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Whenever you meet a new guy who is super smooth, good-looking and flirty, you probably have to wonder to yourself: is he a player? Is this dude going to be seriously interested in having a relationship with you, or is he just looking for someone to fool around with? Is he someone you can trust or should you have your guard up? Is he going to be exclusive with you or does he want to be able to be free and do whatever he wants?
When we have a crush on someone, it can be hard to see them for who they really are, especially if that person is a player. Players are sweet-talkers. They’re a little manipulative and they know how to get a girl to fall hard. They also usually know how to lie like a pro. Dating one kind of, well, sucks. So before you start to fall too hard for this dude, figure out whether or not he’s a player. Luckily, you have this handy guide to help you. Check out these 10 signs that he’s a player:
Your Relationship Is All About Hooking Up
This is probably the biggest sign there is that a dude is a player. If he's all about hooking up, that could definitely mean that he's just using you for sex or a steamy makeout sesh. If he never asks you out on a date, test him. The next time he asks if you want to hang out, say, "how about we go see a movie/grab something to eat?" If his response is something like, "I'd rather just hang with you at my place :)" or there's no response at all, that shows that he just wants to hook up. If a dude really likes you, he'll want to get to know you and he'll want to impress you - meaning he'll want to take you out and show off. Source: ShutterStockHe's ALWAYS Busy
Sure, there are some guys out there who work a lot or have a lot of school stuff going on and they genuinely don't have much free time. But in general, if a guy really likes you, he will make time for you or at least make a serious effort to make time for you. If a dude is all like, "Oh, I'm busy all weekend, how about Tuesday night?" every single week and you know he's not that busy, get rid of him, fast. Source: ShutterStockHe Only Texts You At Night
Another telltale sign of a player? He's only interested in hanging out at night or at weird times and only for a little while. That's because he either only wants to hook up or he is trying to juggle a few different girls on a tight schedule. Also, if he ONLY hangs with you on Thursdays, that could mean that you're just his Thursday girl... which is lame. Source: ShutterStockGirls Are All Over His Facebook
Time for a little bit of Facebook stalking! Check out who this dude is friends with. Does he have over 1500 friends who are all attractive females? Warning! Does he have 85 likes on his latest profile picture? Warning! Are girls falling all over themselves commenting about how cute he is or trying to one-up each other with inside jokes? Yup, you guessed it - warning! If a dude's Facebook is all about other chicks, there's a good chance you're not the only one doing stuff with him. Source: ShutterStockHe Never Talks About Himself Or Cares About Your Feelings
When a guy likes you, he wants to get to know you and he also wants you to get to know him. He'll tell you stuff about his life and his past and maybe even open up to you - and he'll ask you questions as well. If he's not doing that and your conversation is limited to what happened at school that day or you two just watch TV without really talking much, that probably means it's because he doesn't really care. Source: ShutterStockHis Phone Is Always Blowing Up
This is similar to the Facebook thing, but this time, no stalking. Don't look at his phone - rude. Instead, pay attention to how often it goes off when you guys are together. If he's talking to other girls, it's not like they're going to avoid texting him when he's with you - because they don't know to do that, most likely. If he's constantly getting texts he keeps private or phone calls he ignores, it could be a sign that those are other ladies calling him. Source: ShutterStockHe's A Big Sweet-Talker
Players become players for a reason - they're smooth, they know how to flirt and they know how to get a girl to fall for him. Therefore, they're usually big sweet talkers. You know what I'm talking about: they know all the right things to say at all the right times and their compliments make your whole body blush. Don't fall for it, girl! If he's a sweet-talker but nothing else, that's a bad sign. Source: ShutterStockOther Girls Have Warned You
Have any other girls warned you about him being a player? It's easy to brush off those warnings as mere jealousy or manipulative tactics to try to keep you away from a guy you like, but usually, you should pay attention. If a girl you generally get along with says something like, "watch out for that guy," there's probably a reason. Maybe he played her or her friend or someone she knows. She's probably trying to look out for you and you should probably listen to her. Of course, look into her claims, but don't ignore them completely. Source: ShutterStockYou've Never Met His Friends
If a dude is into you, he'll be excited to introduce you to his friends and show you off. If he's a player, he obviously doesn't need his friends getting attached to you or anything like that. And he doesn't need to risk bringing you around only to have them say something they shouldn't. If you haven't met them yet, ask if you can. If he avoids it like the plague, you'll know something is up. Source: ShutterStockYou Don't Trust Him
In the end, go with your gut. You know this guy, not me. If something inside of you is telling you not to trust him, there's probably a good reason why. Listen to yourself!Have you ever dated a player? Do you think you’re dating one right now? What other signs did I miss? Tell me in the comments.
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