10 Signs Your Boyfriend Has A Crush On His Girl Best Friend

Feelings of jealousy almost always go hand-in-hand with relationships, no matter how much you trust and love your boo. It happens, especially when your boyfriend has a lot of friends who are girls… and it happens even more when your boyfriend has a best friend who’s a girl.

We get a ton of questions from you guys on a daily basis about boyfriends who have BFFs who are girls. A lot of you are worried about one thing in particular: that he might have a secret crush on her. While it’s totally possible for your boyfriend to have a completely platonic relationship with his girl BFF, it’s also possible that he could be harboring a secret crush on her. But it can be difficult to tell the difference when you’re already feeling jealous and emotional, so that’s where I come in.

I’m not trying to make you guys nervous or freak you out – but if you feel like your boyfriend might be crushing on his best friend, there are some signs you can look out for it. I have personally been in this situation – one of the reasons I broke up with my ex is because he was emotionally cheating on me with his BFF. So, I’ve been there and I know what to watch out for. If you’re in the same sitch, read on to find out if your boyfriend is crushing on this girl… or if their friendship is totally innocent.

Are you dating a guy with a girl best friend? Do you think he likes her? Has a guy ever left you for his best friend? Do you think I’m right? Tell me in the comments.


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  • Kaitlyn

    My boyfriend has a girl best friend. Lately our female friends told me she liked him. He said she doens’t, or maybe he just doesn’t want to admit it. He’s so oblivious. He told her and she made a long paragraph about how she doesn’t like him. On Snapchat he lets her do his streaks, she takes him places, buys him food, and walks with him in the hallways at school all the time.( I’m in high school). I heard that they were acting a little too close at our schools football game that SHE took him to. She lied to me once so she could ride with him in the car, alone. I’ve tried to talk to him but he always replies with “nothing’s going to happen” “she doesn’t like me like that” “she can’t take me from you” and basically stuff like that. I noticed that she leaves him alone when I come around. We’ve been talking some but I still get the feeling she likes him. Lately I feel as if he likes her as well. I might just tell him to stop being friends with her but I’m afraid that he’d still be friends with her behind my back. So basically lots of things are happening right now. The worst thing is they used to like each other, they stopped liking each other bc apparently stuff got weird. According to my boyfriend. Please help me figure this out. I really need to know the truth.

  • Sheritta Kahpeaysewat

    I’m with a man who has his bff and him n i have a kid and everytime he is around her his mood towards me is shit yet to her he is kind and sweet and treats me and my baby like shit i dont deserve this he wont change he said and he also says he doesnt sleep with her and that I’m too jealous and he and her go places alone together and everytime we break up he somehow manages to talk with her and or see her if he’s in the same town as her. She seems like a bootycall and sure acts like one.

  • Incognito

    I’m 50 & been w/ this Guy for 16yrs. & we don’t live together.we were Engaged to be Married but I just Ended it. not because of jealousy,but because of his refusal to TALK to his Lady friend about boundaries. I Knew about her when we got together 16 yrs. ago and had nothing to worry about i really liked her. the last Few yrs. though, I have seen things that started to make me wonder what was going on ? Example: He allows her to stay In our Summer Cottage w/out paying the lot rent & the cable tv Etc. the BFF has an Income but he Doesn’t make her pay anything He pays it. he allows her to come to his home B/C she has a key, and Does his laundry, clean his house and then take the Dog to the Groomer Etc. when I asked him what’s Going on ? why wasn’t I asked? he again refuses to talk about why. when I ask him to talk to her about the Boundaries he wouldn’t do it. he would Get upset and Defender her. it got to the point to where he wouldn’t talk about her to me anymore.so because he wasen’t forth coming & being Honest I looked in his messages and found that she was rearranging her schudule to see him at his job on a daily basis and if she Couldn’t see him like she wanted she was Disappointed. he never shared any of this with me. I had to walk into a lot of this. he says there is no Intimacy which I Kinda Believe but not fully. so, my question is, Do you think he is In love with his BFF & was I wrong to make the Move I did ?

  • Lisa

    I’m a little late on the bandwagon. But there is something i’ve always wanted to say in situations like this. Love deserves work. Both partners should put in work to make the relationship work. The gf is already doing all she can to find out what is really happening, prevent the worst from happening, feeling jealous, stomach knots. And this is proof itself from the gf that she loves her man and would do anything to stop him from walking. Funny thing is, even with most of the comments down below, the gf are the ones putting in all the effort when actually, the only one who could make the change is their respective man/ bf itself.

    The gf can scream and yell and beg on her knees all she wants but if her man wants to keep the other lady around, the other lady will BE around. Here’s the thing. The moment your man makes a statement like – “you better get used to her being around, she’s going no where” It’s a clear sign of disrespect. A decent boyfriend who loves his partner will put her as his priority and REMOVE the cause of her pain. He would even go so far as to show his bestie, time and again, why he chose his gf, and why it will always be his gf and not her. He’d treat his gf like a princess until his girl bestie goes green with envy and have a fit of rage.

    But a guy who does otherwise, who encourages his bestie’s behaviour while wanting to keep his gf, who keeps dismissing his gf’s concerns and who’s the kind of person who threatens his gf with things like accusing her of being insecure and jealous and that he’d walk out – are precisely the kind of guys that are downright jerks. Deep inside, they like having two women claw over them. They feel empowered knowing that they have a choice. They can choose between two women. It boosts his sense of pride. Sometimes these jerks take it a step further. They marry/date their besties over their gf eventually – because hey, stepping on someone else’s self esteem and confidence while watching the light from their eyes diminish is soooo fun.

    Funny that these are the very guys who would be jumping up and down and acting like a cat on hot bricks if it were their gf who had a guy best friend who is out for what is clearly more than a friendship. These guys wouldn’t like it at all. And yet here they are doing the same things.

    My friend was real smart in this scenario. When she saw her man acting up and denying things in her face when he was clearly being shady with his girl best friend, she went and got herself acquainted with a guy and within weeks, upgraded him to a guy best friend position and spent more time with him. Her bf saw what was happening and was not happy at all. He did all that she had done. He pleaded with her, he yelled at her, he became unhappy, snappy, jealous, anxious, you name it. But my friend wasn’t done with him. She blatantly told him to his face that he had spared her no mercy when she was the one on her knees. In fact he barely listened to her and he had threatened to leave her because she was becoming ‘jealous’ and ‘controlling’ and it was ugly on her. He apologised to her but she saw him for who he was. That he wouldn’t have thought twice about walking out on her and being with his bestie had the circumstances been a little more favourable.

    So she did what i’d respect her for all eternity. RIght there and then, she ended their relationship and walked out on him. He regretted heavily and went all stalker-ish. Searching her profile for weeks and wanting to get to know her male bestie and if she had already gotten together with him. His bestie got pissed off that he was spending so much time looking up his now ex gf that she too lost interest in him ( after all, a taken guy is much more attractive than a single one ayy *sarcasm). And it’s safe to say, that my friend has a much deserved happy ending now =)

  • Nish

    Hi everyone, reading all your comments and having JUST been dealt the worst hand of this situation i will tell you now, GO WITH YOUR GUT. If you dont trust the female best friend then do something. I learnt the hard way, my ex’s female best friend is a complete psycho she not only sabotaged my relationship with him but his previous ones too… and to top it off she is now dating my ex… it wont last long but i can tell you now spare yourself the pain and paranoia and get out while you can!.

  • Teee

    I don’t know who to turn to. I need help. I don’t know if I should be worried. My long time boyfriend and I had a fight early on in our relationship about his girl bff because I saw them texting and I’ve been cheated on be for so I was ready to leave but he broke down in tears say in I was his world, stay.. and he would stop talking to her but I told him I don’t want to be that type of person.. just from my point of view I looked as if something was going on by we soar things out and I’m still with him. But four months down the line to now I went on his phone and read their texts.. And when I was done I cried to the point where I was shaking and couldn’t breathe.. I just feel like they have too much history for us to exist. She usually gets really depressed because shes go I through a lot and I guess uses him to comfort her. One time he called her his princess after she told him a bunch of emotional stuff. She has issues with her own bf and cheating and vents out to him about it and he always says she deserves better.. she even once out of the blue tested him and said I should’ve said yes to you. . I dont know I she meant like if he asked her out.. but after that first fight him and I had he swore that he never has had any romantic feelings for her. They also fight a lot.. by then make uo really quickly and then say they love each other. And she says he’s constantly on her mind. And apparently she and previous boyfriends have had issues with her and my boyfriend’s friendship and they have nearly broken up ice it.. she also we him this risky photo once out no where, totally random. But she was sitting down in front of the mirror wear I clothes but her skirt was the same length as her undies.. he never replied to her though and completely ignored it.. I also feel like because she drinks, smokes and swears unlike me but alot like him maybe they’re more alike and conpatable..I really need as much advice as possible please help me xx

    • Trish

      I know I am late but oh my God i am currently in the same situations except that I haven’t gone through their texts oh my God what will I do ? What happened between you two?

  • Zintle

    Reading your comments guys freaks me out,I’m not a jealous person but lately I feel so jealous n stressed about my boyfriend n his girl BFF. I have a boyfriend n we’ve been dating for two years now. What I know is that he has a girl as his BFF n before he dated me he wanted to date her, only to find out that she had a boyfriend that’s why he couldn’t propose love to her. Then I came to the picture, he never told me about his BFF until one day I payed him a surprise visit n found them in his room chilling. When the girl saw me she was surprised n I was also surprised, eventually she left n I asked him about her, he told me that it was his BFF n told me all about her. When time goes on I found out his BFF was no longer talking to him because he didn’t tell her about me but when time goes on he told her about me n now she knows everything about me. But now these two are back together, but she respect me a lot n she comes to my room n greets when I visit my boyfriend n we sit all three of us n chat I don’t have a problem with that. The problem is they hang out together a lot lately. They even go to places together n they do most of things together n he tells her everything he does n she tells him everything she does, she even told my boyfriend she no longer have feelings for her boyfriend what is that? What really worries me is that I don’t trust both of them when they re together. Any advise people

  • Dani

    I need advice. I’m not sure if I’m doing anything right.. Anyways, I’m in a online relationship. I was friends with my boyfriend for 4 years and he’s been best friends with his bff for 5. We just started dating a few months back. I’m a very jealous girlfriend, but I respected he had a girl best friend. I started to not be okay with it when he would compare me to her whenever we argued. He kinda stopped now. He told me they kinda dated before. I guess she liked him but he never liked her (I think is a lie because he shows emotion for her like he likes her). So I didn’t want him talking to her because I felt she was a threat to our relationship and he won’t. I’ve just ignored that and said whatever. I’m tried of stressing over this irrelevant girl so I ask my BF to talk to her and get to know her because maybe if I get to know who the person she is I’ll accept her more. He did not like that at all tho. He flipped. Started saying that I’m invading his privacy and space. He threatened to talk to some of my family and friends. He kept saying “don’t talk to her” and I asked him why and what he was hiding from me but he won’t tell me. He says they talk ‘some times’ but I know he they talk a lot. What should I do? Should I break up with him for being so shady? Or am I over reacting??

  • Milkshake23

    Yupppppp, definitely,like i cant take it anymore. Can someone please give me feedback on what i should do, honestly with no clouded judgements. Me and my ex were trying to rebuild our relationship back to our loving phase but it always seems like we couldnt connect as much as we used to. Surely he has this friend for over 8years and they live in the same neighborhood , mind you they used to have sexual relations before so i told him he had to cut that off if he wanted any trust from me. and i know for a fact they connect on another level, hes always liking and following up on her feeds, he knew i didnt like that but someway he would do it every few months. I dont understand whats going on, im no where near blind to a situation but i will never let it pass me either. So i caught him one day still following up on this girls feed even after everything. So we got into a physical altercation and things got bad. After some time of him not associating with her as much.. she found a boyfriend, she looks happy, sounds happy, great. But now that we are trying to rebuild our relationship, he still hanging our with her and shes making their pictures on social media her main pictures at times. It also looks like they are really close, smiling, almost like hes blushing, something that he doesnt do for me as much. Wtf is going on with them. I want some clarity and i know i wouldnt get it from them.

  • hailey

    theres a guy i really like right now, he’s so amazing…. but he used to be in love with his female best friend. he talks to her all the time, which is fine… but whenever she starts talking about guys shes involved with he comes back to me saying he feels “off”. I’m not 100% sure what to do here. It makes me kind of afraid to move forward, cause I don’t want to get hurt….

  • Stanley

    my fiance had amale bf2f, that she talk to for tonight all the way tomorning saying I love you ans all then have the nerve to be jealous when I.have a female bff?

  • Sophie

    So my boyfriend and i have been together for a year anx this is my first long term relationship and long distance relationship but he has a best friend who is a girl and grew up since they were 7 and he says he feels like a brother to her but they constantly hangout and he texts her more than he texts me. He used to live in MI then we moved to Tx to be with his dad he couldn’t be away from her for more than 8 months and im stuck here in Tx with family and hes back up there with her but he says hes coming back for me n May . She hates me and i hate her we tried to get along once but she ruined that and almost got me and my boyfriend broken up. But heres the strange twist she has a boyfriend of her own and theyve been together for 4 years and her boyfriend is my boyfriends other best friend all three of them hang out 24/7 and even tho im here in tx he never texts me after work we talk for 10mins at night before he says hes tired and wants to go to bed…. im going up there for spring break idk how much ill get to see him and idk if i should break it off or try to hold on. He says hes trying to change the way hes been treating me but he used to have a crush on his girl best friends sister and he texts her too. But he says thats an old thing of the past. Im so confused & want help.

  • Francesca0_o

    He never loved you, that happening twice says that alone. You loved him and you probably still do. He doesn’t love you and he doesn’t respect you. Put yourself in that place and would you do the same thing to him? Would you do it if you felt it would hurt him? No you wouldn’t because you would never hurt someone you want. You wouldn’t want them to ever feel that kind of pain.

  • Evita Mutsatsou

    wow having read all those comments I realise how disgusting men can be , I mean they may get involved with a woman, live with her, even have a baby with her and still have feelings for someone else. It’s really hurtful to see it and infuriating when they deny it. I broke up with my boyfriend of one month because of his girl “best friend” -he watched the movie we were going to see together with her instead, how fucked up is that?- and now I realise that however close we could have got she would always be in the way. I’m so relieved I ended things, I’m really sorry for the girls in a similar situation especially those with the babies… I wish your man changes!! But if he doesn’t and you are hurt in the relationship, whatever the reason, you better let go you deserve better!! Let him know how you feel and if he doesn’t fix things dump his ass!! Better single and calm than with someone who hurts you, that’s my opinion!

    • Ronda

      Hi there, I have or had a bf I loved deeply, last mouth we went on a sunset trip together me,, him and his bbf, we walking and his walking 5 steps in front of me, she like 7steps behind me, then he saw the sunset and he called her name it loud come see the sunset with me, I shattered just there. I told him how I felt and he said that I’m threatened by her. I’m not it would gaff been nice if he had to call me for the sunset. I broke up with him but then I begged him back.
      Last week I got told she’s sleeping over for a week and that his daughter can’t be there, I told him I don’t like that idea, then started getting all defensive, I didn’t accuse him of anything I just said I don’t like the idea. Next day I asked to meet up with him to talk about it, he didn’t text me back so I thought no man I have to let go, cause it seems like something is going on. Then sent him a break up message because I’m hurt that he didn’t respect me, and he sent me a horrible message that he can see I’m threatened, I just wanted him to respect our relationship and her. Now he fone and I miss him so badly. He blocked me from every social connection.

      • Evita Mutsatsou

        never go back to a sick situation like this. what kind of guy asks a friend to see the sunset when their girlfriend is around? not normal, and he tries to make you fee like it is your problem, the same way my ex did with me. this kind of person does not deserve your time let alone your feelings

  • annie

    I dated a man for two years, who had a female friend. They texted, they talked, they emailed each other. She lives in another province. They would visit when he went there. Well, he never told her we were together. He stated it would change their friendship, that it is difficult for men and women to just be friends, and that if he told her it would change their friendship. He also had a ex fiance who broke his heart. She tried to get back together with him. Near the end when they spoke I asked him did you tell her that you are involved with someone. He said no. His reason for neither knowing about me is that our relationship is private. At first I hung around and waited when I realized that it wasnt going to change, I distanced myself emotionally and physically. Now we are done. I should add though that I did meet his family and friends in our province. I am pretty sure that none of them knew about his communication with the other two important women of their lives. I know his family didnt know for sure. Did I make too much a big deal of this?

  • Amy

    Hi, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months and things are starting to progress as he wants to move in together and I am open to it as I love him. I have a daughter and she is 7 y.o. and he is good with her.

    Well we have been arguing lately as he has a girl best friend that I have only met once and that was by chance as she was in the same place we were. Two months ago we broke up and when I went to his house to talk to him, his best friends car was outside and I looked through the window and she wasn’t any where to be found and he always sleeps on his couch unless I am there and we sleep in his bed. As we were broke up I couldn’t really be mad but when I came in the house she was in his daughters room and never came out, so I went off and he swore up and down nothing happened between she was just there in his daughters room and he made up with me we got back together. I since have learned from his daughter that they have always had a weird relationship and no one really ever knew if anything happened between them but he did have feelings for her in the beginning of their friendship 10 years ago. I guess what I’m looking for is advice as I believe that he wants to keep us awary from each other but he claims she doesn’t want to be around as he had problems in a previous relationship due to their friendship. The story is consistent about them and I think he just doesn’t want to come clean and say he wanted her but she didn’t want him. What should I do??

  • Carroline

    Well I go to the same school as my boyfriend and he has a girl bestfriend that he’s of course realy close to , and the worse part is that me and his bestfriend completely hate eachother . She’s always hanging out with him and sometimes when she’s with him she looks at me in a type of way saying “haha I have ur boyfriend” and that tealy bothers me bc he won’t do anything about it all he tells me is “don’t worry babe she won’t do anything , I don’t like her ur the only gurl I love …” And blah blah , but the thing is he made me stop talking and hanging out with my best guy friend bc he completely hated him to but he won’t stop hanging out with her

    • XNDR

      Well, don’t go complaining about it. I mean, why would you stop talking to your BGF if he won’t stop to his BGF? If you’re that upset then break up with him. I mean, I know it’s tough, but really? I wouldn’t be with any guy that denied me a friendship with someone, but kept their own friendship. If I hated the girl that my guy was friends with then I don’t think we’d be together for long if he kept on hanging out with her.

  • sally

    My boyfriend has a best female friend that has a husband and they only talk on the odd occassion. Im always included if we go out as couples. he met them as a couple 20 years ago so really i cant complain, but its natural to get jelous and protect your man. We would only see them twice a year. Got rid of his other female that used to work with him! She was single and in his face all the time. Im not interested in putting up with shit in my life anymore.