have a few classes with them and now I feel like I NEVER want to go back to school. I was already shy to begin with and this makes everything worse. What should I do?!

Aw, girl! I wish I could give you a hug right now. Embarrassing period stories are never fun to go through (although I promise that one day you will laugh about this), but take solace in this fact: we’ve all had ’em. I once had the unfortunate experience of realizing there was a huge stain on my white shorts during the middle of a hangout sesh with my boyfriend and his friends. It left me wondering just how long I had obliviously walked around like that.

But this is about you, not me. Dealing with embarrassing moments is hard enough as it is – add a few mean girls into the equation and things get even more tough. There’s really only one thing I can tell you to do: keep your head up high, ignore those lame girls and act like nothing embarrassing ever happened. Confronting them isn’t going to make things better and letting them see you cry and squirm is exactly what they want. Don’t give them that satisfaction!

Go to school acting like nothing weird with your period ever happened. If you hear people talking about it, ignore them. Don’t go out of your way to avoid these girls, but don’t pay any attention to them either. If people really won’t leave you alone, you can talk to a teacher or parent, but I would really suggest ignoring them – it’s the best way to show people you don’t care. And if you don’t care, there’s no fun in it for them.

Seriously – don’t let these girls and this situation make you feel uncomfortable or ruin anything for you. There will always be mean girls out there – you just need to learn to ignore them. As for the period thing? Like I said, embarrassing period stories happen. All girls get their period and chances are, all girls have had a stain at some point. That might not make it any less cringe-worthy when it happens to you, but at least you can take comfort in the fact that you’re not alone.

take care,
Heather

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  • Erin

    This just happened to me today. I am in 6th grade and am pretty much a teachers pet. This morning I was in my favorite class ever with my most favorite teacher, and I started bleeding. I didnt notice untill my friend told me in gym. She let me borrow her jacket to wrap around my waist the rest of the day and it worked. Luckily, when I was bleeding, no one saw. Few! But seriously, DONT WORRY ABOUT IT! This happens to literally every girl on the planet!!!!! It is just part of God’s creation. And honestly, it is beautiful.

  • briiiii

    I just started my period yesterday and it was weird bc i started super early but i had no pain so i was happy. I had no idea but it was really heavy today and i went to the bathroom before lunch bc i felt like it had bled through and it did! it was SO bad, I was wearing medium-light jeans but luckily i had a jacket on that was kinda longish in the back so i think covered it before when i didnt know about it so i dont think anyone saw, i just wore my jacket around my waist after that for lunch and my best friends mom brought me some jeans the next class. but my crush was in my class that i left in, him and i have been texting and i think he likes me but im just embarrassed to text him now. bc i was in class with light jeans on and my jacket around my waist then i got a note and left class and came back with dark jeans and my jacket on. i just hope he didn’t notice, im super embarrassed right now and i want to text him but im still embarrassed about it.

  • kk

    One day i was at school and i bed through my pants at school. Good thing i had on navy blue pants . I had to go to the office budget a pad. I was scared. Girl get used to it cause your gonna have it for a long time.

  • Christina

    I bled through at school earlier in 6th period without anything and I ended up going home with my boyfriend and his friend and I stayed the night at my boyfriends friends house and I had already bled through so we were dry humping and the next morning for school he put a different pair of pants on and I seen him grab the ones he was wearing last night and they had blood on the crotch . And he didn’t know it but me . And I haven’t talked to him yet so I don’t know what he’s gonna think . ๐Ÿ™

  • Melissa

    Omg I’m at school right now and that’s happening to me right now thank god I have a jacket but I’m still paranoid

  • Angie

    Eh. It happened to me this last year on the first day of school. Everyone had to stand up and introduce themselves. I stood up and introduced myself and the next thing I knew, everyone behind me started laughing (including a guy I liked very much). It was VERY embarrassing. At first, when they laughed, I wasn’t aware of what they were laughing at, but the only time I noticed I’d bled through was when I got into the car and my mom told me. It was a HUGE mess and I know lots of people saw especially since I was walking around the school a lot that day (it being the first day of school). Either way, accidents happen, people will be immature and ignorant, and you just gotta take everything in pride , the good, the bad, and the horrible. ๐Ÿ™‚ don’t stress that bloody mess!

    • Angie

      Life is too short to dwell on things like that and people who are ignorant are not worth the time of impressing. To girls who have had this happen to them, It happens EVERY day to some girl and/or girls. You aren’t alone. Every girl goes through 1-4 embarrassing bled through days. It’s normal. It’s life. And if people find it funny to laugh at nature, they are laughing at god’s creation which is imperfect people and EVERYONE has an accident. ๐Ÿ™‚ Keep strong girlies. Just make sure that morning before you go out, ALWAYS wipe yourself. If you see a brown discharge, that’s mostly an indicator that you’re period is happening or going to happen so try to put on a pad. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Chloe

    Who cares! Live life in the moment not in the past! And if you liked those jeans, either use the washing machine or hand wash them, but are dry them. The filipina way is the best sometimes. My cousin had the same problem and there was literally blood everywhere thats fabric. Eww. My mom just hand washed them and air dried them and no stains at all. Not even a smudge.

  • Kitty

    Most likely no one will remember the next day. If you liked those pants, there is some hope for them. Put them in the washing machine. Add oxiclean. Put in soap. Wash in a COLD cycle. The stain should be gone. If they were white, the stain will not completely come out.

  • Susan

    I actually bled though once at school, and I got the chair dirty lol It was at the end of school and I dont think anyone figured out it was me, but after that I stopped trying to only wear one pad during the day.

  • Janexxxxx

    Don’t worry too much about it.
    I was jin school one day when I was 15. I was speaking with my history teacher when suddenly all I heard was a splatter on the floor and loads of laughing. When I checked, TONS of blood was splattered across the floor. I had to borrow a tampon from my teacher!
    The next day I acted like it hadn’t happened, and it worked.

  • Ren

    Hey, this is my worst nightmare! The whole month I worry about bleeding through, because I was new to the whole thing a while ago, and I didn’t have any confidence in my pads but the I’m way more used to it now, but I still wear thick black shorts under my uniform just in case!!

  • Brookelle

    one time i was wearing khaki pants and my stomach was hurting and i realized id had my perid so i borrowed my bffs jacket :/

  • Spice

    It can mean a few things. if you don’t wear uniform at school, you might have worn white. It goes to white, no idea how. It also could mean that you forgot to change your tampon or pad. If you use tampons, it could mean it wasnt in correctly or you’re just not ready. Hope this helped. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Lara Fisher

    When I first started my period,it was on children in need a year ago.I had no idea I started until when I got home.The blood had bled through my knickers,onto my white,brown spotted pyjamas and I spent the whole day of school like that.

  • roseyy

    I was in London for the day with my family and we decided to ride round the park on those rented bicycles, I had baby pink jeans on … And was riding a bike it wasn’t pleasant had to go into Starbucks grimy men’s loos to sort myself out sooo embarrassing

  • Nyctimene

    Don’t worry about it. I know that’s easier said than done but it really does happen all the time. Millions of women are menstruating at any given moment and hey, in many parts of the world they don’t even use anything! The women just let it drip where it falls. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    When I was in my first year of high school I bled out through my pants and I didn’t even notice it for most of the day. Nobody ever said anything about it. Most girls will probably have a few accidents in their lives and most of us understand that and don’t say anything about it and guys just don’t want to even talk about anything period related anyway so they aren’t going to say anything either.

  • Kylee

    This happened to me last year in school. I just acted like nothing ever happened the next day and no one ever said anything to me about it including the two girls who had been giggling from behind me. It was really no big deal to me. Just one big mistake on my part. I already laugh about it.

  • Hailey

    I was at Disney World once and I bled through my white shorts. There was no way for me to go home and change, so me and my mom were running around trying to find a pair of shorts at one of the stores. This was in November, so they were selling mostly gym pants and pajamas, but eventually we found some. My dad and brother were so annoyed with us.

  • Laine Jensen

    Hey gurl. No worries!! Once I had the biggest stain walking to a class with my crush right behind. I went to the bathroom and noticed it after. I stayed there for the whole class!