My Boyfriend Has Bad Breath – What Should I Do?

Hi Heather,

I feel bad even writing this question, but I don’t know what else to do. I’ve been dating this awesome guy for a few months now. He’s so nice to me and makes me feel really special. I really, really like him! There’s only one problem… he has really bad breath. Like, it’s hard for me to kiss him it’s so bad. But of course I want to kiss him! I don’t know what to say to make his breath better. I don’t want something this stupid to be the reason we break up, but how can I keep kissing someone with horrible breath? Please help!

Okay, first of all, don’t feel guilty about asking this question. Your complaint is totally legit – no one wants to kiss someone who has stinky breath. Cringing while you’re making out isn’t exactly the most romantic feeling in the world. I completely understand why you’re stressed about this.

Second of all? You’ve got to work on fixing this little issue. Your boyfriend sounds like an overall great guy and you two sound like you have a really adorable relationship. His bad breath should definitely not be the reason you guys end things.

If you want to be more subtle in making your boyfriend’s breath smell better, there are a few things you can do. Start carrying around a package of gum and/or mints religiously. Pop a mint or piece of gum in your mouth every time you’re with him and always offer them up. Simply saying, “Want a mint? Are you sure?” might make him reconsider the smell of his breath on his own.

The next time your guy eats something seriously stinky, like pasta with a ton of garlic, try “joking” around a little to get your point across. When he goes to kiss you after his meal, playfully poke him and be like, “Not until you brush your teeth!” If he gets insulted, you can always be like, “What? You just ate a ton of garlic!” It sounds silly, but may help him get the hint. 

If these tactics don’t work and his breath is really bothering you enough to make you consider dumping him, you may need to be a little more blunt. One day when you guys are cuddling, say something like, “Babe, you’re great and such an amazing kisser, but I’d really like it if you tasted a little bit more minty. That would totally turn me on.” Masking your criticism with a few compliments always softens the blow and letting him know that he can potentially turn you on even more may really inspire him to make some changes.

Of course, there is always the possibility that he might get a little insulted. But, like I said, if this is something that is making you think about breaking up, it needs to be addressed. Chances are, he’s going to be a little embarrassed and will probably start brushing his teeth more or something. It might be uncomfortable for both of you, but in the end, it might also be worth it.

take care,
Heather

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  • Z

    @stinkydaisy I know what it feels like cos i face that too. It has made me reluctant to talk to people. @J is right. Many people think that people with bad breath do not brush or floss their teeth enough, that we have poor oral hygiene. Bad breath does not only stem from the white coat on the tongue often times it’s from the throat too (which u can’t do much other than drink plenty of water). But that is not the case. It’s a chronic disease. It’s here to stay. Just gotta stay optimistic and hope for the best. I used to get so affected by it, even cried over it, i mean would there really be a guy who is willing to be with a girl with bad breath? I’ve learned to let go and put my trust in god. Someday if it’s meant to, you’ll find a partner that will love u for u, who feels that despite ur bad breath it is worth spending the rest of his life with you, and look pass the bad breath. I believe that your other half is determined by god.

  • T

    Guys may be my advice will help you, bad breath comes from the tongue mostly, try to put decent amount of toothpaste on brush and brush your tongue as far as possible, then after covering entire tongue, IMPORTANT leave tooth paste for no less than 2 minutes then clean it with tongue cleaner (scraper), just rinsing wouldn’t clean all the residue on the tongue, buy one if you dont have, if it helped let me know, by leaving comment here

  • FLOWERFARTS

    FLOSSING HELPS! :0)

  • stinkydaisy

    Hi guys. All my life I have been suffering and insulted for having bad breath. I use listerine daily and brush my teeth after every meal chew gums and mints and it makes my breath smell morestrong and nasty. No body kisses me. I feel like I am gonna be single for ever.

    • Royalty

      @stinkydaisy sorry about that .you should consider a dentist mayb its gum deases

  • J

    Ok and what happens if you are a guy like me who has no control over his bad breath? I am fully aware that I have bad breath. It’s not a dental or hygiene thing because the smell also comes out when I just breathe through my nose with my mouth closed. I have tried many things, but nothing has worked. I have seen doctors, but they don’t really want to address the problem. So far nothing I have tried works to fix this problem. It is not as simple as eating mints or chewing gum and brushing my teeth. It has made me depressed and I have lost all my confidence. Seems like no woman will ever want me because I have this condition that is beyond my control. And I can’t talk about it with anyone because they will lie to my face and pretend like my breath doesn’t smell. Guess I am destined to be alone.

    • stinkydaisy

      I hate my life so much for having bad breath. No body gets near me

  • Barbra Jones

    Don’t feel bad honey boo boo cakes, sometimes life hands you a stinky little blessing. Just be a lady about it and handle your business child. MMMkaay. Honey child, life will get you down sometimes but it sounds to me that your problems can be solved with some Listerine.

    God Bless you honey, may your life be filled with rainbows and little angel kisses and giggles and bubbles that smell like strawberries.

    Mrs. Jones