I’ll be honest with you guys… it took me a very, very long time to learn how to flirt. Even now, after years of practice and speaking to attractive members of the opposite sex, flirting only happens after what feels like an endless series of awkward encounters. And I mean, while I’m being honest here, I might as well just say it – every time I try to flirt, I’m awkward. It’s very embarrassing but I’ve learned to embrace it.
ANYWAY I know now you’re probably like, “Wow, I really want this awkward girl to teach me how to flirt.” Luckily for all of you, I am much, much better at writing about flirting than I am at actual flirting. It’s like, I know what to do, I just don’t know how to actually do it without doing at least one embarrassing thing also.
But seriously – if you can follow these tips on how to flirt, well, you’ll probably be a pro at flirting! Really. Like I said, I’m better at writing about this stuff than putting it into practice. But I have faith in you guys! Go out there and get your flirt on.
Pick A Light TopicFlirting should be fun and easy, so your conversation probably shouldn't be about something super serious. I mean, it can be, but at first I would say pick something light that he'll like talking about. Think about what he's into. Do you guys have the same fave band? Do you love the shirt he's wearing? Do you have a mutual friend? Pick a topic you're both familiar with and go from there. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Think Too MuchLike I said, flirting should be fun and easy. Don't sit there and obsess over every word he says and don't think too much into anything. If you're not overthinking, you'll feel more relaxed and then you'll be more happy... and then you'll be on your A-game. Don't take yourself too seriously either. If you say something silly or weird, just make a joke and laugh it off. Everyone appreciates a girl who knows how to laugh at herself. Source: ShutterStock
Make Eye Contact & Smile, Smile, SmileI know you've probably heard this a million times, but seriously, body language is SO important when it comes to flirting. Think about it: if you're sitting there, looking at anything BUT him and not smiling, you're going to come off as hard to approach and he's going to feel like you're not interested. I get that you're nervous and that's totally fine, but focus on making eye contact (it gives off confidence) and smiling (it makes you seem fun and carefree). Source: ShutterStock
Ask Him QuestionsAsking dudes (or anyone) about themselves is a great way to keep a conversation going because, let's face it - everyone loves to talk about themselves. Act interested in what he's saying and don't make the convo all about you, no matter how fabulous you are. Source: ShutterStock
Forgo Hair Twirling and Lip BitingWhenever I used to read tips on how to flirt, I always saw these: Bite your lip and twirl your hair. Um, okay, I guess those work, but I usually say ignore those things. In order to bite your lip and look sexy, you have to get it right... if you don't, he's going to be like, "Um, what's wrong with your lip?" In my opinion, hair twirling can come off as a little ditzy and make it seem like you're daydreaming. Plus, both things can be distracting. Instead, try running your hands through your hair (once, don't overdo it or you'll look crazy), tracing your finger along your collarbone (again, don't overdo it) or licking your lips (AGAIN, once!). Source: ShutterStock
Compliment Him, But Don't Go OverboardIt's always good to throw a few compliments in there. You don't have to be like, "Man, you're hot," (although if you're feeling bold, go for it, girl!). You can just be like, "I love that color on you," or "Awesome shoes!" Everyone loves a good compliment! But don't go crazy with these. Your whole conversation shouldn't be about how great this dude is. That's going to come off as desperate and a little weird. Source: ShutterStock
Tease Him And Joke AroundSeriously, this one is important. You can compliment him, but you should also tease him... and by that I mean make fun of him a little bit. Don't say anything too mean, but joke around with him in the way you would joke around with, say, a guy best friend. Be a little sassy! Guys are always a little mean to each other, so they like a girl who can play that game as well. It's fun and it takes the pressure off a little bit. Don't be a total biatch but don't be afraid to make fun of him in a lovingly joking way. Source: ShutterStock
Touch His ArmThis is flirting we're talking about here, so you'll want to get a little close to your object of affection. You don't have to sit there chatting with your hand on his arm, but if he says something funny, while you're laughing, reach out and grab onto his arm. If you're talking about something funny or surprising, lean over and touch his arm (you can try his leg, but usually that's a bold move). Basically, make it seem natural and quick - just a little something to get him interested. Source: ShutterStock
Lean InSeriously, don't be afraid to get a little close. While you're chatting, talk in a slightly lower voice (don't whisper though) so he needs to come a little bit closer to hear you. You can also just casually lean in so you guys are not so far apart as you talk. Again, make this natural. Source: ShutterStock
Leave Him Wanting MoreBe the one to end the conversation. It's a little like playing a game - if you're the first one to walk away, it seems like you've got tons of stuff to do and he's not the only thing you're thinking about. Guys like a little bit of a chase, so if you end the convo just as things are getting good, he'll be all like, "Damn, I can't wait to talk to her again." Source: ShutterStock
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Do you think these tips are helpful? What are your tips for flirting? What did I miss? Tell me in the comments!