10 Signs Your Boyfriend Has A Crush On His Girl Best Friend

Feelings of jealousy almost always go hand-in-hand with relationships, no matter how much you trust and love your boo. It happens, especially when your boyfriend has a lot of friends who are girls… and it happens even more when your boyfriend has a best friend who’s a girl.

We get a ton of questions from you guys on a daily basis about boyfriends who have BFFs who are girls. A lot of you are worried about one thing in particular: that he might have a secret crush on her. While it’s totally possible for your boyfriend to have a completely platonic relationship with his girl BFF, it’s also possible that he could be harboring a secret crush on her. But it can be difficult to tell the difference when you’re already feeling jealous and emotional, so that’s where I come in.

I’m not trying to make you guys nervous or freak you out – but if you feel like your boyfriend might be crushing on his best friend, there are some signs you can look out for it. I have personally been in this situation – one of the reasons I broke up with my ex is because he was emotionally cheating on me with his BFF. So, I’ve been there and I know what to watch out for. If you’re in the same sitch, read on to find out if your boyfriend is crushing on this girl… or if their friendship is totally innocent.

Are you dating a guy with a girl best friend? Do you think he likes her? Has a guy ever left you for his best friend? Do you think I’m right? Tell me in the comments.


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  1. avatarLisa says:

    So this April fools just happened and I just started dating this guy for 3 months and he made a prank without telling everyone on Facebook that’s hes dating his best friend (who has a boyfriend) without telling me. This girl btw stopped talking to him because of his views on her then boyfriend 3 years ago and just randomly came back into his life and I don’t think she knows I’m dating him or she knows he’s dating me. I find this all suspicious, I feel like he actually might have feelings for her but will never say or tell and I want to skype him on sunday. Should I worry about this, I have some twisted gut feeling about this. What should I do when I ask questions about her? Thanks gurls/guys xxx

  2. avatarMichelle says:

    When it comes down to it all females are jealous. There is a girl code u dont break unless ur into him. If he’s in a loving relationship and that ‘friend’ suddenly makes a comeback rather than sitting on the sidelines she’s out to get him. I have been that girl best friend and respectively taken a back seat and let that person live his life while I go out and do the same. Why? Deep down no girl will ever be cool with their man having a female best friend. And every girl knows this. Having the tables turned and now dealing with it being the one in the relationship I know this for sure. I was nice and welcoming and got to spend an awkward night of hearing their inside jokes and that funny thing that happened in their hotel room on that vacation they went on. Bitch is desperate. Do I think he will cheat? No. I know I am loved and mean more than her. Being of sound mind im able to see her feeble attempts at marking territory. I think my boyfriend is blind to her trying to piss me off which is okay. She can try all she wants. If ur secure in your relationship stuff like that can be easily talked about later. If u are meant to be together u will, and those once so important friendships will fade as u grow together. If ur not meant to be together then u dont need to worry either way. He’s just another step to the one who will truly give u all u need. The worst thing u can do is overreact. But that doesnt mean if you’re truly hurt u shouldn’t tell him.

  3. avatarAle says:

    I have a baby with my fiance. We have been dating for three years now. It really hurts that he is always talking to this other girl. Apparently she is very similar to him. It hurts however because he talks about her, defends her, compares her to me. When he comes home from talking to her he even tells me to do something similar with my hair. It makes me angry that he even dances with me because i can see that he learned some things from her. When we went doll shopping he even liked the doll that was most similar to her. it all makes me soo angry. I already told him how I fealt so he stopped talking to her for a while. But i still don’t trust him. I feel that he still likes her even if they are not talking to each other. I don’t want a boyfriend that does not put me first. I dont know what to do.

  4. avatarGisella says:

    I have been dating my current fiancée for almost a year now, and a lot of people judge us for it because they don’t know the back story to us.
    Well, him and his female best friend have been friends for years, since before him and I met, and he recently told me he used to have the biggest crush on her, and then continues to go on and say she is one of the most beautiful girls he has ever met, etc..
    So, tonight we had a movie night and of course she was there… It was after all at her house and he couldn’t have been more jubilant to go..
    When they look at each other, it feels like the spark between us just gets ripped out if me, and I’m instantly pushed to the side.. Always when it comes to her..
    I’m awaiting surgery and when I ask him to do something for me he gives me shit about it but when she asks, he does it instantly..

    What do I do??

  5. avatarLeah says:

    Omg Im 13 years old.My bestfriend goes out with my ex.Im starting to have feelings for him.I dnt know what to do.If i tell her she`s going to break up with him and i dont want them to cause they both like eachother.What should i d?Im clueless :(

  6. avatarSharon says:

    My guy left me for my best friend. What will i do? Pls i need advice.

  7. avatarSharon says:

    Am 25yr, i have this guy whom i have dated for 9 months, he waw my first love although we never had sex. When i travelled, his friend called me to tell me, he’s been going out with my best friend and when i comfrontd him, he didnt deny it and he even ahead to break up wit me. I still love him, tell me, what should i do?

  8. avatarKatie says:

    I am really getting upset with my boyfriend. (for the sake of circumstance i am going to change their names) I had this friend Kortney. She introduced me to my current boyfriend Evan. At the time they fought all the time but now they are the best of friends. This upsets me. A lot. He almost never calls me but ALWAYS calls her. In fact i just recalled him and he told me he couldnt because he was on the phone with her. When ever me and her get into a fight (which is a lot now.) he instantly sides with her and it hurts so much. I dont know what to do… I cant talk to him with out him going straight to kortney and telling her everything… I am so conflicted and I know he likes her. He denies it but it’s so obvious. I don’t know.. I want to break up with him but i cant bring myself to do it. I love him very much, but i know he doesnt return all of my feelings. He ditches me to go do things with her. I am slowly breaking my own heart. Who knows, i could be over reacting. I have anxiety and some serious jealousy. Please help me. I dont know what to do anymore…

    • avatarJoe says:

      I think you need to trust your gut. Let him know you are going to let him pursue his opportunity with her and you are going to move on. It might give him the permission he needs or jolt him into realizing he might lose a great thing he has going.

  9. avatarkim says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. We do live together and he we spend most of out time together when not working. He has a female friend since before we have been dating. As with many girls. I did not like her from the d tart. There was just something about the way she looked at him. After a few months of dating. She started texting him in the middle of the night. He then started to have Lund daily in the establishment she works for. I let it go until she texted him in the middle of the night again. The text consisted of he telling him how much she missed him. I confronted him about it and let him know I was not comfortable with their “friendship” he told me that they were just friends and not to worry. He started deleting texts between them so I could not see them. I found this out when he asked mecto onto his cell account to get a number he eeded off of a previous bill because his phone nubile and the number was not synced. This of course caused a fight. He told me he did not tell me because he knew I did not like her and did not want to upset me. Over the past 2 months she has been texting him several times a day. With things like “you should leave your gr8 and we can run away together” “I miss you and I know u miss me” he does not respond to these texts. And shows me many of them. However he does nothing to let her know this is not appropriate actions nor has he addressed the fact that he loves me and there will never be anything between them. I can not help but wonder if there is something between them

  10. avatartotallybeenthere says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. And the first year we were together was a very rough year. It all started with him meeting a new friend and later became a “BFF” at work. They were basically always together 3-4 times a week at work and they would go out to bars or she invited him over at times. When I heard that she existed at first, I had a “meh” feeling. But as the days and weeks went by, she would text or call him after hours, and he won’t ignore the texts or calls at all regardless of whatever we were doing together. Then later, I told him I had enough and I knew he was crossing the line. He told me that his BFF understands him a lot and she knows a lot about him and so on. There were things he never told me before that she already knew. And this is only after 6mons knowing her. I fought hard telling him that I felt so uncomfortable about her, she knew of course that this was happening and she didn’t even consider that she’s intruding. Later on she broke up with her bf after he cheated on her and that event caused it to have a rebound. They started talking more and more and he went to see her and lied about it until he accidentally told me weeks later. I was so stressed out and wanted to break up but I didnt want to at the same time. So I waited, waited, and waited…until one day I told him
    “This has to stop because I know you are emotionally cheating on me, even if you say that you don’t see her as a potential gf” he didn’t even know what emotional cheating was at the time until I showed him the signs from different websites and it hit few red flags. He deeply apologized to me, and so far I haven’t seen him text or call her. And at times Ill randomly ask to show me his phone to make sure this really stopped and it did. Luckily I know her number so he can’t just change her name on his phone to pretend. Sounds controlling? As a gf I know nobody wants a “BFF” a woman that doesn’t know her place at all.

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