10 Signs Your Boyfriend Has A Crush On His Girl Best Friend

Feelings of jealousy almost always go hand-in-hand with relationships, no matter how much you trust and love your boo. It happens, especially when your boyfriend has a lot of friends who are girls… and it happens even more when your boyfriend has a best friend who’s a girl.

We get a ton of questions from you guys on a daily basis about boyfriends who have BFFs who are girls. A lot of you are worried about one thing in particular: that he might have a secret crush on her. While it’s totally possible for your boyfriend to have a completely platonic relationship with his girl BFF, it’s also possible that he could be harboring a secret crush on her. But it can be difficult to tell the difference when you’re already feeling jealous and emotional, so that’s where I come in.

I’m not trying to make you guys nervous or freak you out – but if you feel like your boyfriend might be crushing on his best friend, there are some signs you can look out for it. I have personally been in this situation – one of the reasons I broke up with my ex is because he was emotionally cheating on me with his BFF. So, I’ve been there and I know what to watch out for. If you’re in the same sitch, read on to find out if your boyfriend is crushing on this girl… or if their friendship is totally innocent.

Are you dating a guy with a girl best friend? Do you think he likes her? Has a guy ever left you for his best friend? Do you think I’m right? Tell me in the comments.


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  1. avatarWondering says:

    I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a while back ago he told me he had this 2 year long crush on his best friend. He tried to make it really obvious that he liked her but she didn’t show any signs of liking him back and ended up dating another boy. He says he gave up but even now he puts her before me a lot. At night if we run into her and shes walking home, he tells me to go home first and walks her back home. The thing is, I still have to walk too and I’ve suggested coming along but he always says no and to go home first. At school hockey games, he would focus his attention on her and rarely talk to me, usually to ask if I’m bored. Well, I’m sitting here watching by myself while he talks to his best friend. I’m not a huge fan of hockey but I come with him because it’s something he enjoys, but I feel like a third wheel. I don’t know her very well and my boyfriend’s not very keen on the two of us hanging out… I don’t know if I’m over analyzing or anything but my heart plummets every time he mentions he’s been with her alone.

  2. avatarJK says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now, but I have know him for several years now and we dated for 5 months before being romantically involved. Our families know eachother and were serfiously commited to each other. Ive always known he’s had a girl best friend, but I have never really seen them interact together. It bugs me that we have never gone out the three of us and yet my bf and I have had arguments about her. One of the first arguments we had was becsause he would go tell her right away if we had a problem and still does. He always just tells her about our arguements and not about our good times. I also feel sometimes like what he might have a secret crush on her and doesnt even know it. It happened to us. We were around eachother several times for the several years we knew eachother didnt like eachother and then all of a sudden we had an attraction . I am just worried that this might happen, becasue she is the best friend and he says ” the first person he goes to when he has a problem he needs advice about.” Another is that, two times as we were about to have sex I could tell his mind was not in it and I asked him if he was worried about her and yeup he was. One time because she thought she could be pregnant and second becasue she was out drinking after she and her boyfriend broke up. I let this go becsaue I felt well my boyfriend is sensative kind of guy and he really might just be concerned, but then something else happpened. A week before his birthday we had a huge argument and it was my fault I have to admit , but after two days we were ok. The next weekend we go camping and he falls asleep like really just knocks out. I know it’s wrong , but I have had past experiences where the feelings are right about this sort of stuff. I mean I do really believe guys and girls are capable of being friends, but sometimes theres an odd feeling and I cant deny it. So I looked into his phone at first I just looked at photos of our day camping and I noticed he had screen shots of our arguments. I thought it was wierd. Then I decide to look at his messages with his best friend and what I see makes me upset. He had foward her all the screen shot of our arguments. She told him I was crazy and stupid and that he should break up with me. Keep in mind she has never met me and all she knows is about our argements. I also found pictures with dates on them. One of the dates on the pic was a night he went out with her and he had told me he went out with his guy friends. I dont know if he told me he was going out with his guy friends because he was afraid I would get mad. He has been best friends with her for a few years now and I dont want to break up their friendship, but I feel he might have a secret crush on her. Though, he treats me really well and shows he loves me. I am confused and do not know what to think. I dont feel it is her fault that she feels mad towards me I just feel he is not giving me and her a chance to meet eachother. I dont know what to think about this..

  3. avatarStacy says:

    I’ve been together with my bf for about a year and he has this friend who happens to be a girl anyone he ran into her the other day and forgot to tell me instead he waits three days later to tell me anyone I asked him y didn’t u tell me that he didn’t have to tell me anyone we got into a big fight over this and so I asked him if he has feelings for her he didn’t answer me he’s always takin her side defending her

  4. avatarAlyssa says:

    Ugh. Reading these comments are upsetting. Thanks for the advice. I feel so upset. I’ve been dating my fiancé for four years, and we’ve had a lot of problems with his female best friend. Our first year together was TERRIBLE. We always fought about her. He really liked her and defended her. But the sad part is that this girl is literally PERFECT. It’s not comforting. She’s really thin, beautiful, tall, smart (graduated with a physics degree in THREE years with a 4.0 GPA) and she’s fun. Or at least he thinks she is. He used to really like her, but she “didn’t” like him. So they became best friends. Then a couple years later, I came into the picture. He would compare me to her a lot at first, but slowly he changed. He wouldn’t text her as much anymore or hangout with her. But this girl didn’t stop. She always texts him first and she won’t leave him alone. She has a bf, yet she’s always acting weird. Recently they started talking again. And I don’t know what to do. I feel so in love with him, but she’s the poison in our relationship.

  5. avatartemptedbeauty says:

    My bestfriend is the father of my child. 3 years old, we have been this way is we were 16 we are 23 years old now. we are not together at one point we were back in the day. he tells me loves me every time we speak and how much he appreciates me, when he has a problem he comes to me. to his guys i am the best friend not the baby momma .. and the other 2 baby mommas they are baby mommas.. when we loose contact i get moody and i feel like he forgets me. he has always showed something that there is something more, but i really dont want to mess up the bond that we have together for our childs sake. i don’t know what to do i love him more then he knows. well he does know. thats the scary thing. i don’t know what to do please help.

  6. avatarRebekah says:

    Hello, Thank you for your advice! It meants alot to me but i want to tell you about my specific situation. My Boyfriend who i have been dating for 3 months now has this best friend who is really close to him. She went to prom with him because she was dealing with some issues of another break up with a nother dude, so my BF wanted to help her situation by going to prom with her as a friend. He doesnt talk much about her in person, but he texts her so much. I even saw a text message between them saying “oh jo, i havent texted you all day!” and they snap chat each other most of the time. He tells me im his equal and loves me, but then he tells me that shes closer to him. I honestly don’t know that difference. I feel like shes blocking away from my BF and I when we share life with one another. She needs to get a girl bestfriend. i cannot stand it, but shes friendly and nice to me, i feel shes a different person when shes with my boyfriend though. I know people say, ” oh people have different relationships with other people” but I get so suspicious.

  7. avatarash says:

    My bf has this girl as a friend that he texts a lot, which is his ex gf best friend. Weird huh?! Well sometimes he be acting weird somedays ive noticed the days he talks to this girl. Also she be sending him pictures. Everytime i ask him what they talk about he just says they bullshit. I don’t believe it. Then i asked him one day did he talk to her, he staright up lied to me?? It just is weird.

    • avatarBrianna says:

      I know how you feerl i went threw that with my ex bf and his girl best friend was his ex gf best friend its alot to deal with hopefully this guy dosent break your heart and youll eventually find a guy that will cherish you, wont lie and not have a thing for his friend thats a girl

  8. avatarLisa says:

    So this April fools just happened and I just started dating this guy for 3 months and he made a prank without telling everyone on Facebook that’s hes dating his best friend (who has a boyfriend) without telling me. This girl btw stopped talking to him because of his views on her then boyfriend 3 years ago and just randomly came back into his life and I don’t think she knows I’m dating him or she knows he’s dating me. I find this all suspicious, I feel like he actually might have feelings for her but will never say or tell and I want to skype him on sunday. Should I worry about this, I have some twisted gut feeling about this. What should I do when I ask questions about her? Thanks gurls/guys xxx

  9. avatarMichelle says:

    When it comes down to it all females are jealous. There is a girl code u dont break unless ur into him. If he’s in a loving relationship and that ‘friend’ suddenly makes a comeback rather than sitting on the sidelines she’s out to get him. I have been that girl best friend and respectively taken a back seat and let that person live his life while I go out and do the same. Why? Deep down no girl will ever be cool with their man having a female best friend. And every girl knows this. Having the tables turned and now dealing with it being the one in the relationship I know this for sure. I was nice and welcoming and got to spend an awkward night of hearing their inside jokes and that funny thing that happened in their hotel room on that vacation they went on. Bitch is desperate. Do I think he will cheat? No. I know I am loved and mean more than her. Being of sound mind im able to see her feeble attempts at marking territory. I think my boyfriend is blind to her trying to piss me off which is okay. She can try all she wants. If ur secure in your relationship stuff like that can be easily talked about later. If u are meant to be together u will, and those once so important friendships will fade as u grow together. If ur not meant to be together then u dont need to worry either way. He’s just another step to the one who will truly give u all u need. The worst thing u can do is overreact. But that doesnt mean if you’re truly hurt u shouldn’t tell him.

  10. avatarAle says:

    I have a baby with my fiance. We have been dating for three years now. It really hurts that he is always talking to this other girl. Apparently she is very similar to him. It hurts however because he talks about her, defends her, compares her to me. When he comes home from talking to her he even tells me to do something similar with my hair. It makes me angry that he even dances with me because i can see that he learned some things from her. When we went doll shopping he even liked the doll that was most similar to her. it all makes me soo angry. I already told him how I fealt so he stopped talking to her for a while. But i still don’t trust him. I feel that he still likes her even if they are not talking to each other. I don’t want a boyfriend that does not put me first. I dont know what to do.

  11. avatarGisella says:

    I have been dating my current fiancée for almost a year now, and a lot of people judge us for it because they don’t know the back story to us.
    Well, him and his female best friend have been friends for years, since before him and I met, and he recently told me he used to have the biggest crush on her, and then continues to go on and say she is one of the most beautiful girls he has ever met, etc..
    So, tonight we had a movie night and of course she was there… It was after all at her house and he couldn’t have been more jubilant to go..
    When they look at each other, it feels like the spark between us just gets ripped out if me, and I’m instantly pushed to the side.. Always when it comes to her..
    I’m awaiting surgery and when I ask him to do something for me he gives me shit about it but when she asks, he does it instantly..

    What do I do??

  12. avatarLeah says:

    Omg Im 13 years old.My bestfriend goes out with my ex.Im starting to have feelings for him.I dnt know what to do.If i tell her she`s going to break up with him and i dont want them to cause they both like eachother.What should i d?Im clueless :(

  13. avatarSharon says:

    My guy left me for my best friend. What will i do? Pls i need advice.

  14. avatarSharon says:

    Am 25yr, i have this guy whom i have dated for 9 months, he waw my first love although we never had sex. When i travelled, his friend called me to tell me, he’s been going out with my best friend and when i comfrontd him, he didnt deny it and he even ahead to break up wit me. I still love him, tell me, what should i do?

  15. avatarKatie says:

    I am really getting upset with my boyfriend. (for the sake of circumstance i am going to change their names) I had this friend Kortney. She introduced me to my current boyfriend Evan. At the time they fought all the time but now they are the best of friends. This upsets me. A lot. He almost never calls me but ALWAYS calls her. In fact i just recalled him and he told me he couldnt because he was on the phone with her. When ever me and her get into a fight (which is a lot now.) he instantly sides with her and it hurts so much. I dont know what to do… I cant talk to him with out him going straight to kortney and telling her everything… I am so conflicted and I know he likes her. He denies it but it’s so obvious. I don’t know.. I want to break up with him but i cant bring myself to do it. I love him very much, but i know he doesnt return all of my feelings. He ditches me to go do things with her. I am slowly breaking my own heart. Who knows, i could be over reacting. I have anxiety and some serious jealousy. Please help me. I dont know what to do anymore…

    • avatarJoe says:

      I think you need to trust your gut. Let him know you are going to let him pursue his opportunity with her and you are going to move on. It might give him the permission he needs or jolt him into realizing he might lose a great thing he has going.

  16. avatarkim says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. We do live together and he we spend most of out time together when not working. He has a female friend since before we have been dating. As with many girls. I did not like her from the d tart. There was just something about the way she looked at him. After a few months of dating. She started texting him in the middle of the night. He then started to have Lund daily in the establishment she works for. I let it go until she texted him in the middle of the night again. The text consisted of he telling him how much she missed him. I confronted him about it and let him know I was not comfortable with their “friendship” he told me that they were just friends and not to worry. He started deleting texts between them so I could not see them. I found this out when he asked mecto onto his cell account to get a number he eeded off of a previous bill because his phone nubile and the number was not synced. This of course caused a fight. He told me he did not tell me because he knew I did not like her and did not want to upset me. Over the past 2 months she has been texting him several times a day. With things like “you should leave your gr8 and we can run away together” “I miss you and I know u miss me” he does not respond to these texts. And shows me many of them. However he does nothing to let her know this is not appropriate actions nor has he addressed the fact that he loves me and there will never be anything between them. I can not help but wonder if there is something between them

  17. avatartotallybeenthere says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. And the first year we were together was a very rough year. It all started with him meeting a new friend and later became a “BFF” at work. They were basically always together 3-4 times a week at work and they would go out to bars or she invited him over at times. When I heard that she existed at first, I had a “meh” feeling. But as the days and weeks went by, she would text or call him after hours, and he won’t ignore the texts or calls at all regardless of whatever we were doing together. Then later, I told him I had enough and I knew he was crossing the line. He told me that his BFF understands him a lot and she knows a lot about him and so on. There were things he never told me before that she already knew. And this is only after 6mons knowing her. I fought hard telling him that I felt so uncomfortable about her, she knew of course that this was happening and she didn’t even consider that she’s intruding. Later on she broke up with her bf after he cheated on her and that event caused it to have a rebound. They started talking more and more and he went to see her and lied about it until he accidentally told me weeks later. I was so stressed out and wanted to break up but I didnt want to at the same time. So I waited, waited, and waited…until one day I told him
    “This has to stop because I know you are emotionally cheating on me, even if you say that you don’t see her as a potential gf” he didn’t even know what emotional cheating was at the time until I showed him the signs from different websites and it hit few red flags. He deeply apologized to me, and so far I haven’t seen him text or call her. And at times Ill randomly ask to show me his phone to make sure this really stopped and it did. Luckily I know her number so he can’t just change her name on his phone to pretend. Sounds controlling? As a gf I know nobody wants a “BFF” a woman that doesn’t know her place at all.

    • avatarbrown sugga says:

      My man of 3 years has a “very good friend” . He has assured me time and time again that I am his lover and the only one in his bed but this particular female bugs the hell out of me. We work together and he is often seen around the building with her, talking laughing and even hugging. She is 10 years younger than him and he has provided emotional support to her in the past and says that she likes his view point and male perspective? I am extremely jealous and find it very very hard to deal with. He cannot understand why or how i can feel like that as ours is a very passionate relationship and has evolved into something quite intense. I just cannot help myself despite his reassurance and i do think he will end our relationship because of my constant arguing but again whilst i know he is not cheating i feel he is on an emotional level. People see them and believe something is going on with them and he says they should mind their own business. I think he is being naive and should consider my feelings and stop the friendship…

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