No matter how old you are, dealing with your parents can be difficult. Your mom and dad always seem to think that they know what’s best for you, even if you don’t agree. I know how it feels to have really strict parents who never let you do what you want. In these cases, figuring out how to talk to your parents without getting into a huge fight with them can be really tough.
But, believe it or not, there is a way to talk to your parents… and it doesn’t involve a big, dramatic fight. Over the last few years, I’ve learned some tricks on how to get your parents to do what you want. Following them isn’t always the easiest thing in the world, but it’s worth it to try. So, how do you get your parents to stop being so strict and annoying and start letting you have more freedom? Read below to get tips on how to talk to them – and while these may not be foolproof, I guarantee they’ll be better than screaming at each other.
Plan Out What You're Going To SayWhen you're trying to get your way, don't go into a conversation with no idea on what you're going to say or do. Figure out exactly what you want and make a mature plan. Do you want your parents to let you start wearing makeup? Start dating? Do you want a later curfew? Whatever it is, focus on that one thing rather than everything. Write down why you feel like you deserve this. Plan to present it to them as if you were asking a teacher for a better grade - be mature about it. If they see how much effort you put into this, rather than just being like, "Mooooommm let me do this!", that will impress them. Source: ShutterStock
Learn To NegotiateDon't go into this conversation thinking you should get exactly what you want without having to compromise - that is almost never going to happen and it's only going to make you angry when it doesn't. Think about it: what are you willing to do for them so you can get what you want? Example: if you want a later curfew, offer to do the dishes after dinner every day. You're basically saying to your parents, "I want to work with you, I don't just want to get my way." Yeah, you may have to do annoying stuff, but it will be worth it if in the end you get what you want. Source: ShutterStock
Approach Them NicelyReady to talk to your parents? Don't stomp through the house saying something like, "Mom? Dad? I need to talk to you NOW." Instead, approach them when they're relaxed and in a good mood (this is important). Say, "Hey guys, can I talk to you about something that's important to me?" Start out the conversation in your most mature and polite tone. Being demanding is never going to make anyone want to help you. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Get Mad Too QuicklyHowever, just because you're being polite doesn't mean your parents are going to fall all over themselves to do what you've asked. Be prepared to hear them say no. If that happens, just try convincing them in your polite tone and making compromises. Say something like, "Can you at least think about this for a few days before you say no?" I know how hard it is to keep your cool when your parents are being stubborn, but sometimes if you give them time to consider things, they might change their mind. Source: ShutterStock
Give In SometimesYou also need to realize that you're not going to win every battle - if that were possible, you wouldn't be reading this. Know that you may need to give up and give in sometimes. The good news is that if you agree to do things their way sometimes, it may make them more open to letting you have your way other times. Source: ShutterStock
Follow The Rules That Are Important To ThemChances are, your parents probably have some annoying rules that you just hate following. But if you do follow them, they'll more than likely think you're responsible and be grateful. So if they ask that you keep your room clean, keep it clean. If they want you to do well in school, keep up your grades. If you never do what they ask, you can't exactly get mad when they don't do what you ask, you know? Source: ShutterStock
Talk To ThemI know your parents probably aren't the first people you run to with gossip about your friends or whatever, but try talking to them more on an everyday basis. Sometimes our parents just want to know more about our lives and if you include them, it may make them more open to giving you more responsibilities. Tell them about your day, relay that funny story from math class, fill your mom in on your crush. This stuff will make them happy and happy people are more likely to give in to what you want. Source: ShutterStock
Accept That You Can't Always Change Their MindsOkay, this tip kind of stinks, but it's true: you need to accept that sometimes you're just not going to get your way. If your parents are super strict, some of these tips may never work. Your parents might not budge on ANYTHING, no matter how polite, mature and responsible you are. And that stinks, but one day, you won't have to follow their rules. So make the most of it for now and keep your head up. Source: ShutterStock
Do you get along with your parents? Do you fight with them a lot? What’s the most annoying thing your parents do to you? Tell me in the comments.