I feel bad even writing this question, but I don’t know what else to do. I’ve been dating this awesome guy for a few months now. He’s so nice to me and makes me feel really special. I really, really like him! There’s only one problem… he has really bad breath. Like, it’s hard for me to kiss him it’s so bad. But of course I want to kiss him! I don’t know what to say to make his breath better. I don’t want something this stupid to be the reason we break up, but how can I keep kissing someone with horrible breath? Please help!
Okay, first of all, don’t feel guilty about asking this question. Your complaint is totally legit – no one wants to kiss someone who has stinky breath. Cringing while you’re making out isn’t exactly the most romantic feeling in the world. I completely understand why you’re stressed about this.
Second of all? You’ve got to work on fixing this little issue. Your boyfriend sounds like an overall great guy and you two sound like you have a really adorable relationship. His bad breath should definitely not be the reason you guys end things.
If you want to be more subtle in making your boyfriend’s breath smell better, there are a few things you can do. Start carrying around a package of gum and/or mints religiously. Pop a mint or piece of gum in your mouth every time you’re with him and always offer them up. Simply saying, “Want a mint? Are you sure?” might make him reconsider the smell of his breath on his own.
The next time your guy eats something seriously stinky, like pasta with a ton of garlic, try “joking” around a little to get your point across. When he goes to kiss you after his meal, playfully poke him and be like, “Not until you brush your teeth!” If he gets insulted, you can always be like, “What? You just ate a ton of garlic!” It sounds silly, but may help him get the hint.
If these tactics don’t work and his breath is really bothering you enough to make you consider dumping him, you may need to be a little more blunt. One day when you guys are cuddling, say something like, “Babe, you’re great and such an amazing kisser, but I’d really like it if you tasted a little bit more minty. That would totally turn me on.” Masking your criticism with a few compliments always softens the blow and letting him know that he can potentially turn you on even more may really inspire him to make some changes.
Of course, there is always the possibility that he might get a little insulted. But, like I said, if this is something that is making you think about breaking up, it needs to be addressed. Chances are, he’s going to be a little embarrassed and will probably start brushing his teeth more or something. It might be uncomfortable for both of you, but in the end, it might also be worth it.
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