I love tights. Black tights, green tights, pink tights, floral tights, neon tights…I just love tights. But I wish that my love of tights didn’t coincide with self-consciousness about my legs.
My thighs definitely aren’t slim, but my legs are long, so I don’t mind the shape or anything like that. Nope, the thing that bothers me is my leg hair.
You might be thinking, “Uh, Ashley, just get a razor and be done with it.” Well, the thing is, every time I shave my legs–and I’ve waxed too!–my legs are still covered in little dots that look like stubble underneath my skin’s surface. I used to think that they were all ingrown hairs, and that I just needed to extract them. But they aren’t ingrown hairs, they’re just…there!
I know that this is a problem that a lot of women face, especially those with very dark hair. But unlike the millions of other women who experience the same thing every time they shave, most of them don’t let that stop them from showing their bare legs out and about in public. I wish I could have the same level of confidence, because when I try to do the same thing I become incredibly self-conscious.
I wish this was an exaggeration but here is the truth: Within the past six years, I’ve probably only shown my bare legs in public less than 10 or 15 times. That’s how embarrassed I am by them!
I have friends who experience the same weird-under-the-skin-stubble-look who have no problem baring their legs (or underarms, or wherever else on their body that suffers from this) in public. I wanted to know the secret to their confidence, and one of them gave me some stunningly simple insight: “At this point, I’m like [screw] it.”
Screw it, indeed.
And within the past month, I’ve started to realize that I cannot hide my legs for the rest of my life. I mean, I think that shaving my legs is a pain to begin with and, frankly, I do it as little as possible. But summer in New York isn’t like summer in LA, and I physically cannot wear jeans or tights on a warm day here without overheating like an old Buick. So over the past couple of weeks, I’ve actually–wait for it–shaved my legs and didn’t cover them up. Sure, it was only a handful of times, but to my surprise it wasn’t so bad. I still feel boiling hot jealousy towards people with legs that look silky smooth and hairless after a quick shave, but my legs will probably never look like that. And I’m starting to believe that that’s okay.
Since I’ve started exposing my bare legs a little more often, I’ve found myself looking at other women’s legs on the subway. Sorta creepy I guess, but whatever. Anyway, as much as I see the totally stubble free legs that I envy, I see just as many women with the same problem that I have, and they’re out there with their legs out and probably not giving a damn. I’m not alone! Honestly, I’m ready to get on their level, one pair of short shorts at a time.
Do you have this problem after you shave/wax? How do you deal with it? Tell us in the comments!